What’s the best part of marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Marriage is a contract. A piece of paper You don't need to be married to have kids and a house and a person to talk to.

If you do buy a house with someone you’re not married to please, please, please have a detailed contract that includes who is paying what and what happens if you split up. Without a clear contract, Too many women find themselves SOL after years of contributing to a household.

[Anonymous]

No benefits. If you are unsure do not do it.

[Anonymous]

Are you wondering about marriage or relationships? If you never want to commit to a relationship then you can’t really expect anyone to commit to you. So you’ll eventually be alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No benefits. If you are unsure do not do it.

Its not about benefits. Marriage is the only way you can fulfill your sexual desires. Otherwise you have to stay celibate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No benefits. If you are unsure do not do it.

Its not about benefits. Marriage is the only way you can fulfill your sexual desires. Otherwise you have to stay celibate.

Marriage is the only way to fulfill sexual desires? What?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Way easier to save money + dual incomes
Life with your best friend
Someone else to help you in life
Sex
Getting to choose the dad or mom of your future kids.

We have a really, really great marriage. Don't marry a loser.

I was about to make practically the same list. We've been married 25 years. Now that kids are almost launched, it's about companionship as we age. Someone to watch TV with on Friday night. We will take care of each other as we age. Life is so much better with a partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No benefits. If you are unsure do not do it.

It’s not about benefits. Marriage is the only way you can fulfill your sexual desires. Otherwise you have to stay celibate.

This is completely untrue and you know it.
Also, I had a sexless marriage for almost a decade. There was hardly any sex in the marriage at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It was the worst decade of my life. I don't recommened it. Literally zero benefits.

I’m sad to read.

You find what you look for.

“You find what you work look for?l”
What the hell? Emotional abusers just were on their best behavior before marriage and lie about a lot of things just to get married and trap you. No one goes looking for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Raise children
At 26 years in- I can honestly say if it weren’t for kids there’s no reason to get married (friends, etc., agree)

Curious if you’re a man or a woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:All of these are not exclusive to marriage or a given because of marriage alone.
To claim marriage instantly bestows these things is false.

Agree. How can you claim “legal protection” when divorce can cause financial and emotional devastation?

Another one who agrees. My STBX has more legal and personal power to devastate me right now than any other human or entity I will ever encounter, and for reasons I will never understand he is using it. It has been a terrifying and heartbreaking thing to realize.

Having dated him for a while and been single for ages, I would have extolled the benefits of marriage had someone posted this thread last year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s always here. I can always talk to him.

As a recent widow, THIS. He was my person.

[Anonymous]

The best part about marriage is - if it goes well- you can skip the DCUM Relationship Discussion Forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids and a family unit! I wouldn't want to have kids outside marriage but it does presuppose one chooses well and stays lucky.

+1 the stable family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Timely thread for me... Has been thinking about leaving my wife and starting a new chapter of my life. After 20+ years most of these ‘best parts’ don’t matter or apply anymore.

That’s weird.

Are there really bad parts now? Or what were your expectations during 20 years of kids or afterwards?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Timely thread for me... Has been thinking about leaving my wife and starting a new chapter of my life. After 20+ years most of these ‘best parts’ don’t matter or apply anymore.

No longer need the free childcare, family head, and cooking?

Kids in or done with college so want to relive your 20s?