Infatuated with kids friend’s married dad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am married and very attracted to my kid’s friend’s married dad. Can’t stop thinking about him. I know there’s no future here since there are kids on both sides. Any strategies to cope up? I need counseling?

Just go for it. Women are good at hiding affairs (i.e., being sneaky). You probably won't get caught. If you do, just tell your DH that it's his fault and suggest marriage counseling. This guy is hot so it's probably worth the low risk.

They are not good at it men just fall for the fake tears and emotions. Men just need to be stoic with their wives when they suspect something the same way they are stoic with other men who do them wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make friends with his wife and you will get over that crush fast when she starts telling you the annoying things he does

This, or ask him how she is every time you see him. "HI BDE, how's Larla doing?" It will sink in your idiot brain that he is a husband to a woman who is not you. By showing respect in asking about her, you may, in turn, respect the vows to made to your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Make friends with his wife and you will get over that crush fast when she starts telling you the annoying things he does

This, or ask him how she is every time you see him. "HI BDE, how's Larla doing?" It will sink in your idiot brain that he is a husband to a woman who is not you. By showing respect in asking about her, you may, in turn, respect the vows to made to your husband.

Seems pretty aspirational given OP’s posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember a NYT article about 2 married couples where 2 of the spouses (both with kids) dumped their partners and took up with each other, claiming they were the love of their lives. Yours could be the next great story, OP.

OMG! I remember that one.

It was such a train wreck. The affair couple had wedding photos of their blended family on the NYT and afterwards one of the dads was so angry that his children were used to clean up their image. Which is funny because the cheaters were quoted as saying that their exes understood and were completely of their love story. They were really leaning in to all the blended family BS. Zero self awareness.

Those poor kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember a NYT article about 2 married couples where 2 of the spouses (both with kids) dumped their partners and took up with each other, claiming they were the love of their lives. Yours could be the next great story, OP.

OMG! I remember that one.

It was such a train wreck. The affair couple had wedding photos of their blended family on the NYT and afterwards one of the dads was so angry that his children were used to clean up their image. Which is funny because the cheaters were quoted as saying that their exes understood and were completely of their love story. They were really leaning in to all the blended family BS. Zero self awareness.

Those poor kids.

God. Would love a follow up “where are they now” on that piece.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you know he's romantic?

Frequent compliments, especially about personality, or how I handle things. Offers emotional support that goes beyond what’s typical for a platonic relationship. Prolonged eye contact or a certain intensity in how he looks at me.

Oh, so he’s not romantic with his wife - it’s with you. Snap out of it.

[Anonymous]

Howz it going OP!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am married and very attracted to my kid’s friend’s married dad. Can’t stop thinking about him. I know there’s no future here since there are kids on both sides. Any strategies to cope up? I need counseling?

Just go for it. Women are good at hiding affairs (i.e., being sneaky). You probably won't get caught. If you do, just tell your DH that it's his fault and suggest marriage counseling. This guy is hot so it's probably worth the low risk.

They are not good at it men just fall for the fake tears and emotions. Men just need to be stoic with their wives when they suspect something the same way they are stoic with other men who do them wrong.

Disagree. Women can lie to your face without batting an eye.

[Anonymous]

Howz it going OP!!!

Have you sent the naughty texts (+ photos) yet? It is only a matter of time.

[Anonymous]

These posts confirm that I will never marry again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Make friends with his wife and you will get over that crush fast when she starts telling you the annoying things he does

This, or ask him how she is every time you see him. "HI BDE, how's Larla doing?" It will sink in your idiot brain that he is a husband to a woman who is not you. By showing respect in asking about her, you may, in turn, respect the vows to made to your husband.

Seems pretty aspirational given OP’s posts.

Do people really aspire to be lying cheaters?

[Anonymous]

Next time you are having sex with your DH, pretend it's him instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Howz it going OP!!!

Have you sent the naughty texts (+ photos) yet? It is only a matter of time.

Not at that level yet….friendly flirting stage at the moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Next time you are having sex with your DH, pretend it's him instead.

Done ✅

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know but some of these moms may be horny, unhappy, lonely I have no idea. I coach both boys and girls soccer and the flirting sometimes right in from their husbands who are clueless is stunning. They don't care that you are married. Maybe they want the attention, but it's crazy to me because even when you ignore it they keep going as if they get some kind of dopamine out of it. I use my wife's number to communicate with the parents because most are women. Of course it's not all moms but it's as high as 3 out of every 10 moms. If you are married you have no business flirting with another married man or seeking his attention because you are probably wasting your time. Yes we men can be stupid, but most of us aren't going to do anything with you especially when we know your husband.

They are shameless. My husband coached our kids when they were little. I was hot as fk, especially back then. When I showed up at games they scattered like cockroaches and then their husbands would try to flirt with me lol. We used to get a kick talking about them- nicknames for all of them. I do think a lot of the women were jealous because their own husbands didn’t take the time from work to be with their kids in the evenings so seeing a man do that and be good with kids got them hot in the crotch. My husband is also incredibly fit/good looking, great job, etc.