Default parent vent!

Anonymous
If they're on a weekend camping trip, can't he just run to walmart and buy one quick?

DH once took the kids on a trip. He'd carried our youngest to the car without shoes on and then forgot to bring her shoes. He ran to Walmart and it wasn't a big deal.
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Anonymous wrote:I'm the mom and the default parent. I have forgotten jackets, water bottles, snacks, sunscreen, etc in my many years of parenting. It happens. I would not text my husband and alert him to my failure. That was your husband's mistake. The kid is alive and probably having a great time. Some mom packed too much and your kid is now wearing the extra jacket. Relax and give your husband -who is on a weekend camping trip with your kid that he packed for - a break.

DH found some reception and actually called me, so I know that DS is fine. He is using DH's long sleeved clothes.

The reason this situation is so irritating to me, though, is that DH and I both take outdoor activities and wilderness safety very seriously. Pre-kids, we were avid backpackers, climbers, and even mountaineers. He took a gap semester in college to do an international NOLS trip, and he was a camp counselor. I've been certified as a W-EMT. For ourselves, we both take things like the 10 essentials (which include extra warm clothes) very seriously. Our kids are in Scouts, partially to help reinforce these things. Even for day trips, we pack these things to build good habits.

For sure DH would never leave extra layers out of his own pack for a camping trip. The fact that he allowed DS to do so just demonstrates how little responsibility he feels for ensuring DS learns these lessons.


I get it, OP. He isn’t going into this naively as a first time outdoors dad. So by not having what he needed he’s actively choosing not to use his mental energy and the skills and knowledge he actually has to do this task. It’s gross.


I'm so glad I'm not friends with women like you.


Got it. You’re not a regular mom, you’re a cool mom
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