Adult only destination wedding - what to do with kids?

[Anonymous]

C.

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Anonymous wrote:Send regrets. They don't really want you there.

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This is how to interpret any destination wedding. The bride and groom have every right to be married anywhere in the world they want but by doing so they are sending the message bolded above to others.

Plus they sending an additional we really don't want you to come but politeness tells us we must vibe of adding in another layer by saying elementary age children are not welcome? How big or how intimate is their wedding that children would be a burden?

For some people, ALL children are a burden no matter the size or intimacy of the wedding. They are annoying, have to be supervised, usually need some sort of special dinner or acomodation and some don't have time for that. Your kid is not another person's responsibility to think of.

Agreed! Just came back from a vacation at a very nice resort in Hawaii. Several "work rewards trips" were onsite. One had a group dinner of 45-50 adults at the fanciest restaurant on site. Many people had their kids with them. We went for our dinner--these kids (6 boys age 5-8) we running around in the lawn in front of the restaurant screaming and wild. They even chased a cat THrU the restaurant for 2-3 mins before the waitstaff finally had to say something. Th e parents did nothing.
It was obnoxious and rude to all the other guests who were trying to have dinner t this restaurant. Th e parents didn't care and the kids were terrors.

Just one example of why people do not want kids at their weddings--many parents don't parent and don't expect their kids to behave

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Child free weddings are so much more enjoyable. We are more likely to decline to attend weddings with children.

All of this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Send regrets. They don't really want you there.

+1
This is how to interpret any destination wedding. The bride and groom have every right to be married anywhere in the world they want but by doing so they are sending the message bolded above to others.

Plus they sending an additional we really don't want you to come but politeness tells us we must vibe of adding in another layer by saying elementary age children are not welcome? How big or how intimate is their wedding that children would be a burden?

For some people, ALL children are a burden no matter the size or intimacy of the wedding. They are annoying, have to be supervised, usually need some sort of special dinner or acomodation and some don't have time for that. Your kid is not another person's responsibility to think of.

Agreed! Just came back from a vacation at a very nice resort in Hawaii. Several "work rewards trips" were onsite. One had a group dinner of 45-50 adults at the fanciest restaurant on site. Many people had their kids with them. We went for our dinner--these kids (6 boys age 5-8) we running around in the lawn in front of the restaurant screaming and wild. They even chased a cat THrU the restaurant for 2-3 mins before the waitstaff finally had to say something. Th e parents did nothing.
It was obnoxious and rude to all the other guests who were trying to have dinner t this restaurant. Th e parents didn't care and the kids were terrors.

Just one example of why people do not want kids at their weddings--many parents don't parent and don't expect their kids to behave

+1

Child free weddings are so much more enjoyable. We are more likely to decline to attend weddings with children.

So do you contact the bride and ask whether children will be allowed before you RSVP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Send regrets. They don't really want you there.

+1
This is how to interpret any destination wedding. The bride and groom have every right to be married anywhere in the world they want but by doing so they are sending the message bolded above to others.

Plus they sending an additional we really don't want you to come but politeness tells us we must vibe of adding in another layer by saying elementary age children are not welcome? How big or how intimate is their wedding that children would be a burden?

For some people, ALL children are a burden no matter the size or intimacy of the wedding. They are annoying, have to be supervised, usually need some sort of special dinner or acomodation and some don't have time for that. Your kid is not another person's responsibility to think of.

Agreed! Just came back from a vacation at a very nice resort in Hawaii. Several "work rewards trips" were onsite. One had a group dinner of 45-50 adults at the fanciest restaurant on site. Many people had their kids with them. We went for our dinner--these kids (6 boys age 5-8) we running around in the lawn in front of the restaurant screaming and wild. They even chased a cat THrU the restaurant for 2-3 mins before the waitstaff finally had to say something. Th e parents did nothing.
It was obnoxious and rude to all the other guests who were trying to have dinner t this restaurant. Th e parents didn't care and the kids were terrors.

Just one example of why people do not want kids at their weddings--many parents don't parent and don't expect their kids to behave

+1

Child free weddings are so much more enjoyable. We are more likely to decline to attend weddings with children.

So do you contact the bride and ask whether children will be allowed before you RSVP?

NP
We just don’t bring kids to weddings.
Would never ask

[Anonymous]

C unless it was my best friend and my parents could babysit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Send regrets. They don't really want you there.

+1
This is how to interpret any destination wedding. The bride and groom have every right to be married anywhere in the world they want but by doing so they are sending the message bolded above to others.

Plus they sending an additional we really don't want you to come but politeness tells us we must vibe of adding in another layer by saying elementary age children are not welcome? How big or how intimate is their wedding that children would be a burden?

For some people, ALL children are a burden no matter the size or intimacy of the wedding. They are annoying, have to be supervised, usually need some sort of special dinner or acomodation and some don't have time for that. Your kid is not another person's responsibility to think of.

Agreed! Just came back from a vacation at a very nice resort in Hawaii. Several "work rewards trips" were onsite. One had a group dinner of 45-50 adults at the fanciest restaurant on site. Many people had their kids with them. We went for our dinner--these kids (6 boys age 5-8) we running around in the lawn in front of the restaurant screaming and wild. They even chased a cat THrU the restaurant for 2-3 mins before the waitstaff finally had to say something. Th e parents did nothing.
It was obnoxious and rude to all the other guests who were trying to have dinner t this restaurant. Th e parents didn't care and the kids were terrors.

Just one example of why people do not want kids at their weddings--many parents don't parent and don't expect their kids to behave

+1

Child free weddings are so much more enjoyable. We are more likely to decline to attend weddings with children.

So do you contact the bride and ask whether children will be allowed before you RSVP?

NP
We just don’t bring kids to weddings.
Would never ask

That's not what that PP said. It sounded like they don't even want to attend weddings where other children might be present.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not go, C for sure. Destination weddings are only if it makes for a fun, convenient vacation you actually want to take.

Convenient and “fun destination” are generally mutually exclusive. If this place was so great, you would have been there already. A destination wedding should be in a slightly exotic place, with the bride and groom understanding that many people won’t be able to come. No one is holding a wedding in Frederick so that it’s convenient for YOU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Send regrets. They don't really want you there.

+1
This is how to interpret any destination wedding. The bride and groom have every right to be married anywhere in the world they want but by doing so they are sending the message bolded above to others.

Plus they sending an additional we really don't want you to come but politeness tells us we must vibe of adding in another layer by saying elementary age children are not welcome? How big or how intimate is their wedding that children would be a burden?

For some people, ALL children are a burden no matter the size or intimacy of the wedding. They are annoying, have to be supervised, usually need some sort of special dinner or acomodation and some don't have time for that. Your kid is not another person's responsibility to think of.

Agreed! Just came back from a vacation at a very nice resort in Hawaii. Several "work rewards trips" were onsite. One had a group dinner of 45-50 adults at the fanciest restaurant on site. Many people had their kids with them. We went for our dinner--these kids (6 boys age 5-8) we running around in the lawn in front of the restaurant screaming and wild. They even chased a cat THrU the restaurant for 2-3 mins before the waitstaff finally had to say something. Th e parents did nothing.
It was obnoxious and rude to all the other guests who were trying to have dinner t this restaurant. Th e parents didn't care and the kids were terrors.

Just one example of why people do not want kids at their weddings--many parents don't parent and don't expect their kids to behave

+1

Child free weddings are so much more enjoyable. We are more likely to decline to attend weddings with children.

So do you contact the bride and ask whether children will be allowed before you RSVP?

NP
We just don’t bring kids to weddings.
Would never ask

That's not what that PP said. It sounded like they don't even want to attend weddings where other children might be present.

Ahhh ok
Thanks for clarifying

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Send regrets. They don't really want you there.

+1
This is how to interpret any destination wedding. The bride and groom have every right to be married anywhere in the world they want but by doing so they are sending the message bolded above to others.

Plus they sending an additional we really don't want you to come but politeness tells us we must vibe of adding in another layer by saying elementary age children are not welcome? How big or how intimate is their wedding that children would be a burden?

For some people, ALL children are a burden no matter the size or intimacy of the wedding. They are annoying, have to be supervised, usually need some sort of special dinner or acomodation and some don't have time for that. Your kid is not another person's responsibility to think of.

Agreed! Just came back from a vacation at a very nice resort in Hawaii. Several "work rewards trips" were onsite. One had a group dinner of 45-50 adults at the fanciest restaurant on site. Many people had their kids with them. We went for our dinner--these kids (6 boys age 5-8) we running around in the lawn in front of the restaurant screaming and wild. They even chased a cat THrU the restaurant for 2-3 mins before the waitstaff finally had to say something. Th e parents did nothing.
It was obnoxious and rude to all the other guests who were trying to have dinner t this restaurant. Th e parents didn't care and the kids were terrors.

Just one example of why people do not want kids at their weddings--many parents don't parent and don't expect their kids to behave

+1

Child free weddings are so much more enjoyable. We are more likely to decline to attend weddings with children.

So do you contact the bride and ask whether children will be allowed before you RSVP?

No. We might ask other attendees if they are allowed to bring children. There are many lo-key ways to get intel without drawing attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Send regrets. They don't really want you there.

+1
This is how to interpret any destination wedding. The bride and groom have every right to be married anywhere in the world they want but by doing so they are sending the message bolded above to others.

Plus they sending an additional we really don't want you to come but politeness tells us we must vibe of adding in another layer by saying elementary age children are not welcome? How big or how intimate is their wedding that children would be a burden?

For some people, ALL children are a burden no matter the size or intimacy of the wedding. They are annoying, have to be supervised, usually need some sort of special dinner or acomodation and some don't have time for that. Your kid is not another person's responsibility to think of.

Agreed! Just came back from a vacation at a very nice resort in Hawaii. Several "work rewards trips" were onsite. One had a group dinner of 45-50 adults at the fanciest restaurant on site. Many people had their kids with them. We went for our dinner--these kids (6 boys age 5-8) we running around in the lawn in front of the restaurant screaming and wild. They even chased a cat THrU the restaurant for 2-3 mins before the waitstaff finally had to say something. Th e parents did nothing.
It was obnoxious and rude to all the other guests who were trying to have dinner t this restaurant. Th e parents didn't care and the kids were terrors.

Just one example of why people do not want kids at their weddings--many parents don't parent and don't expect their kids to behave

+1

Child free weddings are so much more enjoyable. We are more likely to decline to attend weddings with children.

So do you contact the bride and ask whether children will be allowed before you RSVP?

NP
We just don’t bring kids to weddings.
Would never ask

That's not what that PP said. It sounded like they don't even want to attend weddings where other children might be present.

PP we prefer childfree. It’s not the end of the matter but a significant factor in deciding whether we attend and for how long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you were invited to an adult only wedding in Europe, what would you do?

A. Leave kids home
B. Take kids and get a sitter during wedding festivities
C. Send regrets

How wealthy are you?

[Anonymous]

B for sure!

[Anonymous]

C. No kids means it's not a real wedding, the joining of two families in order to continue the line.