The age old question opposite sex best friends when you're in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While it may be unfair for a romantic partner to request that you eradicate a friendship - - I can also see things from her point of view.

In all honesty a compromise here is totally doable.
Talk to your Female friend ➕ let her know how your new girlfriend feels.
Then you can spend less time around her & she will not think you are blowing her off.

Wishing you all the best of luck here!

Ops girlfriend hasn't asked him to drop anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, when you're married - no. No woman as a best friend. As to when that change needs to happen, sometime between beginning to date and being married. No exact time but if it isn't happening naturally, you are not in the right marriage-mindset to commit. No one should want to marry you.

Agreed. Female friend is find best friend absolutely not. Some women have to learn this the hard way.

Ugh, I detest people who think like that. So narrow minded and petty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, when you're married - no. No woman as a best friend. As to when that change needs to happen, sometime between beginning to date and being married. No exact time but if it isn't happening naturally, you are not in the right marriage-mindset to commit. No one should want to marry you.

Agreed. Female friend is find best friend absolutely not. Some women have to learn this the hard way.

Ugh, I detest people who think like that. So narrow minded and petty.

Detest all you want. Get back to us here in the real world after reality bites you in the ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, when you're married - no. No woman as a best friend. As to when that change needs to happen, sometime between beginning to date and being married. No exact time but if it isn't happening naturally, you are not in the right marriage-mindset to commit. No one should want to marry you.

Entirely wrong-headed response.

I agree that the previous response seems insane to me. I have a very good friend who's a man, and my brother has a best friend who's a woman. If you're strong in your relationship it shouldn't matter.

I also agree with the people who say that your girlfriend has a lot of baggage.

[Anonymous]

I have several female friends and one very good friend of over 16 years. It's ALWAYS a problem for me when dating and a problem for her about half the time. I wish I had a solution for you. I'd say, introduce them and let her see she's no threat but it sounds like you've already done that.