NYTs: Older Women Are in Demand by Younger Men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was on dating apps n my late 40s, there were tons of much-younger men interested in me. I am beautiful, accomplished, thin, nice, and funny. However, that was not the reason they were interested. Younger men pursue much older women due to the mens' PERCEPTION that these women are horny, easy, desperate, and no-strings. Occasionally they also want to use the women to become more sexually experienced. The men pretend they find you fascinating etc. I scolded and then blocked them all.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm early 40s and have a big following on social media, mostly men.

Men 40s-60s are angry, bitter, say the most horrific and disgusting things, and use my page to vent about "feminism ruined this" and "women ruined that". Today I had some weird 50 year old post a multi-paragraph comment about how his former college girlfriend is *gasp* a size 8 with PCOS, and he's so glad because he's not stuck with her and has women fighting just to get a date with him (sure, buddy). Like, let it go dude, it's been 30 years.

Meanwhile I get hundreds upon hundreds of DMs from 20s-30s men saying nice things, offering to send me money, offering to help me out.

Of course this is a biased sample, and there are disgusting 25 year olds and very sweet 50 year olds. But it's pretty easy for me to see why women prefer younger men. Older men are just...bitter.

This is more about you attracting the wrong kind of person. I can only imagine the weird dynamic of an older attention hound attracting young guys who want to send her money LMAO

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am in my 40s and still get mistaken by people in their 20s for being their age.

If I were single, I would probably go younger. I feel younger men are more open-minded overall and I am more attracted to them.

Nobody thinks you’re in your 20s. Please stop. This is embossing.

OK, sure, just because it doesn't happen to you means it never happens to anyone else...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These trend articles are fun to read, but are almost never reflective of the real world outside of a few dozen people in New York.

Exactly. I'm a happily married, full time employed, 44 yo woman with two kids in Old Town and I know of precisely zero women in such a relationship. Literally none.

It's just a 2026 Cinderella piece. Which is horribly sad if you call yourself a feminist. We are supposed to feel good because younger men want to use us as a piece of ass? Uhhh, that's not what I'm telling my daughter to aspire to.

DP.

Stop projecting your sad narrow worldview on others. You must think of yourself as a piece of ass. Many people want companionship and sex. It is actually quite logical that a young man who is not ready to commit to marriage or a long term relationship looks for sex and companionship in an older woman who is not looking for marriage but for sex and companionship.

Not sure why that bothers you so much. You can all him and her desperate or whatever you want. But if these two groups are looking for the same things, it's a great match for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These trend articles are fun to read, but are almost never reflective of the real world outside of a few dozen people in New York.

Exactly. I'm a happily married, full time employed, 44 yo woman with two kids in Old Town and I know of precisely zero women in such a relationship. Literally none.

It's just a 2026 Cinderella piece. Which is horribly sad if you call yourself a feminist. We are supposed to feel good because younger men want to use us as a piece of ass? Uhhh, that's not what I'm telling my daughter to aspire to.

DP.

Stop projecting your sad narrow worldview on others. You must think of yourself as a piece of ass. Many people want companionship and sex. It is actually quite logical that a young man who is not ready to commit to marriage or a long term relationship looks for sex and companionship in an older woman who is not looking for marriage but for sex and companionship.

Not sure why that bothers you so much. You can all him and her desperate or whatever you want. But if these two groups are looking for the same things, it's a great match for them.

Narrow worldview. LOL. I was in more counties in January then you've been in your entire life. If you want to raise your daughter to believe her sole purpose here is to be for male pleasure, then shame on you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These trend articles are fun to read, but are almost never reflective of the real world outside of a few dozen people in New York.

Exactly. I'm a happily married, full time employed, 44 yo woman with two kids in Old Town and I know of precisely zero women in such a relationship. Literally none.

It's just a 2026 Cinderella piece. Which is horribly sad if you call yourself a feminist. We are supposed to feel good because younger men want to use us as a piece of ass? Uhhh, that's not what I'm telling my daughter to aspire to.

DP.

Stop projecting your sad narrow worldview on others. You must think of yourself as a piece of ass. Many people want companionship and sex. It is actually quite logical that a young man who is not ready to commit to marriage or a long term relationship looks for sex and companionship in an older woman who is not looking for marriage but for sex and companionship.

Not sure why that bothers you so much. You can all him and her desperate or whatever you want. But if these two groups are looking for the same things, it's a great match for them.

Narrow worldview. LOL. I was in more counties in January then you've been in your entire life. If you want to raise your daughter to believe her sole purpose here is to be for male pleasure, then shame on you.

Male pleasure? So you don't understand that women enjoy sex too. No wonder. Poor thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was on dating apps n my late 40s, there were tons of much-younger men interested in me. I am beautiful, accomplished, thin, nice, and funny. However, that was not the reason they were interested. Younger men pursue much older women due to the mens' PERCEPTION that these women are horny, easy, desperate, and no-strings. Occasionally they also want to use the women to become more sexually experienced. The men pretend they find you fascinating etc. I scolded and then blocked them all.

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This is such a weird take. Most men want to get bedrooms action, irrespective of age differences. It’s not an age thing, it’s a man thing!!

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These trend articles are fun to read, but are almost never reflective of the real world outside of a few dozen people in New York.

Exactly. I'm a happily married, full time employed, 44 yo woman with two kids in Old Town and I know of precisely zero women in such a relationship. Literally none.

It's just a 2026 Cinderella piece. Which is horribly sad if you call yourself a feminist. We are supposed to feel good because younger men want to use us as a piece of ass? Uhhh, that's not what I'm telling my daughter to aspire to.

DP.

Stop projecting your sad narrow worldview on others. You must think of yourself as a piece of ass. Many people want companionship and sex. It is actually quite logical that a young man who is not ready to commit to marriage or a long term relationship looks for sex and companionship in an older woman who is not looking for marriage but for sex and companionship.

Not sure why that bothers you so much. You can all him and her desperate or whatever you want. But if these two groups are looking for the same things, it's a great match for them.

Narrow worldview. LOL. I was in more counties in January then you've been in your entire life. If you want to raise your daughter to believe her sole purpose here is to be for male pleasure, then shame on you.

Male pleasure? So you don't understand that women enjoy sex too. No wonder. Poor thing.

Ma'am, this is DCUM. Most of us go to multiple counties every month as well.

[Anonymous]

Perfecting the art of the Bang Mommy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I believe you are onto something here, OP.

As a man, if I were still in my early 30s (rather than my mid-50s), I would love to try a relationship like the one in your post.

Many, many women remain attractive in their mid-40s, and this demographic would not surprise you with an unplanned pregnancy or relationship drama (e.g., where is our relationship going, my parents keep asking if we are going to get married, I want to have kids while I am young enough to do so).

You both could easily start having fun and leave it without any hard feelings.

Perhaps I'll be called a sexist for saying this but I think it's a natural instinct for women to want to have kids. So if you are a man and woman asks you this question it's morally natural. You should not feel pressured at all for being asked this question. I feel like it's natural for woman for wanting to have children and it's a totally perfect issue for them to stand their ground on. If you feel pressured by this then date another man.

[Anonymous]

Honestly younger men are the perfect for older women for the simple fact that they are more likely to have the upper hand in steering the relationship in the direction they want. What do women want? To be seen and to be heard. And a young man is more likely to compromise for you. He is more likely to compliment you. He is more likely to give you the daily dose of romance that you need. And finally he is more likely to have sex with you 5 times a day if you want to.

And also he is more likely to be impressed by whatever professional accomplishment you have achieved because he is just getting started in his career so he hasn't seen yet that many women who are successful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These trend articles are fun to read, but are almost never reflective of the real world outside of a few dozen people in New York.

Exactly. I'm a happily married, full time employed, 44 yo woman with two kids in Old Town and I know of precisely zero women in such a relationship. Literally none.

It's just a 2026 Cinderella piece. Which is horribly sad if you call yourself a feminist. We are supposed to feel good because younger men want to use us as a piece of ass? Uhhh, that's not what I'm telling my daughter to aspire to.

DP.

Stop projecting your sad narrow worldview on others. You must think of yourself as a piece of ass. Many people want companionship and sex. It is actually quite logical that a young man who is not ready to commit to marriage or a long term relationship looks for sex and companionship in an older woman who is not looking for marriage but for sex and companionship.

Not sure why that bothers you so much. You can all him and her desperate or whatever you want. But if these two groups are looking for the same things, it's a great match for them.

Narrow worldview. LOL. I was in more counties in January then you've been in your entire life. If you want to raise your daughter to believe her sole purpose here is to be for male pleasure, then shame on you.

Male pleasure? So you don't understand that women enjoy sex too. No wonder. Poor thing.

Yep, it's like that other thread where posters are ripping into that woman that she is being "used" by the young firefighters she is sleeping with. LOL. If anything, she is using them (and good for her!). I'm sure she'd be so much happier settling down with an old lardass like her critics. No jealousy there.