What’s the best part of marriage?

[Anonymous]

He's my person. Life isn't always roses and unicorns but we always have each other at the end of the day. The little family we've built is the only thing that matters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of these are not exclusive to marriage or a given because of marriage alone.
To claim marriage instantly bestows these things is false.

No but it ties it all in a bow and is a signal to everyone else that you're in a lifelong commitment. Many people wouldn't have any of these things without marriage. DH and I would have never had children out of wedlock, nor bought a home together.

Aren't you a bible thumping peach.

I have been married for over 40 years with a great marriage however, I absolutely would have had children out of "wedlock". How do you not understand how many single mothers have raised some very dam good humans? House LOL you are really out of touch.

I think pp meant that the legal protections of marriage make buying a house or having a child with someone else less risky and less of a burden. That’s how I read that comment anyway.

[Anonymous]

I think it's having a partner when you go through hard times. Like someone there when you're sick and that kind of thing. I've been married over 30 years, more of my life married than not. I see the good and bad of it. I think having this other person to rely on is the most consistently positive thing over time. I also never feel lonely.

[Anonymous]

He’s always here. I can always talk to him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of these are not exclusive to marriage or a given because of marriage alone.
To claim marriage instantly bestows these things is false.

No but it ties it all in a bow and is a signal to everyone else that you're in a lifelong commitment. Many people wouldn't have any of these things without marriage. DH and I would have never had children out of wedlock, nor bought a home together.

That
s a choice you made though. being married in and of itself does not confer these things. all marriage is a method for the goverment to control people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All of these are not exclusive to marriage or a given because of marriage alone.
To claim marriage instantly bestows these things is false.

And they also presuppose a good marriage. I’ve been married 20 years; I think there are pros and cons married or single. Probable the only benefit that actual marriage gets you is that your family unit is viewed by society as more legitimate, if that matters to you.

There are some financial things but you can do some of that outside marriage. If we own our home as a married couple, a lawsuit against only one can’t attach to the house. If only one is on title to main residence with a mortgage and dies, a spouse can continue to live there by paying the mortgage (in MD, anyway). Certain rights upon death, like spousal share of estate. Maybe one of you will be entitled to alimony upon divorce. You can take FMLA and sick leave for some jobs for a spouse but not a lover.

and all of that is a means for the government to subjugate you not an inherent benefit of marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids and a family unit! I wouldn't want to have kids outside marriage but it does presuppose one chooses well and stays lucky.

+100

I have many smbc friends but I don’t think I would want to have kids on my own.

And practically speaking there are also definitely many legal protections and financial benefits to marriage (vs just having a domestic partner).

Again, all contingent on having a “good” partner with shared values and goals.

[Anonymous]

Companionship. She's always been my best friend since we met 40+ years ago.

[Anonymous]

Its ok if you don't want to we shouldn't try and talk you into it. Personally I think its overrated.

[Anonymous]

Timely thread for me... Has been thinking about leaving my wife and starting a new chapter of my life. After 20+ years most of these ‘best parts’ don’t matter or apply anymore.

[Anonymous]

I am aware that we are particularly fortunate but for me, marriage gives me peace. It buffers me from things that would otherwise be so stressful to face alone. I have someone to lean on and vice versa. And raising your kids with someone that is as committed to their well being as you is really the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The legal benefits and protections.

Hahahahhahaaha

As someone who had a surprise divorce sprung on her, I have a lot to say about the legal benefits and protections.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Timely thread for me... Has been thinking about leaving my wife and starting a new chapter of my life. After 20+ years most of these ‘best parts’ don’t matter or apply anymore.

Just posted below. My DH probably is thinking just like you but is ahead of you on his timeline and only 12 years for us. I think it’s callous or shallow to be bored and not have the depth or imagination to see that there are different best parts coming. But my DH seems convinced that something way more exciting is around the corner and I’m in his way. Along with the kids.

I think you’ll both be disappointed but maybe you’ll prove me wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Timely thread for me... Has been thinking about leaving my wife and starting a new chapter of my life. After 20+ years most of these ‘best parts’ don’t matter or apply anymore.

I mean, as long as you recognize your part in what’s missing you may be right. It takes two to tango.

[Anonymous]

Marriage is a contract. A piece of paper You don't need to be married to have kids and a house and a person to talk to.