Infatuated with kids friend’s married dad

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know but some of these moms may be horny, unhappy, lonely I have no idea. I coach both boys and girls soccer and the flirting sometimes right in from their husbands who are clueless is stunning. They don't care that you are married. Maybe they want the attention, but it's crazy to me because even when you ignore it they keep going as if they get some kind of dopamine out of it. I use my wife's number to communicate with the parents because most are women. Of course it's not all moms but it's as high as 3 out of every 10 moms. If you are married you have no business flirting with another married man or seeking his attention because you are probably wasting your time. Yes we men can be stupid, but most of us aren't going to do anything with you especially when we know your husband.

They are shameless. My husband coached our kids when they were little. I was hot as fk, especially back then. When I showed up at games they scattered like cockroaches and then their husbands would try to flirt with me lol. We used to get a kick talking about them- nicknames for all of them. I do think a lot of the women were jealous because their own husbands didn’t take the time from work to be with their kids in the evenings so seeing a man do that and be good with kids got them hot in the crotch. My husband is also incredibly fit/good looking, great job, etc.

lol, your DH is “incredibly good looking”? You married Derek Zoolander, congrats? Lolololol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know he's romantic?

Frequent compliments, especially about personality, or how I handle things. Offers emotional support that goes beyond what’s typical for a platonic relationship. Prolonged eye contact or a certain intensity in how he looks at me.

That's not romantic.thats inappropriate.
This guy you are crushing on flirts with other women, is open to cheating and does that all in front of his kid
So wonderful

Yeah, he’s a little messy, flirting, chaos, dad life….but I don’t know… maybe I like living on the wild side. Red flags? Babe, I see a carnival. 🎪 And let’s be real—if he flirts this good in public, imagine the private show. 😏

You are an idiot. A selfish, delusional one. Stop looking for validation from men and don't blow up your family.

+100 Op you are an immature child. Fix your marriage or leave. Stop acting like a pathetic 14 year old.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Some individuals have posted messages pretending to be from me. I want to make it clear that I respect boundaries and have no intention of doing anything reckless. Right now, I'm just mentally exhausted. None of this was planned, but sometimes, it's hard to stay unaffected when you come across someone so genuinely charming and principled.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know but some of these moms may be horny, unhappy, lonely I have no idea. I coach both boys and girls soccer and the flirting sometimes right in from their husbands who are clueless is stunning. They don't care that you are married. Maybe they want the attention, but it's crazy to me because even when you ignore it they keep going as if they get some kind of dopamine out of it. I use my wife's number to communicate with the parents because most are women. Of course it's not all moms but it's as high as 3 out of every 10 moms. If you are married you have no business flirting with another married man or seeking his attention because you are probably wasting your time. Yes we men can be stupid, but most of us aren't going to do anything with you especially when we know your husband.

They are shameless. My husband coached our kids when they were little. I was hot as fk, especially back then. When I showed up at games they scattered like cockroaches and then their husbands would try to flirt with me lol. We used to get a kick talking about them- nicknames for all of them. I do think a lot of the women were jealous because their own husbands didn’t take the time from work to be with their kids in the evenings so seeing a man do that and be good with kids got them hot in the crotch. My husband is also incredibly fit/good looking, great job, etc.

lol, your DH is “incredibly good looking”? You married Derek Zoolander, congrats? Lolololol

But she is "hot as fk"

Suuure

[Anonymous]

Thinking of getting a ❤️ tattoo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thinking of getting a ❤️ tattoo.

It should say “ no ragrets”

[Anonymous]

Crushes can be a lot of fun, and it's okay to acknowledge that. Trying to ignore that you do have a crush can make it more taboo, which unfortunately makes someone more intriguing. So yeah, these feelings happen - but you don't have to act on them to have fun. Just letting them exist for their own sake, and moving about the rest of your life normally, strips a lot of their potential bad influence over you.

And don't feed the wolf. If I needed to stop by his office (we were coworkers), cool. But if I noticed I was trying to generate excuses to stop by his office, I would practice having a laugh at myself and switching subjects in my mind - same with daydreaming. Probably also a good idea to drink alcohol only sparingly if he's around until you're sure you won't try anything unethical.

My crush lasted a few months, and nothing inappropriate or unprofessional happened. It was pleasant while it lasted, and now I'm firmly over it and we're still friendly coworkers: no harm done.

[Anonymous]

Actively looking for another outlet for your romantic feelings might be helpful, like dating sites, or even looking at pictures of cute celebrities. Don’t try to push your feelings away, but know that they are only feelings and let them pass naturally, like clouds floating across the sky. Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know but some of these moms may be horny, unhappy, lonely I have no idea. I coach both boys and girls soccer and the flirting sometimes right in from their husbands who are clueless is stunning. They don't care that you are married. Maybe they want the attention, but it's crazy to me because even when you ignore it they keep going as if they get some kind of dopamine out of it. I use my wife's number to communicate with the parents because most are women. Of course it's not all moms but it's as high as 3 out of every 10 moms. If you are married you have no business flirting with another married man or seeking his attention because you are probably wasting your time. Yes we men can be stupid, but most of us aren't going to do anything with you especially when we know your husband.

They are shameless. My husband coached our kids when they were little. I was hot as fk, especially back then. When I showed up at games they scattered like cockroaches and then their husbands would try to flirt with me lol. We used to get a kick talking about them- nicknames for all of them. I do think a lot of the women were jealous because their own husbands didn’t take the time from work to be with their kids in the evenings so seeing a man do that and be good with kids got them hot in the crotch. My husband is also incredibly fit/good looking, great job, etc.

lol, your DH is “incredibly good looking”? You married Derek Zoolander, congrats? Lolololol

Why are you so surprised? It's just another DCUM perfect 10. It's no big deal. Most women on DCUM are very similar.

[Anonymous]

Put yourself in his wife’s place: would you want to be her? Would you want your husband to cheat on you with someone like you? If you wouldn’t want to experience that kind of pain and betrayal then I strongly urge you to leave them alone and put them out of your head.

Recognize that you are committing the sin of lust and coveting. You are wanting something that you have no right to want.

It would be selfish, dishonorable, disrespectful, unreliable, untrustworthy and just all-around despicable of you if you were to pursue that man.

Not sure what part of married you didn’t understand, but I’ll say it one more time:

HE IS NOT - NOT - NOT AVAILABLE.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know he's romantic?

Frequent compliments, especially about personality, or how I handle things. Offers emotional support that goes beyond what’s typical for a platonic relationship. Prolonged eye contact or a certain intensity in how he looks at me.

Don't worry about it..I think you are seeing what you wish your husband was like. And he probably doesn't have the same crush towards you.

Well, we’ve exchanged very many texts and emails lately so I think he is attracted to me.

And you think this is appropriate because?

How do you think this is going to go for you if his wife finds your texts?

+1, and she will

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am married and very attracted to my kid’s friend’s married dad. Can’t stop thinking about him. I know there’s no future here since there are kids on both sides. Any strategies to cope up? I need counseling?

Just go for it. Women are good at hiding affairs (i.e., being sneaky). You probably won't get caught. If you do, just tell your DH that it's his fault and suggest marriage counseling. This guy is hot so it's probably worth the low risk.

OP may not get directly caught but my money is on the hot other DH’s wife figuring out and catching him, and by extension her.

[Anonymous]

Get closer to him and notice him. You will get to see so many negatives, his temper, his eel like slippery behavior, his lies, his showing off, his unruly demands, his manipulations, his flirting with others. You will realize he is just another crappy, ordinary man. He will not be as worth as he seems from a little far away. Your crush will get crushed. Period.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know he's romantic?

Frequent compliments, especially about personality, or how I handle things. Offers emotional support that goes beyond what’s typical for a platonic relationship. Prolonged eye contact or a certain intensity in how he looks at me.

Don't worry about it..I think you are seeing what you wish your husband was like. And he probably doesn't have the same crush towards you.

Well, we’ve exchanged very many texts and emails lately so I think he is attracted to me.

Congratulations, a man is attracted to you. What a rare thing that you could never find just by . . . going to your local bar.

Look, dopamine is FUN. Oxytocin is fun. But then it's over. And then what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Actively looking for another outlet for your romantic feelings might be helpful, like dating sites, or even looking at pictures of cute celebrities. Don’t try to push your feelings away, but know that they are only feelings and let them pass naturally, like clouds floating across the sky. Best of luck.

Where can a married woman find an outlet for romantic feelings? Such a mystery...