Is marriage the *only* way to wealth?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is marriage the *only* way to wealth?

I have no desire to get married, but I noticed that most people who are wealthy are married. I make $150k and I am 35. It seems to me that most men with my salary who are on their way to good wealth are married to someone who makes as much as them or more.

You ARE wealthy. You make a ton of money and you have no dependents. Win, win.

[Anonymous]

No. Not even within ethic cultures. Divorce rate too high and dynamic has changed. Best advice to kids is to carve out their own careers and not become beggars to spouse (or their families).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you happy as a single person? Kids are expensive and 1/2 of the marriages fail.

That "half of marriages fail number" applies to people with less than HS education. College educated folks have divorce rates much lower than that.



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This is true. But many are also miserable. "We are staying for the kids". " We can't afford to divorce because of retirement impact". "We are just roommates at this point"

Yeah you see a lot of these people smiling in public, sometimes even holding hand, but as soon as they go home it's misery all over again

I’ve Nannie’s for quite a few wealthy families and this is true for all of them but one. They put up a good show in public but they really wish they could divorce. Some don’t because they won’t be able to keep their current lifestyle and the others don’t because they think their parents will cut them out of the will. How do I know? The wives either tell me or they tell their friends on the phone or when they invite them over.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is marriage the *only* way to wealth?

I have no desire to get married, but I noticed that most people who are wealthy are married. I make $150k and I am 35. It seems to me that most men with my salary who are on their way to good wealth are married to someone who makes as much as them or more.

You ARE wealthy. You make a ton of money and you have no dependents. Win, win.

He makes only $150k. He is not even middle class around here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you happy as a single person? Kids are expensive and 1/2 of the marriages fail.

The “half of marriages fail trope” is a myth.

Of college-educated couples who are married for the first time, only about 10% fail.

To answer OPs question, yes, it’s a LOT easier to accumulate wealth when you have two incomes with one household. Even with three kids, which I have.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is marriage the *only* way to wealth?

I have no desire to get married, but I noticed that most people who are wealthy are married. I make $150k and I am 35. It seems to me that most men with my salary who are on their way to good wealth are married to someone who makes as much as them or more.

You ARE wealthy. You make a ton of money and you have no dependents. Win, win.

He makes only $150k. He is not even middle class around here.

Lol. I make maybe $85k as a single parent with two kids. I’m doing just fine. The OP has one person to take care of at almost double my salary. He can get a second job, live frugally, invest.

[Anonymous]

via marriage you can come into more money in a minute than you can make in a lifetime.

Lauren Sanchez I am talking to you!

[Anonymous]

Yes and no.

Marriages is like having a team work. If you have excellent team, you can have synergistic result.( think 1+1=more than 2) If you have a good team, you may have addictive result ( think 1+1=2)
If you have poor team work, you may have subpar result, being a team may drag both of you down ( think 1+1 =less than 2)

Hope you get the picture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes and no.

Marriages is like having a team work. If you have excellent team, you can have synergistic result.( think 1+1=more than 2) If you have a good team, you may have addictive result ( think 1+1=2)
If you have poor team work, you may have subpar result, being a team may drag both of you down ( think 1+1 =less than 2)

Hope you get the picture.

This is a great way to explain it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is marriage the *only* way to wealth?

I have no desire to get married, but I noticed that most people who are wealthy are married. I make $150k and I am 35. It seems to me that most men with my salary who are on their way to good wealth are married to someone who makes as much as them or more.

You ARE wealthy. You make a ton of money and you have no dependents. Win, win.

He makes only $150k. He is not even middle class around here.

Lol. I make maybe $85k as a single parent with two kids. I’m doing just fine. The OP has one person to take care of at almost double my salary. He can get a second job, live frugally, invest.

Your brain chemicals might make you feel fine but no, you're not doing fine the way most people like OP want to be doing fine.

OP your salary isn't that special in the DC area and isn't a path to wealth unless you marry a spouse with a second, equal income. A lot of fed employees can make $100k+ but they can't afford to live in a decent neighborhood unless they partner up for a dual income.

[Anonymous]

What an odd question. My single friends are rolling in money. They have zero obligations so their money is going to mortgage, retirement, savings, and fun. They take several vacations a year, they buy themselves whatever they want, they eat out a lot, I'm so jealous!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What an odd question. My single friends are rolling in money. They have zero obligations so their money is going to mortgage, retirement, savings, and fun. They take several vacations a year, they buy themselves whatever they want, they eat out a lot, I'm so jealous!!

They're not married to women, either, so they get to save a lot more of their money

[Anonymous]

Of course not.

[Anonymous]

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He makes only $150k. He is not even middle class around here.

An absolutely idiotic take

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is marriage the *only* way to wealth?

I have no desire to get married, but I noticed that most people who are wealthy are married. I make $150k and I am 35. It seems to me that most men with my salary who are on their way to good wealth are married to someone who makes as much as them or more.

Do NOT get married. You’ll likely get divorced. Even Jeff Bezos and Bill Gates lost a ton of money in their divorces. Stay single and invest.

That's funny and saying the opposite of what you mean. Who did the support work so they had time to make the money?