When you go to a house party- do you expect home cooked food? Ok with Costco food?

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It really doesn’t matter if it’s Costco or homemade. It’s about getting together and conversation. Costco food is often better than homemade, if host can’t cook - and guests want a relaxed host, not a cranky frazzled one.

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Anonymous wrote:Just do a pot luck. If everyone just brings one thing they tend to go a little more all out making something for a crowd or from a known popular place. The food will be better.

Ew no. If you're hosting, you should provide the food. Don't make other people supply food for your party.

If by providing you're just buying a bunch of Costco food then you're barely doing anything. At least give other people a chance to bring something decent.

Nope. You're trying to say it's better for the guests if they have to cook themselves rather than eat costco food, but I disagree. If you're a lazy host, just let someone else host. If you don't want to provide food for your guests, go out to eat. You're creating work for your guests and that's inappropriate.

Nope. We all know everyone is busy. Nobody really wants to host and it’s a giant pain in the ass. But people want to get together. So everyone pitching in lightens the load and might make others more likely to host in the future if it’s not such a massive undertaking. Do you want more parties or fewer when people just give up because the takers never reciproate?

Is this the crux of your issue? Your friends don't reciprocate so you punish them by forcing them to bring food to your house so you don't have to do any actual work to host? I'm confused as to why you want to host people you don't seem to like (calling your friends "takers" is certainly a choice). Just decline hosting if you don't want to. I'm sure no one is knocking down your door to cook you food so... what's the point.

Nope again. I host and go to parties often. We all bring something to share. You all don’t go to parties much if Costco food excites you and you’re just happy to be invited. You don’t get out much, we get it.

I go to parties and host quite a lot. I've made all kinds of stuff from scratch for parties, like pies, chicken shwarama, Carne asada, etc.

And I'm telling you I really dgaf what friends serve at their parties. What I serve at my parties is my choice. I like cooking. Some of my friends don't like cooking and that's just fine. I still want to go over and hang out, see people and be social. I don't judge my friends by their cooking.

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Anonymous wrote:Just do a pot luck. If everyone just brings one thing they tend to go a little more all out making something for a crowd or from a known popular place. The food will be better.

Ew no. If you're hosting, you should provide the food. Don't make other people supply food for your party.

If by providing you're just buying a bunch of Costco food then you're barely doing anything. At least give other people a chance to bring something decent.

Nope. You're trying to say it's better for the guests if they have to cook themselves rather than eat costco food, but I disagree. If you're a lazy host, just let someone else host. If you don't want to provide food for your guests, go out to eat. You're creating work for your guests and that's inappropriate.

Nope. We all know everyone is busy. Nobody really wants to host and it’s a giant pain in the ass. But people want to get together. So everyone pitching in lightens the load and might make others more likely to host in the future if it’s not such a massive undertaking. Do you want more parties or fewer when people just give up because the takers never reciproate?

Is this the crux of your issue? Your friends don't reciprocate so you punish them by forcing them to bring food to your house so you don't have to do any actual work to host? I'm confused as to why you want to host people you don't seem to like (calling your friends "takers" is certainly a choice). Just decline hosting if you don't want to. I'm sure no one is knocking down your door to cook you food so... what's the point.

Nope again. I host and go to parties often. We all bring something to share. You all don’t go to parties much if Costco food excites you and you’re just happy to be invited. You don’t get out much, we get it.

You always show up with a potluck dish to every party? That's actually one of the most bizarre things I've ever heard. Someone hosts a baby shower and you're showing up with jello salad? So weird.

The thread is “house parties”. Do you want to talk about wedding, funeral, and baby shower food? You know, parties not usually at a house? Some of you don’t go to many parties and it shows.

Says the person that doesn't even provide food at hers Yeah I'm not going to take condemnation from someone who can't even provide the most basic items for guests at a party lol.

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Anonymous wrote:Just do a pot luck. If everyone just brings one thing they tend to go a little more all out making something for a crowd or from a known popular place. The food will be better.

Ew no. If you're hosting, you should provide the food. Don't make other people supply food for your party.

If by providing you're just buying a bunch of Costco food then you're barely doing anything. At least give other people a chance to bring something decent.

Nope. You're trying to say it's better for the guests if they have to cook themselves rather than eat costco food, but I disagree. If you're a lazy host, just let someone else host. If you don't want to provide food for your guests, go out to eat. You're creating work for your guests and that's inappropriate.

Nope. We all know everyone is busy. Nobody really wants to host and it’s a giant pain in the ass. But people want to get together. So everyone pitching in lightens the load and might make others more likely to host in the future if it’s not such a massive undertaking. Do you want more parties or fewer when people just give up because the takers never reciproate?

Is this the crux of your issue? Your friends don't reciprocate so you punish them by forcing them to bring food to your house so you don't have to do any actual work to host? I'm confused as to why you want to host people you don't seem to like (calling your friends "takers" is certainly a choice). Just decline hosting if you don't want to. I'm sure no one is knocking down your door to cook you food so... what's the point.

Nope again. I host and go to parties often. We all bring something to share. You all don’t go to parties much if Costco food excites you and you’re just happy to be invited. You don’t get out much, we get it.

You always show up with a potluck dish to every party? That's actually one of the most bizarre things I've ever heard. Someone hosts a baby shower and you're showing up with jello salad? So weird.

The thread is “house parties”. Do you want to talk about wedding, funeral, and baby shower food? You know, parties not usually at a house? Some of you don’t go to many parties and it shows.

Says the person that doesn't even provide food at hers Yeah I'm not going to take condemnation from someone who can't even provide the most basic items for guests at a party lol.

What condemnation? For an informal party this is quite the norm in many circles I’ve been in of people who can well afford whatever they want. But it’s fun, some people have their specialties of what they all bring, it’s low stress, and encourages the most reluctant host to host. Because the point is to just be together not to put on airs and blow anyone’s socks off. The problem with the Costco food is that it’s just so bad.

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Anonymous wrote:Just do a pot luck. If everyone just brings one thing they tend to go a little more all out making something for a crowd or from a known popular place. The food will be better.

Ew no. If you're hosting, you should provide the food. Don't make other people supply food for your party.

If by providing you're just buying a bunch of Costco food then you're barely doing anything. At least give other people a chance to bring something decent.

Nope. You're trying to say it's better for the guests if they have to cook themselves rather than eat costco food, but I disagree. If you're a lazy host, just let someone else host. If you don't want to provide food for your guests, go out to eat. You're creating work for your guests and that's inappropriate.

Nope. We all know everyone is busy. Nobody really wants to host and it’s a giant pain in the ass. But people want to get together. So everyone pitching in lightens the load and might make others more likely to host in the future if it’s not such a massive undertaking. Do you want more parties or fewer when people just give up because the takers never reciproate?

Is this the crux of your issue? Your friends don't reciprocate so you punish them by forcing them to bring food to your house so you don't have to do any actual work to host? I'm confused as to why you want to host people you don't seem to like (calling your friends "takers" is certainly a choice). Just decline hosting if you don't want to. I'm sure no one is knocking down your door to cook you food so... what's the point.

Nope again. I host and go to parties often. We all bring something to share. You all don’t go to parties much if Costco food excites you and you’re just happy to be invited. You don’t get out much, we get it.

You always show up with a potluck dish to every party? That's actually one of the most bizarre things I've ever heard. Someone hosts a baby shower and you're showing up with jello salad? So weird.

The thread is “house parties”. Do you want to talk about wedding, funeral, and baby shower food? You know, parties not usually at a house? Some of you don’t go to many parties and it shows.

Says the person that doesn't even provide food at hers Yeah I'm not going to take condemnation from someone who can't even provide the most basic items for guests at a party lol.

What condemnation? For an informal party this is quite the norm in many circles I’ve been in of people who can well afford whatever they want. But it’s fun, some people have their specialties of what they all bring, it’s low stress, and encourages the most reluctant host to host. Because the point is to just be together not to put on airs and blow anyone’s socks off. The problem with the Costco food is that it’s just so bad.

As a guest, I'd much rather have Costco than have to slave away in the kitchen to make food to bring because you're too cheap to provide anything. No thanks.

But you contradict yourself. Is it about getting together? If yes, then Costco food wouldn't matter. You honestly just sound like an incredibly lazy host, no matter how many parties you brag about going to or hosting. IMO, good hosts don't foist tasks onto their guests. Your mileage clearly varies.

This thread isn't even about a potluck, and I don't get why you keep derailing. As a pp said, if the husband in question thinks Costco is gauche he will definitely not appreciate begging guests to bring their own food.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell him to feel free to cook.

This is the real answer though. If he's unhappy with your snack offerings, he's welcome to provide his own.

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Anonymous wrote:Just do a pot luck. If everyone just brings one thing they tend to go a little more all out making something for a crowd or from a known popular place. The food will be better.

Ew no. If you're hosting, you should provide the food. Don't make other people supply food for your party.

If by providing you're just buying a bunch of Costco food then you're barely doing anything. At least give other people a chance to bring something decent.

Nope. You're trying to say it's better for the guests if they have to cook themselves rather than eat costco food, but I disagree. If you're a lazy host, just let someone else host. If you don't want to provide food for your guests, go out to eat. You're creating work for your guests and that's inappropriate.

Nope. We all know everyone is busy. Nobody really wants to host and it’s a giant pain in the ass. But people want to get together. So everyone pitching in lightens the load and might make others more likely to host in the future if it’s not such a massive undertaking. Do you want more parties or fewer when people just give up because the takers never reciproate?

Is this the crux of your issue? Your friends don't reciprocate so you punish them by forcing them to bring food to your house so you don't have to do any actual work to host? I'm confused as to why you want to host people you don't seem to like (calling your friends "takers" is certainly a choice). Just decline hosting if you don't want to. I'm sure no one is knocking down your door to cook you food so... what's the point.

Nope again. I host and go to parties often. We all bring something to share. You all don’t go to parties much if Costco food excites you and you’re just happy to be invited. You don’t get out much, we get it.

You always show up with a potluck dish to every party? That's actually one of the most bizarre things I've ever heard. Someone hosts a baby shower and you're showing up with jello salad? So weird.

The thread is “house parties”. Do you want to talk about wedding, funeral, and baby shower food? You know, parties not usually at a house? Some of you don’t go to many parties and it shows.

Says the person that doesn't even provide food at hers Yeah I'm not going to take condemnation from someone who can't even provide the most basic items for guests at a party lol.

What condemnation? For an informal party this is quite the norm in many circles I’ve been in of people who can well afford whatever they want. But it’s fun, some people have their specialties of what they all bring, it’s low stress, and encourages the most reluctant host to host. Because the point is to just be together not to put on airs and blow anyone’s socks off. The problem with the Costco food is that it’s just so bad.

LOL! Yeah right. This is college level hosting at best. Please, stop giving your "advice" to people who actually know how to host.

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Anonymous wrote:Just do a pot luck. If everyone just brings one thing they tend to go a little more all out making something for a crowd or from a known popular place. The food will be better.

Ew no. If you're hosting, you should provide the food. Don't make other people supply food for your party.

If by providing you're just buying a bunch of Costco food then you're barely doing anything. At least give other people a chance to bring something decent.

Nope. You're trying to say it's better for the guests if they have to cook themselves rather than eat costco food, but I disagree. If you're a lazy host, just let someone else host. If you don't want to provide food for your guests, go out to eat. You're creating work for your guests and that's inappropriate.

Nope. We all know everyone is busy. Nobody really wants to host and it’s a giant pain in the ass. But people want to get together. So everyone pitching in lightens the load and might make others more likely to host in the future if it’s not such a massive undertaking. Do you want more parties or fewer when people just give up because the takers never reciproate?

Is this the crux of your issue? Your friends don't reciprocate so you punish them by forcing them to bring food to your house so you don't have to do any actual work to host? I'm confused as to why you want to host people you don't seem to like (calling your friends "takers" is certainly a choice). Just decline hosting if you don't want to. I'm sure no one is knocking down your door to cook you food so... what's the point.

Nope again. I host and go to parties often. We all bring something to share. You all don’t go to parties much if Costco food excites you and you’re just happy to be invited. You don’t get out much, we get it.

You always show up with a potluck dish to every party? That's actually one of the most bizarre things I've ever heard. Someone hosts a baby shower and you're showing up with jello salad? So weird.

The thread is “house parties”. Do you want to talk about wedding, funeral, and baby shower food? You know, parties not usually at a house? Some of you don’t go to many parties and it shows.

Says the person that doesn't even provide food at hers Yeah I'm not going to take condemnation from someone who can't even provide the most basic items for guests at a party lol.

What condemnation? For an informal party this is quite the norm in many circles I’ve been in of people who can well afford whatever they want. But it’s fun, some people have their specialties of what they all bring, it’s low stress, and encourages the most reluctant host to host. Because the point is to just be together not to put on airs and blow anyone’s socks off. The problem with the Costco food is that it’s just so bad.

LOL! Yeah right. This is college level hosting at best. Please, stop giving your "advice" to people who actually know how to host.

Lol. Ok. You have no idea how the other half lives.

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Anonymous wrote:When I go to a party, I expect good conversations and good food — in that order. I don’t care where the food comes from.

Upon reflection, that’s not quite true. I care that I’m being offered something that the party hosts value and enjoy themselves or that they have chosen to accommodate the preferences of their guests. Beyond that, I don’t care where the food comes from.

So do you like the Costco food or not? Can't tell.

I don’t know, since I’ve rarely had Costco food, but I wouldn’t judge the hosts negatively for serving it.

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Anonymous wrote:Just do a pot luck. If everyone just brings one thing they tend to go a little more all out making something for a crowd or from a known popular place. The food will be better.

Ew no. If you're hosting, you should provide the food. Don't make other people supply food for your party.

If by providing you're just buying a bunch of Costco food then you're barely doing anything. At least give other people a chance to bring something decent.

Nope. You're trying to say it's better for the guests if they have to cook themselves rather than eat costco food, but I disagree. If you're a lazy host, just let someone else host. If you don't want to provide food for your guests, go out to eat. You're creating work for your guests and that's inappropriate.

Nope. We all know everyone is busy. Nobody really wants to host and it’s a giant pain in the ass. But people want to get together. So everyone pitching in lightens the load and might make others more likely to host in the future if it’s not such a massive undertaking. Do you want more parties or fewer when people just give up because the takers never reciproate?

Is this the crux of your issue? Your friends don't reciprocate so you punish them by forcing them to bring food to your house so you don't have to do any actual work to host? I'm confused as to why you want to host people you don't seem to like (calling your friends "takers" is certainly a choice). Just decline hosting if you don't want to. I'm sure no one is knocking down your door to cook you food so... what's the point.

Nope again. I host and go to parties often. We all bring something to share. You all don’t go to parties much if Costco food excites you and you’re just happy to be invited. You don’t get out much, we get it.

I go to parties and host quite a lot. I've made all kinds of stuff from scratch for parties, like pies, chicken shwarama, Carne asada, etc.

And I'm telling you I really dgaf what friends serve at their parties. What I serve at my parties is my choice. I like cooking. Some of my friends don't like cooking and that's just fine. I still want to go over and hang out, see people and be social. I don't judge my friends by their cooking.

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Cheese/cracker trays or fruit trays from Costco are fine, but I will not host a house party with entrees from a big box store. I order catering from a local restaurant if I am not planning to cook myself.

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When I go to a house party I expect to have a good time. See friends, meet new people, etc. hopefully the host seems welcome to see me and the other guests.. whatever makes that possible, have at it. I will enjoy whatever food or drinks you have, appreciating the fact that I wasn’t responsible for prep or clean up. Let the fun begin!

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We went to a party that was just serving warmed up frozen appetizers out of Costco’s freezer section. Everything was processed and bland. We left hungry.

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Anonymous wrote:We went to a party that was just serving warmed up frozen appetizers out of Costco’s freezer section. Everything was processed and bland. We left hungry.

Oh man, they were frozen appetizers *from the freezer section*? And then…the hosts like…heated them up? 🤢

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Anonymous wrote:Just do a pot luck. If everyone just brings one thing they tend to go a little more all out making something for a crowd or from a known popular place. The food will be better.

Ew no. If you're hosting, you should provide the food. Don't make other people supply food for your party.

If by providing you're just buying a bunch of Costco food then you're barely doing anything. At least give other people a chance to bring something decent.

Nope. You're trying to say it's better for the guests if they have to cook themselves rather than eat costco food, but I disagree. If you're a lazy host, just let someone else host. If you don't want to provide food for your guests, go out to eat. You're creating work for your guests and that's inappropriate.

Nope. We all know everyone is busy. Nobody really wants to host and it’s a giant pain in the ass. But people want to get together. So everyone pitching in lightens the load and might make others more likely to host in the future if it’s not such a massive undertaking. Do you want more parties or fewer when people just give up because the takers never reciproate?

Is this the crux of your issue? Your friends don't reciprocate so you punish them by forcing them to bring food to your house so you don't have to do any actual work to host? I'm confused as to why you want to host people you don't seem to like (calling your friends "takers" is certainly a choice). Just decline hosting if you don't want to. I'm sure no one is knocking down your door to cook you food so... what's the point.

Nope again. I host and go to parties often. We all bring something to share. You all don’t go to parties much if Costco food excites you and you’re just happy to be invited. You don’t get out much, we get it.

You always show up with a potluck dish to every party? That's actually one of the most bizarre things I've ever heard. Someone hosts a baby shower and you're showing up with jello salad? So weird.

The thread is “house parties”. Do you want to talk about wedding, funeral, and baby shower food? You know, parties not usually at a house? Some of you don’t go to many parties and it shows.

Says the person that doesn't even provide food at hers Yeah I'm not going to take condemnation from someone who can't even provide the most basic items for guests at a party lol.

What condemnation? For an informal party this is quite the norm in many circles I’ve been in of people who can well afford whatever they want. But it’s fun, some people have their specialties of what they all bring, it’s low stress, and encourages the most reluctant host to host. Because the point is to just be together not to put on airs and blow anyone’s socks off. The problem with the Costco food is that it’s just so bad.

LOL! Yeah right. This is college level hosting at best. Please, stop giving your "advice" to people who actually know how to host.

Lol. Ok. You have no idea how the other half lives.

DP. I know how the poors live. I grew up quite poor. Potlucks were the common denominator at all parties, because most people couldn't afford to cook for everyone in attendance. In my circles now these are incredibly uncommon and would be considered pretty rude honestly. Both the implication that a) I can't afford to host so please bring your own food or b) I think you can't afford to host, so I'm going to bring my own food to your party. Either way, it's not common where I am and might be a "know your crowd" type of thing.