Anyone has anything good to say about their inlaws?

[Anonymous]

No and honestly I wish I would have paid more attention to his parents/family then I did. I probably wouldn't have married him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No and honestly I wish I would have paid more attention to his parents/family then I did. I probably wouldn't have married him.

Agree 100%. MIL died in 2023. I was sad that I only felt relief. Sad for the lost opportunity. She was just awful. I was relieved. Horrible, but true.

[Anonymous]

Not a thing.

[Anonymous]

Man. My father-in-law passed away suddenly 18 years ago when our DS was an infant. I miss him greatly and am sad that my son never got a chance to spend time with his Pappy. My DS's sons personality is lot like his and he even looks a bit like him. Miss him everyday.

My Mother-in-law had been extremely helpful after she moved to our area. Helping to get the kids to practice, pickups, etc. Watching our dogs. Now that she is aging it's our turn to pay it back to her and we are doing our best with that.

Sorry that so many have negative experiences with their spouses parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No and honestly I wish I would have paid more attention to his parents/family then I did. I probably wouldn't have married him.

+10000

[Anonymous]

We've been married forever. My MIL and FIL were great. Especially my MIL. She was a saint. My FIL was conservative but principled, compassionate and generous. I can't picture him being MAGA if he was still alive Trump is just too indecent for him.

My mother is still alive. Neither one of us is a big fan of hers but it's fine.

We have three SILs. They're all different from each other but all great. And they treat our girls great. We're all getting together for Christmas (with all the grandkids) as we always do.

We're lucky. Or maybe just normal. I dunno. So much disfunction on DCUM. I don't know a lot of family IRL with DCUM problems.

[Anonymous]

I (m, 50s) love and like my mother, but to be honest get along better with my MIL. She raised my wife, so there's probably some correlation there.

[Anonymous]

My in-laws are genuinely lovely people. They go out of their way to be supportive, generous, kind, and warm. They raised my DH who is awesome to me and our children. Without my in-laws, our holidays would feel completely isolated and bleak.

I had three paragraphs of things MIL does that infuriates me, but then I reread the title of your post and deleted it. Plus, it's Christmas. I really need to focus on gratitude because isolation is far worse than warmth with irritation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No and honestly I wish I would have paid more attention to his parents/family then I did. I probably wouldn't have married him.

+10000

Same same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No and honestly I wish I would have paid more attention to his parents/family then I did. I probably wouldn't have married him.

I still would have married him but I was sooo naive. He’s the eldest son from a culture where that is very meaningful. I am constantly miles short of expectations for me (the wife of the eldest son moves in and becomes the household manager and caretaker, traditionally). I just did not understand the dynamic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell us something they did right or nice?

My FIL is who I want to be at 85. Fit as a fiddle, mentally and physically. Plays basketball with neighborhood teens… walks four miles most days of the week.

Kind guy. Old school conservative Republican so our politics are different. But at least he knows why he believes what he believes and can argue his positions in good faith.

Also, he fathered my wife. So mad respect.

I want to be him when I am that age. Except with my politics.

#goals

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately with both my mom and mil (fil is deceased and we are all estranged from my dad) the one thing that makes any of it tolerable is financial inheritance. My mom is a narcissist and my mil is a grown daughter of a narcissist mom. They can be difficult and have too many unresolved emotional issues even though they are both octogenarians.

[Anonymous]

Nope. She doesn’t help, barely spends any time with her grandchildren which is the reason she is here and barely speaks to me I can’t wait for her to and she’s not invited back ever.

[Anonymous]

Mine is here for 3 weeks which is about 16 days too long. I’m so mad at DH for letting her ruin my time off. FTR she lives in upstate NY not some far away land where she needs to visit for an extended period of time. 😡

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We've been married forever. My MIL and FIL were great. Especially my MIL. She was a saint. My FIL was conservative but principled, compassionate and generous. I can't picture him being MAGA if he was still alive Trump is just too indecent for him.

My mother is still alive. Neither one of us is a big fan of hers but it's fine.

We have three SILs. They're all different from each other but all great. And they treat our girls great. We're all getting together for Christmas (with all the grandkids) as we always do.

We're lucky. Or maybe just normal. I dunno. So much disfunction on DCUM. I don't know a lot of family IRL with DCUM problems.

I'm also someone who loves my IL's, and seems like we're very lucky. But I think on the "so much dysfunction on DCUM" point, it's more likely that you actually DO know families with DCUM dramas (some maybe just a little, some none, some big ones) but they do a very good job at covering it, which a lot of families do. But scratch many surfaces and you find all kinds of hard stuff.