Dating prospects for early 50s men?

[Anonymous]

Asking for a friend of course. He's been out of the market for 20+ years, married, two kids, never did any online dating and doesn't know what's out there. Still married and not yet separated, but moving in that direction. OK looks, OK income, in shape. What can he expect? And where to start?

[Anonymous]

With a divorce, duh.

[Anonymous]

Start by at least separating, FFS.

A lot depends on the ages of his kids and how easy or difficult the kids are.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend in a smilar situation. His target should be divorced single mothers in their 40s. There's a lot of them, and not so many men looking for that demographic.

The apps can be OK, but also meeting in real life can be a better way to get across your personality. For example, the women at your kids' school events; or any hobbies you do, etc.

Just realize since both of you have kids, which will take top priority, then don't expect to meet that often -- people are busy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend in a smilar situation. His target should be divorced single mothers in their 40s. There's a lot of them, and not so many men looking for that demographic.

The apps can be OK, but also meeting in real life can be a better way to get across your personality. For example, the women at your kids' school events; or any hobbies you do, etc.

Just realize since both of you have kids, which will take top priority, then don't expect to meet that often -- people are busy.

My boss is an SVP at a F500 company, and he has no problem with dating in his early 50s. Most of the women he dates are in the late 20s or early 30s. His two adult kids are currently in college. He is currently engaged to a 28-year-old woman, no kids, who used to work in the finance department. He used his network to find her another job with another company. For men in their early 50s with $$$ and status, it is very easy in the dating game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend in a smilar situation. His target should be divorced single mothers in their 40s. There's a lot of them, and not so many men looking for that demographic.

The apps can be OK, but also meeting in real life can be a better way to get across your personality. For example, the women at your kids' school events; or any hobbies you do, etc.

Just realize since both of you have kids, which will take top priority, then don't expect to meet that often -- people are busy.

My boss is an SVP at a F500 company, and he has no problem with dating in his early 50s. Most of the women he dates are in the late 20s or early 30s. His two adult kids are currently in college. He is currently engaged to a 28-year-old woman, no kids, who used to work in the finance department. He used his network to find her another job with another company. For men in their early 50s with $$$ and status, it is very easy in the dating game.

Congratulations - he’s en route to a new set of kids, while most other 50s men are enjoying retirement and travel with their grown up kids.
Not really sure if a new uterus is worth it, but men know better, of course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend in a smilar situation. His target should be divorced single mothers in their 40s. There's a lot of them, and not so many men looking for that demographic.

The apps can be OK, but also meeting in real life can be a better way to get across your personality. For example, the women at your kids' school events; or any hobbies you do, etc.

Just realize since both of you have kids, which will take top priority, then don't expect to meet that often -- people are busy.

My boss is an SVP at a F500 company, and he has no problem with dating in his early 50s. Most of the women he dates are in the late 20s or early 30s. His two adult kids are currently in college. He is currently engaged to a 28-year-old woman, no kids, who used to work in the finance department. He used his network to find her another job with another company. For men in their early 50s with $$$ and status, it is very easy in the dating game.

Well with that set up, he’s gearing up to have a second family. The new wife will want her own kids. Story as old as time.

OP, does your friend want more kids? Also, maybe he should focus on separating before focusing on dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend in a smilar situation. His target should be divorced single mothers in their 40s. There's a lot of them, and not so many men looking for that demographic.

The apps can be OK, but also meeting in real life can be a better way to get across your personality. For example, the women at your kids' school events; or any hobbies you do, etc.

Just realize since both of you have kids, which will take top priority, then don't expect to meet that often -- people are busy.

My boss is an SVP at a F500 company, and he has no problem with dating in his early 50s. Most of the women he dates are in the late 20s or early 30s. His two adult kids are currently in college. He is currently engaged to a 28-year-old woman, no kids, who used to work in the finance department. He used his network to find her another job with another company. For men in their early 50s with $$$ and status, it is very easy in the dating game.

Congratulations - he’s en route to a new set of kids, while most other 50s men are enjoying retirement and travel with their grown up kids.
Not really sure if a new uterus is worth it, but men know better, of course.

Most men are not retired in their 50s, especially after a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend in a smilar situation. His target should be divorced single mothers in their 40s. There's a lot of them, and not so many men looking for that demographic.

The apps can be OK, but also meeting in real life can be a better way to get across your personality. For example, the women at your kids' school events; or any hobbies you do, etc.

Just realize since both of you have kids, which will take top priority, then don't expect to meet that often -- people are busy.

My boss is an SVP at a F500 company, and he has no problem with dating in his early 50s. Most of the women he dates are in the late 20s or early 30s. His two adult kids are currently in college. He is currently engaged to a 28-year-old woman, no kids, who used to work in the finance department. He used his network to find her another job with another company. For men in their early 50s with $$$ and status, it is very easy in the dating game.

Congratulations - he’s en route to a new set of kids, while most other 50s men are enjoying retirement and travel with their grown up kids.
Not really sure if a new uterus is worth it, but men know better, of course.

Most men are not retired in their 50s, especially after a divorce.

So what are you trying to say? They are all in a great position to produce a second set of kids ? Financially and mentally, post divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend in a smilar situation. His target should be divorced single mothers in their 40s. There's a lot of them, and not so many men looking for that demographic.

The apps can be OK, but also meeting in real life can be a better way to get across your personality. For example, the women at your kids' school events; or any hobbies you do, etc.

Just realize since both of you have kids, which will take top priority, then don't expect to meet that often -- people are busy.

My boss is an SVP at a F500 company, and he has no problem with dating in his early 50s. Most of the women he dates are in the late 20s or early 30s. His two adult kids are currently in college. He is currently engaged to a 28-year-old woman, no kids, who used to work in the finance department. He used his network to find her another job with another company. For men in their early 50s with $$$ and status, it is very easy in the dating game.

Well with that set up, he’s gearing up to have a second family. The new wife will want her own kids. Story as old as time.

OP, does your friend want more kids? Also, maybe he should focus on separating before focusing on dating.

No, no more kids. Separation is happening, he just wants to have a sense of what to hope for. Difficult times, one has to look ahead.

[Anonymous]

Don’t divorce. Get marriage counseling and make it work. Don’t listen to the bitter divorced people on this board. They want you to fail just like their marriages failed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t divorce. Get marriage counseling and make it work. Don’t listen to the bitter divorced people on this board. They want you to fail just like their marriages failed

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend in a smilar situation. His target should be divorced single mothers in their 40s. There's a lot of them, and not so many men looking for that demographic.

The apps can be OK, but also meeting in real life can be a better way to get across your personality. For example, the women at your kids' school events; or any hobbies you do, etc.

Just realize since both of you have kids, which will take top priority, then don't expect to meet that often -- people are busy.

My boss is an SVP at a F500 company, and he has no problem with dating in his early 50s. Most of the women he dates are in the late 20s or early 30s. His two adult kids are currently in college. He is currently engaged to a 28-year-old woman, no kids, who used to work in the finance department. He used his network to find her another job with another company. For men in their early 50s with $$$ and status, it is very easy in the dating game.

Most men in their 50s who already have kids won't want another set. I can't imagine running around after toddlers at that age -- it's physically taxing. Or showing up to their high school graduation whne you're in your 70s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend in a smilar situation. His target should be divorced single mothers in their 40s. There's a lot of them, and not so many men looking for that demographic.

The apps can be OK, but also meeting in real life can be a better way to get across your personality. For example, the women at your kids' school events; or any hobbies you do, etc.

Just realize since both of you have kids, which will take top priority, then don't expect to meet that often -- people are busy.

My boss is an SVP at a F500 company, and he has no problem with dating in his early 50s. Most of the women he dates are in the late 20s or early 30s. His two adult kids are currently in college. He is currently engaged to a 28-year-old woman, no kids, who used to work in the finance department. He used his network to find her another job with another company. For men in their early 50s with $$$ and status, it is very easy in the dating game.

Most men in their 50s who already have kids won't want another set. I can't imagine running around after toddlers at that age -- it's physically taxing. Or showing up to their high school graduation whne you're in your 70s.

Most? No, but there are a decent number of guys of a certain type (that age with $$$) who want a do-over family because they’re sure that whatever made them divorce and have a crappy relationship with their kids is entirely the fault of wife #1. Wife #2 is sure of that as well, because who wouldn’t love such a Good Guy. Obviously that evil harpy witch is to blame. Of course this time will be better. Until it’s not and he moves on to wife #3. He was never going to chase toddlers, he didn’t do it the first time, either. It only gets marginally harder after wife #2, but if there’s enough money, he’ll be just fine.

[Anonymous]

He can date that skank who got outed at the Coldplay concert for banging her boss.