Meeting his kids for the first time

[Anonymous]

If my ex wife wanted to introduce our kids right after the divorce was final I wouldn't have an issue with that

I cannot control what she chooses to do once we are no longer legally married. I can only control my time with our kids and hope/pray that she makes the right decisions when they are with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't get the hostility about meeting kids 9 months in.

My DH dated when his daughter was small and introduced her to two of his now ex girlfriends one became a wife within a few months. She's very close to her former stepmother.

She's in her 20s now and is fine with her father introducing her that soon.

I'm wife no 3, we met when she was in college (she knew about me sooner) and it's fine. She had no issue with her dad's timeline. We just discussed this at Thanksgiving.

No one was replacing her mom.

DH met my kids early on as well. He was just another one of mom's friends who came around and hung out. When they realized we were a couple one was a little apprehensive but for a day and then it became a non issue.

Yeah, 9 months isn’t too short.

[Anonymous]

If I want to introduce my kids to my gf 1 day post divorce I am free to do so. If my ex wants to introduce them to her BF 5 mins after we are divorced she can go ahead

What's the issue?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your first meet should be no more than five minutes, max. He’s moving way too fast.

it is after 9 months and fine if the BF thinks he wants to introduce. I don't see any issues here.

[Anonymous]

I met my now husbands kids the same day I met him. I was visiting my sister and she and her family were invited to a friends home so I was able to tag along and that’s where I met them. I had a lot of fun with his kids and it was all very relaxed. We started dating but it wasn’t until two months later that I saw them again when he was taking them to a zoo and invited me to come along. They were very happy to see me.

[Anonymous]

You should not be meeting them unless you guys are considering marriage.