Devastating NYT article - please vaccinate your kids
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Anonymous
That’s what they tell you but not true. |
Anonymous
I am this ^^ poster. In the same Facebook discussion, this woman stated that doctors receive monetary kickbacks for administering vaccines. Not true. Both my DS and his wife are physicians in different hospital systems. For the record, there are no kickbacks, but this shows you how misguided some people are. |
Anonymous
My pediatrician doesn’t take kids whose parents won’t follow the recommendations. She had no problems with skipping certain live vaccines for my kid during chemo because that was the recommendation. |
Anonymous
Pediatricians are among the least well paid physicians. They definitely aren't getting kickbacks for vaccines. My Dad's a retired pediatrician and not only very pro vaccine in his own practice but with his kids and grandkids. |
Anonymous
People still wait in long lines for vaccines... just in places in the world where people have seen the consequences of these diseases. I spent 10 years living and working in sub-Saharan Africa and participated in lots of vaccine clinics and campaigns. Am really afraid of the consequences when this sentiment spreads more widely there. |
Anonymous
Do you cry all the time at work? People in medical dare die for stupid reasons constantly |
Anonymous
That's not a controlled experiment; it's heavily influenced by your unblinded biased interpretation of the data. |
Anonymous
How happy are the Chinese and the Iranians about that news? They don't need to do anything anymore, we're just self-imploding. |
Anonymous
Are you always such an a**hat? |
Anonymous
You don't understand why a child dying of an incurable progressive neurological disease would be upsetting to even a physician? Frankly it's the absolute nightmare scenario for most people. Slowly losing yourself and abilities and slow painful suffering. I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. This happened to a child. |
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I grew up unvaccinated in the 1980s-90s. Before you all freak out, I got myself fully vaccinated as an adult and my kids have been vaccinated on schedule. I think that what my parents did with my and my brother's healthcare was reckless, dangerous, and misguided. ...And, it wasn't malicious. So often these conversations devolve (understandably) into finger pointing about how stupid and evil these antivax parents are, how they should be criminally prosecuted or shipped off to an antivax commune.
First, these parents usually not evil. They've usually fallen prey to misinformation about scary-sounding things, like autism or the blood-brain barrier and heavy metals, or even real, but rare side effects. Stack up pseudoscience and statistically-small chances vs. a disease they haven't seen before (because, hey, vaccines worked to make them rare), and it's not necessarily surprising that their risk-reward calculation is off. My parents thought they were doing the right thing, sparing me the pain of a shot and avoiding potential autism/side effects, and it would be fine because nobody gets measles anymore anyway, and certainly healthcare had advanced since measles was prevalent, so if I did get it, I would be fine, right? Most parents want what's best for their kid and want their kid to be healthy. We're not going to change their minds by yelling louder about how we're right and they're wrong. When I was a kid, my mom taught me not to tell anyone I wasn't vaccinated, because then their parents might not let me play with them anymore. She obviously didn't intend for me to internalize the message that it was dangerous to be unvaccinated or that I should be ashamed, but that conversation was part of why I eventually got myself vaccinated. Anyway, if my family had been shunned, I wouldn't have been presented with so many healthy, vaccinated friends to counter the narrative that vaccines could damage children. Nor would I have had my annual visit to the school nurse (back when they used to vaccinate kids in school) to hear her argue with my mom about getting vaccinated. Our pediatrician was "vaccine friendly" so I wasn't going to hear vaccine information from him. When I had kids of my own, I did ask their daycare about vaccine requirements, because I don't want my kids around unvaccinated kids either, so I understand the impulse to shun these families. It just hurts me for the kids, because I know what it's like to be that kid who didn't choose this for themselves and can't do anything about it. And I don't think that shunning the parents is going to make them rethink their decision. For a long time, I didn't talk about growing up unvaccinated or about why I am so passionate about vaccines. Mostly, I didn't think my story was that interesting or consequential. Most of the pro-vaccine stories you see from people who were unvaccinated are about some horrible disease they contracted and the life-altering complications of it. But my childhood wasn't a horror story of disease; I never got a vaccine-preventable illness and my parents weren't crunchy health nuts in other aspects of our lives. It wasn't until I was much older that I realized that my story is important too: sometimes unvaccinated kids are perfectly fine and nothing goes wrong and the choice works out. Not every parent who chooses not to vaccinate is going to have to rush their kid to the hospital with measles and learn sign language because their child goes deaf. The choice about vaccinating is not a binary between doing nothing on the one hand and hospitalization or death on the other, and when we present it that way, it comes off as fear-mongering, even when those are real possible outcomes. What makes the most difference is having someone the person knows and trusts deliver a consistent message with love. With my parents, talking head-on about vaccines never worked, because they got defensive and I got angry about my childhood and it always ended in a fight. When I had my own kids, my mom tried again to share some of her "research" and I shut it down by telling her we were going to take our advice from our pediatrician. I then spent years sending pictures of my happy kids after their shots, along with an update about their overall health, which shots they had received, and what we did after the visit (napped, played, got ice cream, etc). Basically, I started normalizing it for my parents and demonstrating that it wasn't a big deal to my kids. I didn't get preachy about protecting our community from disease or anything, just shared it like I would share any other normal milestone. My consistent positivity about vaccines laid the groundwork for my parents to be open to vaccines. When my daughter was born, they refused to get a whooping cough booster, but just a few years later, they both got the Covid vaccine and I think they're also getting annual flu shots now. TLDR: Antivax parents are human; they make mistakes - sometimes misinformed, dangerous mistakes with life-altering consequences - but they're not malicious. The impulse to shun them is natural, but if you can be a trusted source of pro-vaccine information for someone in your life, I urge you not to cut them out and try to leave judgmental attitudes at the door when engaging them (vent your judgments here, instead). And for everyone else, just normalize getting your kids vaccinated. Share it like you share your kid's latest extracurricular accomplishment or that funny thing they said. You don't need to be an expert in vaccines (clearly the people spreading antivax lies aren't experts in health) to talk about why it's important to you. |
Anonymous
When you were growing up vaccination rates were much higher than they are today. You were protected by all the other families who chose to vaccinate. It's much scarier now for families with newborns too young for certain vaccines or those who are immunocompromised. It's also possible for an unvaccinated child to get a mild version of a vaccine-preventable illness--so their family shrugs it off--but then they pass it along to someone else who gets much, much sicker. That may well have been what happened to the little girl in this article. |
Anonymous
Not sure; may vary by state because different states have different rules. But even if they're not in public school, they are usually in public: church, stores, planes, etc. |
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A lot of antivaxxers pulled their kids out to homeschool specifically because they could get away with not vaccinating that way. Now with idiotic laws like the Florida "conscience exception" and Texas' cash giveaway to charters and private schools, they'll all recongregate in group settings. What could go wrong? |
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I appreciate both the utterly heartbreaking NYTimes story and the comment from the poster above who was unvaccinated as a child.
I am a public health scientist with a specific focus on vaccines and vaccine messaging. Many parents who do not vaccinate their children genuinely believe that they are preventing a horrendous outcome for their children like the one mentioned in the NYT article - that is, they possess an unshakeable, visceral, underlying belief that their kid could end up paralyzed or even dead from a vaccine. The terror is all-consuming, even if it is not grounded in the evidence. (There are also more moderate types of parents who opt out of specific vaccines, but I’m thinking less about them here since the public ire is more often directed at the former, and the former is more likely to truly endanger kids by forgoing *all* vaccines). I make a point not to cut off people close to me when I hear them expressing doubts or fears about vaccines. I say something along the lines of “I know you’re the kid’s parent, and I cannot decide for you. I hear your fears. But I am going to tell you my strong opinion - and also my real-life actions - based on the decades I have spent *actually doing the research* on this. Please consider it.” I also acknowledge real areas of disagreement or uncertainty in vaccine science and explain how we’ve arrived at current recs based on those. Frankly some vaccines are much more effective than others. I universally emphasize how critical the measles vaccine is given how unbelievably contagious measles is and the strong safety track record of the vax. Much of my previous work on stories of change re: vaccine perceptions has found that people are much more likely to actually change their *views* when exposed to peer pressures from trusted people (family, friends, elders) in their immediate circles, from listening to their doctors, or from having a scary personal firsthand experience with an illness. Mandates are an important and crucial enforcement mechanism but actually changing minds and having conversations with people is a whole other thing. |