Instances where adult children pose a threat to parents

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Anonymous wrote:Good friends of mine adopted a teen who ended up being so violent she almost killed the adoptive mother. They had to put her in a therapeutic boarding school in PA, it was so sad for everyone involved.

Yikes.
Sad.

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Anonymous wrote:Can parents do anything differently during childhood or are some of these kids wired differently and it's only a matter of time?

Some people show signs early but the vast majority have zero signs before age 18.

You’re not going to parent your child out of bipolar or schizophrenia mental illness. It’s very offensive to families with a mental illness sufferer to suggest that poor parenting or a hidden trauma caused mental illness.

That may not be true. For example, I recall a study where laypeople were shown childhood videos of those later diagnosed with schizophrenia along with videos of those without mental health issues and they could easily pick out who would develop the diagnosis.

It's about interaction of genetics with environment and by environment I mean anything from pollutants and chemicals to home life. Good parents get help to try to figure out how to work with this very challenging situation and it's ongoing. It foesn't mean good parents still don't have violent adults-we know that, but doing nothing or giving up rarely has a positive outcome.

didn’t work for Nick Reiner.

True.

They tried everything plus lived full lives and kept a close eye on him. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Everything is worse with social media, ai bot friends and internet influencers.

A good friend psychologist tech person is an expert witness for the AI bot suicide case. Where the ai bot coaxed the depressed young adult and answered all the suicide questions, self diagnoses, all added to the rapid and isolated (from real people/others!) downward spiral.

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People who need help don’t know they needed it.

And the certainly don’t or won’t do the first few steps towards getting help. That is rare. Usually they need a caretaker to intervene. Try suggestions but be met w belligerence, then try big time.

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Anonymous wrote:My youngest brother didn't exhibit any signs of schizophrenia until he was in college. My parents had good insurance, lived in Ffx Cnty, were relentless advocates and still struggled to find my brother help. He was the youngest of 4 and we had a pretty good/normal suburban upbringing ie dad worked a regular job, mom was a SAHM, no abuse, no insecurity etc.

During one medication change he pulled a carving knife on my parents, during another he cracked his head through a shower glass door, and during another got into a car crash (keys had been taken/hidden, brother basically tore the house apart to locate) that landed him in a coma for 8 weeks and could have easily killed someone else.

My point is it can happen to anyone and the "system" is not set up to actually provide long term help to people who have resources. Heaven help those who don't.

Maybe he'd be better off hearing voices.

PP In case I wasn't clear, he was off medications when these incidents happen. He most definitely was hearing voices. The side effects of some of these meds are horrendous in addition to not working well. So the choice is to wean off and "hang out" until new meds can be introduced. As a young 20 something with supportive parents, the "hanging out" was with my parents. Or they could have kicked him out onto the street. Insurance doesn't pay anything, and honestly there isn't anywhere to "put" him - an extended stay hotel maybe and let him terrorize others? And on the street (bc that eventually happened) meant being picked up by police and put into jail and held (for days) while things were figured out. I could go on, but not sure that hearing voices is actually a better option.