Does separated actually mean "separated"?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes, but definitely not in your case. He's married.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

This guy is still married.

I've dated a couple of separated guys who were very, very far along in the process. They were definitely separated. It still wasn't great, because they weren't really ready for something new. Most people need a little breathing room between relationships.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In a relationship for about a year, person is great but some things are raising flags. Says divorce is imminent but there seems to be no movement. Will not spend the night. Never seen their place. Schedule only allows them to be available for short windows of time, usually on a weekend but sometimes on weekdays and never more than once a week or every 10 days. Won't make plans more than a few days in advance.

I'm a fool right. They aren't really separated are they?

Separated legally means that someone FILED for divorce, and started the separation clock. If children are involved it’s 6-12 mos minimum legal separation.

During the legal separation both parties mediate and divide up the assets, custody time, etc, then do it.

If one party isn’t actively participating or is high conflict, both sides lawyer up and it goes to family court litigation (only 5% of divorces do this costly route, takes more time and way more money/fees).

Up to you OP. Hard to believe you’ve let this get strung along for 6-12 mos.

I’m not sure what state you live in, but it isn’t Maryland. That isn’t how things are done there.

It isn’t there are kids.

If no kids no waiting separation period. Just agree to terms and sign on them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does this guy take your phone call if you call between 6 and 9 on weeknights? Will he talk with you for 30 minutes or an hour?

Will he take your phone call on weekends?

Have you every tried to call him? Or does he insist on texting?

Did you verify his name and work place before started dating him? i.e. Does someone with his name work at the place that he says he works?

To be sure, no one talks for 30 minutes to an hour on the phone anymore.

Yes, they do. I’m in my late 40s and I had a 25-year-old calling me and talking to me for an hour to an hour and a half all the time.