The age old question opposite sex best friends when you're in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I'm getting conflicting advice . I've heard drop the friend and drop the girlfriend and ask my girlfriend what I can do to help her.

So what should I do?

You are likely getting conflicting advice because people have different experiences that shape their views. What did they see with their parents - did the parents have close friend of the opposite sex that didn’t not cross any lines? Does the girlfriend have close friends of the opposite sex where she would see this as typical and knows that those relationships are 100% platonic? I’m fortunate my DH and I are naturally aligned on our perspective.

As for what should you do - if your best friend is a supporter of the relationship and is willing to fallback a little to see you succeed in your relationship and you are building that emotional connection/friendship with your girlfriend where she would be the person you turn to first if there is a hard time in your life, I don’t see the issue. IMO where there are issues is when there are not strong boundaries. Even with same gender friendships, there are some slight shifts as a serious dating relationship emerges - less time to hang out with best friend, less likely to discuss relationship woes outside of the relationship to our friends, more of bringing good times and bad first to significant other.