Infatuated with kids friend’s married dad

[Anonymous]

him?
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1278419.page

[Anonymous]

or him?
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1278162.page

[Anonymous]

When OP said he was romantic, I thought she was going to describe sweet things he does for his wife.

There is nothing a married man does with another married woman that can be considered "romantic". NOTHING!

It's all disgusting and unattractive and careless. The fact that OP considers what he's doing with/to her romantic tells us way too much about OP, and none of it is good.

You are very close to ruining the entire lives of a bunch of innocent kids, 2 unaware spouses, and whether you see it now or not, you're going to ruin your and your crush's lives too.

You should stop texting, stop talking and never be alone with him. No dropping off you kid if he might answer the door. If your kid's friend is coming over, your DH can answer the door.

I would also start building up my kid's other friendships and activities and over time fade away from this family.

[Anonymous]

Just have a fling. It's summer. Keep it quiet and no one will find out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When OP said he was romantic, I thought she was going to describe sweet things he does for his wife.

There is nothing a married man does with another married woman that can be considered "romantic". NOTHING!

It's all disgusting and unattractive and careless. The fact that OP considers what he's doing with/to her romantic tells us way too much about OP, and none of it is good.

You are very close to ruining the entire lives of a bunch of innocent kids, 2 unaware spouses, and whether you see it now or not, you're going to ruin your and your crush's lives too.

You should stop texting, stop talking and never be alone with him. No dropping off you kid if he might answer the door. If your kid's friend is coming over, your DH can answer the door.

I would also start building up my kid's other friendships and activities and over time fade away from this family.

+1. Anytime I’ve felt that I actively did things so as not to put my self alone with someone. I brought up their wife in conversation, etc.

Everyone with a pulse gets crushes. Yes- even those happily married. It’s how you act that shows your character, I.e., respect ring bother people’s marriages and your own!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know he's romantic?

Frequent compliments, especially about personality, or how I handle things. Offers emotional support that goes beyond what’s typical for a platonic relationship. Prolonged eye contact or a certain intensity in how he looks at me.

That's not romantic.thats inappropriate.
This guy you are crushing on flirts with other women, is open to cheating and does that all in front of his kid
So wonderful

Yeah, he’s a little messy, flirting, chaos, dad life….but I don’t know… maybe I like living on the wild side. Red flags? Babe, I see a carnival. 🎪 And let’s be real—if he flirts this good in public, imagine the private show. 😏

You sound lime a hot mess. Are you 16?

[Anonymous]

Go review the Ten Commandments

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just wait till you start treating him the way you treat your husband and he will be the victim of your expectations, blame, judgement AND shame. Honestly, most husbands stop trying to please their wives when they realize it’s impossible. The woman he fell in love with was a character she wants to be instead of the woman she really is inside.

Damn that’s deep. X100 once the first baby arrives.

[Anonymous]

Troll

[Anonymous]

There was a married dude with kids who was very attractive but would stare at me intently without looking away on multiple occasions. While I found him attractive, it made me uncomfortable - I would hate it if my DH looked at another woman like that. That fizzled any attraction I had pretty quick. If this married dude is crossing any kind of lines with you - sounds extremely shady to me and that you should stay away.

[Anonymous]

Let him smash and don’t tell anyone.

[Anonymous]

I don't know but some of these moms may be horny, unhappy, lonely I have no idea. I coach both boys and girls soccer and the flirting sometimes right in from their husbands who are clueless is stunning. They don't care that you are married. Maybe they want the attention, but it's crazy to me because even when you ignore it they keep going as if they get some kind of dopamine out of it. I use my wife's number to communicate with the parents because most are women. Of course it's not all moms but it's as high as 3 out of every 10 moms. If you are married you have no business flirting with another married man or seeking his attention because you are probably wasting your time. Yes we men can be stupid, but most of us aren't going to do anything with you especially when we know your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am married and very attracted to my kid’s friend’s married dad. Can’t stop thinking about him. I know there’s no future here since there are kids on both sides. Any strategies to cope up? I need counseling?

Just go for it. Women are good at hiding affairs (i.e., being sneaky). You probably won't get caught. If you do, just tell your DH that it's his fault and suggest marriage counseling. This guy is hot so it's probably worth the low risk.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know he's romantic?

Frequent compliments, especially about personality, or how I handle things. Offers emotional support that goes beyond what’s typical for a platonic relationship. Prolonged eye contact or a certain intensity in how he looks at me.

That's not romantic.thats inappropriate.
This guy you are crushing on flirts with other women, is open to cheating and does that all in front of his kid
So wonderful

Yeah, he’s a little messy, flirting, chaos, dad life….but I don’t know… maybe I like living on the wild side. Red flags? Babe, I see a carnival. 🎪 And let’s be real—if he flirts this good in public, imagine the private show. 😏

If he flirts with you in public he is flirting with other women as well. Guys like this cannot help it.

No way! I'm sure the guy willing to cheat on his wife would be very loyal to his AP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know he's romantic?

Frequent compliments, especially about personality, or how I handle things. Offers emotional support that goes beyond what’s typical for a platonic relationship. Prolonged eye contact or a certain intensity in how he looks at me.

That's not romantic.thats inappropriate.
This guy you are crushing on flirts with other women, is open to cheating and does that all in front of his kid
So wonderful

Yeah, he’s a little messy, flirting, chaos, dad life….but I don’t know… maybe I like living on the wild side. Red flags? Babe, I see a carnival. 🎪 And let’s be real—if he flirts this good in public, imagine the private show. 😏

You sound lime a hot mess. Are you 16?

She's just someone who is dying to be validated by the AP.