Dating prospects for early 50s men?

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend in a smilar situation. His target should be divorced single mothers in their 40s. There's a lot of them, and not so many men looking for that demographic.

The apps can be OK, but also meeting in real life can be a better way to get across your personality. For example, the women at your kids' school events; or any hobbies you do, etc.

Just realize since both of you have kids, which will take top priority, then don't expect to meet that often -- people are busy.

It's a target rich environment, yes, but 99% of the time for a reason. A lot of them are just delusional. They went to VA.Tech, met their DH, worked for 5 years after college, them stayed home with the kids for the next decade while their husbands carried them. They watched moronic 'influencers', rarely exercised, and turned into career -ess, middle aged women with kids who think they are entitled to whatever they want because the last time they were single they were 21 and smoking hot. Stale leftovers at best, now. But they are still good for a ride. And the put out like champs.

- signed, tall, wealthy, 55 yo never married (and never will) serial short term monogamist that almost every woman in that demographic would kill for.

Make sure you explain to them your theories.

Short term monogamist hahaha. I bet plenty of women dream of falling on his D short term. So many that he's still not married at 55 !

DP- yeah, I'd take that bet. I work with a dozen guys like this in finance. Girls are literally lined up for their turn. It's true and you know it.

[Anonymous]

I was in your position a couple of months ago, I just wanted to see who was out there. I made a profile on Tinder and paid for a month, I looked at some profiles and swiped on them and over the next three or four days I was really pleased with who liked my profile, they seemed like smart, pretty and really nice women. I replied back to the ones who wrote me that I had been betrayed and really just was there for validation and I was not what they were looking for. I deleted the account after a week, it made me feel better and it sort of gave me the strength to dive back into my marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend in a smilar situation. His target should be divorced single mothers in their 40s. There's a lot of them, and not so many men looking for that demographic.

The apps can be OK, but also meeting in real life can be a better way to get across your personality. For example, the women at your kids' school events; or any hobbies you do, etc.

Just realize since both of you have kids, which will take top priority, then don't expect to meet that often -- people are busy.

It's a target rich environment, yes, but 99% of the time for a reason. A lot of them are just delusional. They went to VA.Tech, met their DH, worked for 5 years after college, them stayed home with the kids for the next decade while their husbands carried them. They watched moronic 'influencers', rarely exercised, and turned into career -ess, middle aged women with kids who think they are entitled to whatever they want because the last time they were single they were 21 and smoking hot. Stale leftovers at best, now. But they are still good for a ride. And the put out like champs.

- signed, tall, wealthy, 55 yo never married (and never will) serial short term monogamist that almost every woman in that demographic would kill for.

Make sure you explain to them your theories.

Short term monogamist hahaha. I bet plenty of women dream of falling on his D short term. So many that he's still not married at 55 !

DP- yeah, I'd take that bet. I work with a dozen guys like this in finance. Girls are literally lined up for their turn. It's true and you know it.

I worked in finance myself, have multiple colleagues in investment banking, it’s a huge over exaggeration .

[Anonymous]

Whoever is trying to make "top women" a thing, just stop. It's cringe. You sound like my mom.

[Anonymous]

Here’s a glimpse

https://youtu.be/PutwAZwHIk8

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was in your position a couple of months ago, I just wanted to see who was out there. I made a profile on Tinder and paid for a month, I looked at some profiles and swiped on them and over the next three or four days I was really pleased with who liked my profile, they seemed like smart, pretty and really nice women. I replied back to the ones who wrote me that I had been betrayed and really just was there for validation and I was not what they were looking for. I deleted the account after a week, it made me feel better and it sort of gave me the strength to dive back into my marriage.

This is the electronic equivalent of walking into a whore house with a fistful of dollars and then walking out, telling them you weren't interested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend in a smilar situation. His target should be divorced single mothers in their 40s. There's a lot of them, and not so many men looking for that demographic.

The apps can be OK, but also meeting in real life can be a better way to get across your personality. For example, the women at your kids' school events; or any hobbies you do, etc.

Just realize since both of you have kids, which will take top priority, then don't expect to meet that often -- people are busy.

It's a target rich environment, yes, but 99% of the time for a reason. A lot of them are just delusional. They went to VA.Tech, met their DH, worked for 5 years after college, them stayed home with the kids for the next decade while their husbands carried them. They watched moronic 'influencers', rarely exercised, and turned into career -ess, middle aged women with kids who think they are entitled to whatever they want because the last time they were single they were 21 and smoking hot. Stale leftovers at best, now. But they are still good for a ride. And the put out like champs.

- signed, tall, wealthy, 55 yo never married (and never will) serial short term monogamist that almost every woman in that demographic would kill for.

Make sure you explain to them your theories.

Short term monogamist hahaha. I bet plenty of women dream of falling on his D short term. So many that he's still not married at 55 !

DP- yeah, I'd take that bet. I work with a dozen guys like this in finance. Girls are literally lined up for their turn. It's true and you know it.

+1. Girls take off clothes for guys with money. Dog chases cat and water is wet. More at 11.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whoever is trying to make "top women" a thing, just stop. It's cringe. You sound like my mom.

Ok, maybe I'll state it differently. A conventionally attractive woman with a degree that enables her to make her own money wouldn't date a 20-30 years older man. I have female acquaintances who married much older divorced men. They all either had issues with money, or were lovely girls overall but had something unusual in the looks that wasn't popular with the men in their own age group. Things like height over 6', manly looking, somewhat matronly looking etc. Unfortunately looks are important for women, and lack of such would make woman seek older partners for marriage. I feel bad saying that being a woman on female forum but that's just inconvenient truth.

I don't know any pretty career girls marrying older men. A stunning woman who makes 600K in client relationships at Goldman is likely engaged or married to a younger man of similar status.

[Anonymous]

He isn’t even separated yet FFS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whoever is trying to make "top women" a thing, just stop. It's cringe. You sound like my mom.

Ok, maybe I'll state it differently. A conventionally attractive woman with a degree that enables her to make her own money wouldn't date a 20-30 years older man. I have female acquaintances who married much older divorced men. They all either had issues with money, or were lovely girls overall but had something unusual in the looks that wasn't popular with the men in their own age group. Things like height over 6', manly looking, somewhat matronly looking etc. Unfortunately looks are important for women, and lack of such would make woman seek older partners for marriage. I feel bad saying that being a woman on female forum but that's just inconvenient truth.

I don't know any pretty career girls marrying older men. A stunning woman who makes 600K in client relationships at Goldman is likely engaged or married to a younger man of similar status.

To add, of course, a hot woman might sleep with an older guy for promotion and connections but these relationships usually don't end up in marriage or LTR. Look at Coldplay cheaters: it gives an idea of what the 50 something (rather handsome) man can expect in dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was in your position a couple of months ago, I just wanted to see who was out there. I made a profile on Tinder and paid for a month, I looked at some profiles and swiped on them and over the next three or four days I was really pleased with who liked my profile, they seemed like smart, pretty and really nice women. I replied back to the ones who wrote me that I had been betrayed and really just was there for validation and I was not what they were looking for. I deleted the account after a week, it made me feel better and it sort of gave me the strength to dive back into my marriage.

This is the electronic equivalent of walking into a whore house with a fistful of dollars and then walking out, telling them you weren't interested.

Yes, an almost perfect description of what I did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is bleak for 50s men. I am a late 40s divorced woman with kids. I’ve been divorced for six years. I’m not interested in remarrying or cohabitating ever again. I have two children and an amicable coparenting relationship with their dad who is in his 50s. He even admitted to me that it’s way easier for me than it is for him he makes decent money. He’s more attractive than most people who are in their 50s, but he’s not interested in having a second family and he’s not interested in marriage.

When I date, I date men who are 15 to 20 years younger than me. I would not consider dating somebody my own age or older.

In my experience, most women, my age were divorced, who have their own income are not interested in dating or marrying men their age or older because they don’t need their money.

I'm a man and could have written this post with genders reversed. I find dating easy. I find choosing the kind of relationship I want hard. Yes, there are some women my age who only date younger and hotter men. I've had my share of disappointments. But the rebounds have been good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend in a smilar situation. His target should be divorced single mothers in their 40s. There's a lot of them, and not so many men looking for that demographic.

The apps can be OK, but also meeting in real life can be a better way to get across your personality. For example, the women at your kids' school events; or any hobbies you do, etc.

Just realize since both of you have kids, which will take top priority, then don't expect to meet that often -- people are busy.

My boss is an SVP at a F500 company, and he has no problem with dating in his early 50s. Most of the women he dates are in the late 20s or early 30s. His two adult kids are currently in college. He is currently engaged to a 28-year-old woman, no kids, who used to work in the finance department. He used his network to find her another job with another company. For men in their early 50s with $$$ and status, it is very easy in the dating game.

Most men in their 50s who already have kids won't want another set. I can't imagine running around after toddlers at that age -- it's physically taxing. Or showing up to their high school graduation whne you're in your 70s.

Most? No, but there are a decent number of guys of a certain type (that age with $$$) who want a do-over family because they’re sure that whatever made them divorce and have a crappy relationship with their kids is entirely the fault of wife #1. Wife #2 is sure of that as well, because who wouldn’t love such a Good Guy. Obviously that evil harpy witch is to blame. Of course this time will be better. Until it’s not and he moves on to wife #3. He was never going to chase toddlers, he didn’t do it the first time, either. It only gets marginally harder after wife #2, but if there’s enough money, he’ll be just fine.

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You think a hot, late 20s woman is going to be content to play stepmom and not have her own kids? Especially if her new husband has money and is way older?

Please get your head out of the sand.

Yes, plenty of old guys in Beverly Hills with mid to late 20s women, and they are also stepmoms. Both of my brothers happen to be in that situation.

Weird. I have several girlfriends in Beverly Hills. They all married late 40s men when in their mid to late 30s. The men are wealthy and on second marriage. A 10 years age gap is common, but 20s women marrying 50yo is more of exception. Are you sure the women were not sugaring as a main profession, before marrying your brothers ?

One of my brothers, who is 53, is a TV producer. He met his 28-year-old wife through my other brother, who is 51 and works as a casting director. My sister-in-law is now an attorney. That same brother met his 27-year-old wife when she auditioned for a role in one of his films, and she is now an accountant. Both of my brothers are ordinary people, but their professional status and financial stability naturally make them attractive to women, especially young women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend in a smilar situation. His target should be divorced single mothers in their 40s. There's a lot of them, and not so many men looking for that demographic.

The apps can be OK, but also meeting in real life can be a better way to get across your personality. For example, the women at your kids' school events; or any hobbies you do, etc.

Just realize since both of you have kids, which will take top priority, then don't expect to meet that often -- people are busy.

My boss is an SVP at a F500 company, and he has no problem with dating in his early 50s. Most of the women he dates are in the late 20s or early 30s. His two adult kids are currently in college. He is currently engaged to a 28-year-old woman, no kids, who used to work in the finance department. He used his network to find her another job with another company. For men in their early 50s with $$$ and status, it is very easy in the dating game.

Most men in their 50s who already have kids won't want another set. I can't imagine running around after toddlers at that age -- it's physically taxing. Or showing up to their high school graduation whne you're in your 70s.

Most? No, but there are a decent number of guys of a certain type (that age with $$$) who want a do-over family because they’re sure that whatever made them divorce and have a crappy relationship with their kids is entirely the fault of wife #1. Wife #2 is sure of that as well, because who wouldn’t love such a Good Guy. Obviously that evil harpy witch is to blame. Of course this time will be better. Until it’s not and he moves on to wife #3. He was never going to chase toddlers, he didn’t do it the first time, either. It only gets marginally harder after wife #2, but if there’s enough money, he’ll be just fine.

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You think a hot, late 20s woman is going to be content to play stepmom and not have her own kids? Especially if her new husband has money and is way older?

Please get your head out of the sand.

Yes, plenty of old guys in Beverly Hills with mid to late 20s women, and they are also stepmoms. Both of my brothers happen to be in that situation.

Weird. I have several girlfriends in Beverly Hills. They all married late 40s men when in their mid to late 30s. The men are wealthy and on second marriage. A 10 years age gap is common, but 20s women marrying 50yo is more of exception. Are you sure the women were not sugaring as a main profession, before marrying your brothers ?

One of my brothers, who is 53, is a TV producer. He met his 28-year-old wife through my other brother, who is 51 and works as a casting director. My sister-in-law is now an attorney. That same brother met his 27-year-old wife when she auditioned for a role in one of his films, and she is now an accountant. Both of my brothers are ordinary people, but their professional status and financial stability naturally make them attractive to women, especially young women.

they are not ordinary people, they have very unique careers. "especially young women" makes zero sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend in a smilar situation. His target should be divorced single mothers in their 40s. There's a lot of them, and not so many men looking for that demographic.

The apps can be OK, but also meeting in real life can be a better way to get across your personality. For example, the women at your kids' school events; or any hobbies you do, etc.

Just realize since both of you have kids, which will take top priority, then don't expect to meet that often -- people are busy.

Why does his “target” have to be ten years younger?