Anyone has anything good to say about their inlaws?
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Anonymous
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Welcoming with no judgement.
Never criticize. Nice to our kids. Can enjoy in the moment. Could complain, but you didn’t ask that. |
Anonymous
| Loving grandparents, will volunteer to take care of the kids if we want to go to a wedding solo, generous with gifts and travel, visits often. There are cons too but overall I try to stay appreciative for all the positive they bring to our lives. |
Anonymous
| My in-laws are both passed on now, but they treated me like family. I really loved them. They were nicer to me than my own parents. From day 1 they showed me through their words and deeds that I was welcome in their homes and lives. |
Anonymous
| I love how far away they live. . . |
Anonymous
| My mother in law is very clean, and anal. She’s good at decorating. |
Anonymous
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As they start to get needy (physically and mentally frail), they are more and more grateful for me and all I do, have done and will do for them. They’ll never acknowledge the wrongs or the hurts they have caused me, but they’re slowly transforming and I know that they are coming to terms with the fact that they should be grateful to the one DIL/mother of their grandchildren who stuck around, is helpful, and doesn’t stand in the way of their relationship with the grandchildren.
They should have played a longer game, though. Had they been kinder and more grateful and acknowledged all I have given from the start, I’d be willing to do even more. But their care will fall on DH, with me acting as a support role and a way-maker for him to care for them. They will likely go into a home about 5 hours away eventually, and I’ll go as needed and for holidays and the like, but they could have had a DIL who would have done much, much more. |
Anonymous
| They are thoughtful. They are aware of their own parents’ flaws and have made efforts not to be challenging in laws in the way their parents sometimes were. They’re not perfect, but their introspection goes a long way. |
Anonymous
| Mine are kind, generous people who dote on our kids and do a lot to help us (babysitting, mainly). |
Anonymous
| My MIL texts me and my mother every year on the anniversary of our family tragedy. It has been many years, many years now (my husband didn’t notice the date this year, which was honestly ok at this point) and I don’t think she has ever missed a year. We are very different people but it is one of the things she does out of pure kindness that tells me a lot about her. |
Anonymous
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Yep.
Love my SIL. She is my kids' No. 1 fan. My kids are very lucky to have her. Love my DH's aunt too. She is sends them a card, greetings, money or something for nearly every occasion or holiday. She is their grandma on DH's side of the family. MIL and FIL used to be solid at some point in time, but it's hard to tell whether it's age-related lack of common sense or just carelessness. If you are too weak to see your grandkids( won't let the kids come to them either), you can at least say hi on the phone once in a while ( they speak to DH often on the phone). I don't hold it against them because they were wonderful when the kids were younger, but it's weird especially because part of the reason why we chose our neighborhood was to be close to them. |
Anonymous
Same, and I have two sets of in-laws. Married 15 years. |
Anonymous
| My mother in law always makes me laugh. She wanted me to be the daughter she never had (she bore two sons). Today, as she is in a nursing home, I make sure her son gives her the love she deserves. She sometimes has me do the girl tasks of cleaning, organizing, making beds while she enjoys her son and the grandsons I brought into the world. I laugh. |
Anonymous
I'm pretty sure they're going to die soon. Does that count? |
Anonymous
| My MIL and FIL have both passed and I miss them so much. They were amazing grandparents and I'm so sad that my kids don't have them in their lives anymore. I sometimes had issues with them but I knew they loved me. Now that they have passed I wish I wouldn't have let some of those issues bother me as much as I did at the time. |
Anonymous
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Yes - my MIL is great. My FIL is fine (kind of boring and grumpy but a good person)
Things MIL does right: Clearly cares about all of of (it’s clear she enjoys time together, she knows details about me and the kids, happy to babysit and dog sit). Asks my kids about their interests, asks me about my family, my job. Is not at ALL overbearing or critical. Even on things I know are hard for her (not raising kids in the church for example) she has never pressured us about. She won’t give advice unless it is invited - almost to a fault. Treats me as 100% part of their family and has from the beginning. Small example: always gets me and her other DIL personal Christmas presents on par to what she gets her sons. Every once in a while will give me compliments that show she thinks highly of me/is ‘proud’ of me. She’s not an emotive person, so those mean a lot. In short though: she’s loving, and giving, but stays out of our business |