Why are women more likely to go after a man who is already partnered?

[Anonymous]

OP, I don't agree with your premise. Many won't agree with your premise. "Partnered" though isn't married. Partnered is available if a person who is a better match comes into their life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think women prefer partnered men over single. When I find out a guy is sleeping with someone else, I stop sleeping with him

+1

I’ve never gone after a man who has a girlfriend or is married.

[Anonymous]

Daddy issues.

[Anonymous]

Many of them really don't want to be married.

My best friend separated from her ex dh for cheating. He got a divorce and asked the AP to marry him, she said no and dumped him - she was just having fun with a stupid guy.

[Anonymous]

The answer is hypergamy. Women are hypergamous because their reproductive opportunities are far more limited than men's due to the basic fact that women carry the child for nine months and then usually lack fertility in the first year when they breast feed.

Evolution rewarded hypergamous women. While the evolutionary forces that shaped women have vanished, their effects remain. Indeed, most cultures for thousands of years have not let evolution affect women and have dictated outcomes for women.

So women want the best man because evolution made them so. It's just the way it is.

[Anonymous]

Women do it because

They want what they can't have, so getting it is very satisfying

When it fails, it's not their fault, so it's safe

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think women prefer partnered men over single. When I find out a guy is sleeping with someone else, I stop sleeping with him

+1

I’ve never gone after a man who has a girlfriend or is married.

Commitment is commitment, written or verbalized.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The answer is hypergamy. Women are hypergamous because their reproductive opportunities are far more limited than men's due to the basic fact that women carry the child for nine months and then usually lack fertility in the first year when they breast feed.

Evolution rewarded hypergamous women. While the evolutionary forces that shaped women have vanished, their effects remain. Indeed, most cultures for thousands of years have not let evolution affect women and have dictated outcomes for women.

So women want the best man because evolution made them so. It's just the way it is.

If that's it then polygamy is also justified?

[Anonymous]

I'll share my anecdata...women didn't go after me when I was single, and in the 20 years that I've been married they still don't go after me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The answer is hypergamy. Women are hypergamous because their reproductive opportunities are far more limited than men's due to the basic fact that women carry the child for nine months and then usually lack fertility in the first year when they breast feed.

Evolution rewarded hypergamous women. While the evolutionary forces that shaped women have vanished, their effects remain. Indeed, most cultures for thousands of years have not let evolution affect women and have dictated outcomes for women.

So women want the best man because evolution made them so. It's just the way it is.

If that's it then polygamy is also justified?

A married man who cheats is not an “upgrade” to my dating pool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll share my anecdata...women didn't go after me when I was single, and in the 20 years that I've been married they still don't go after me.

You aren't lucky you found a partner and no one is tempting you to go corrupt. Happy ever after.

[Anonymous]

*are lucky

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you're interpreting men being more likely to cheat as women being more likely to go after attached men.

This.

[Anonymous]

because they hate other women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are women more likely to go after a man who is already partnered?

It's very uncommon for men to knowingly go after a woman who already has a man. But for some women, they just don't care it's as if the other woman doesn't exist.

Old universal truth.

Women like competing with other women.
It's why we dress up, show off on socials, fish for compliments from other women, gather in groups to chat and henpeck each other, etc.

It's why many like to try to get a man who is already taken. To one up the other woman. Of course if you get a man who is willing to cheat and leave a woman, you can never really trust him, so he immediately becomes sus after that.

It's petty yeah. That's how most people are now.

Men do it to a certain extent also, but there are often more violent phyisical punishments among men who try to poach a woman. Easy way to wind up dead in the heat of the moment. Also they have their "bro-code" thing to help. But a woman can easily manipulate a man by making his little head do the thinking.