What is your DH's AP like?

[Anonymous]

She was his admin assistant. Literally the only person on the planet that saw him as any sort of authority figure or leader. Only a few years younger than him, mousy, bad teeth. Boring personality, dresses like a librarian. But she made him feel important, and that was enough.

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Anonymous wrote:45 (he's 35), is a babysitter and bartender, lives in a studio and complains she can't afford her rent, has 4 birds that she includes in her n00ds, has an unfortunate skin disease where her nether regions and have her legs look burnt, has braces, and cries about her lost fertile years often.

Oh, also a very hairy bum hole that I sadly saw spread wide open with a zoomed in mirror pic while on all fours. Sigh.

I like the hairy bum. Kinda sexy

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Anonymous wrote:Very attractive, incredible education, published and very successful. I have no idea what she sees in him but I would fall for her too

I've been cheated on and I can't decide which is worse; when they cheat down with hairy butthole loser as a PP mentioned or they somehow manage to land a 25 year old Heidi Klum MENSA candidate heiress. Screws with your head in different ways. My gut says the first is preferable...

The first makes you laugh and make fun of them. Their embarrassment on people finding out who they were banging in secret getting out -this unattractive, strange person.

Cheating with a gorgeous, smart, great career, younger, etc would have caused a big kick to the self-esteem.

Yeah- the first is much easier. Everyone is “wtf?” , the newer model tough when you used to be even hotter at the same age.

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Anonymous wrote:Officemate co-worker. A decade younger, but homely and pudgy (the nicest thing all my friends said about her). He definitely affaired down- less attractive, less intelligent, less successful. It's what insecure, unaccomplished guys look for.

She was nice to him and gave him sex. That's all it took to get him.

And that's all you had to do to keep him.

No. The wife was abused emotionally for years. Several separations and living on different continents. He has some serious childhood trauma. She withdraw sex because of the abuse. He can get is somewhere else, but not for long. The childhood trauma comes up again.

Uh huh. That’s what they always say. It really she got bored and just couldn’t make the effort to be nice any more, let alone have sex, and she rewrote the history of the relationship in her mind to “constant emotional abuse”.

Per dcum women, marriage breaks down always because of husband’s abuse. It’s never the women’s fault

Never. and men NEVER cheat because they aren't getting sex at home. The scorned wives always gave it to him all he wanted, or at least three times a week. But he just wanted some strange. She played no part in his decision to cheat. Not on DCUM. I've not read that admission one single time. It's remarkable.

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Anonymous wrote:Officemate co-worker. A decade younger, but homely and pudgy (the nicest thing all my friends said about her). He definitely affaired down- less attractive, less intelligent, less successful. It's what insecure, unaccomplished guys look for.

She was nice to him and gave him sex. That's all it took to get him.

And that's all you had to do to keep him.

No. The wife was abused emotionally for years. Several separations and living on different continents. He has some serious childhood trauma. She withdraw sex because of the abuse. He can get is somewhere else, but not for long. The childhood trauma comes up again.

Uh huh. That’s what they always say. It really she got bored and just couldn’t make the effort to be nice any more, let alone have sex, and she rewrote the history of the relationship in her mind to “constant emotional abuse”.

Per dcum women, marriage breaks down always because of husband’s abuse. It’s never the women’s fault

Never. and men NEVER cheat because they aren't getting sex at home. The scorned wives always gave it to him all he wanted, or at least three times a week. But he just wanted some strange. She played no part in his decision to cheat. Not on DCUM. I've not read that admission one single time. It's remarkable.

And I’ve never heard a married woman cheater not blame her husband for her getting railed with strange D either.

Dude, if your wife wasn’t banging you- you are a complete, critical Dk at home and/or unattractive. You can always divorce. Nobody forces you to cheat.

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Anonymous wrote:Officemate co-worker. A decade younger, but homely and pudgy (the nicest thing all my friends said about her). He definitely affaired down- less attractive, less intelligent, less successful. It's what insecure, unaccomplished guys look for.

She was nice to him and gave him sex. That's all it took to get him.

And that's all you had to do to keep him.

No. The wife was abused emotionally for years. Several separations and living on different continents. He has some serious childhood trauma. She withdraw sex because of the abuse. He can get is somewhere else, but not for long. The childhood trauma comes up again.

Uh huh. That’s what they always say. It really she got bored and just couldn’t make the effort to be nice any more, let alone have sex, and she rewrote the history of the relationship in her mind to “constant emotional abuse”.

Per dcum women, marriage breaks down always because of husband’s abuse. It’s never the women’s fault

Never. and men NEVER cheat because they aren't getting sex at home. The scorned wives always gave it to him all he wanted, or at least three times a week. But he just wanted some strange. She played no part in his decision to cheat. Not on DCUM. I've not read that admission one single time. It's remarkable.

And I’ve never heard a married woman cheater not blame her husband for her getting railed with strange D either.

Dude, if your wife wasn’t banging you- you are a complete, critical Dk at home and/or unattractive. You can always divorce. Nobody forces you to cheat.

And a 3rd possibility is that his wife has mental issues. But that would never occur to dcum morons as all marital problems are due to men. Never the woman’s fault!

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And a 3rd possibility is that his wife has mental issues. But that would never occur to dcum morons as all marital problems are due to men. Never the woman’s fault!

Angry sexless guy… why are you so obsessed with “Fault?” You clearly are unhappy with your marriage. Nothing is more unattractive and unappealing than an angry, bitter, sexless man that is too passive to even address the situation with his spouse.

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And a 3rd possibility is that his wife has mental issues. But that would never occur to dcum morons as all marital problems are due to men. Never the woman’s fault!

Angry sexless guy… why are you so obsessed with “Fault?” You clearly are unhappy with your marriage. Nothing is more unattractive and unappealing than an angry, bitter, sexless man that is too passive to even address the situation with his spouse.

Lmao. Not a thing you said is true

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Officemate co-worker. A decade younger, but homely and pudgy (the nicest thing all my friends said about her). He definitely affaired down- less attractive, less intelligent, less successful. It's what insecure, unaccomplished guys look for.
They both pursued divorces. 2 betrayed spouses and 6 kids lives f'ed up. Complete selfishness

She was probably softer and kinder to him than you.

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Anonymous wrote:Officemate co-worker. A decade younger, but homely and pudgy (the nicest thing all my friends said about her). He definitely affaired down- less attractive, less intelligent, less successful. It's what insecure, unaccomplished guys look for.

She was nice to him and gave him sex. That's all it took to get him.

And that's all you had to do to keep him.

There was one other thing the APs did and that was ditch their kids. Neither had primary custody and it was the dad instead. My ex doesn't like being a dad, so the AP gave him sex and a place to get away from the responsibilities of his life. There was nothing I could have done to keep my ex. After having kids, he realized he didn't want them.

That's my ex. He thought he wanted kids until we had one. Then decided he really didn't.

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Anonymous wrote:Officemate co-worker. A decade younger, but homely and pudgy (the nicest thing all my friends said about her). He definitely affaired down- less attractive, less intelligent, less successful. It's what insecure, unaccomplished guys look for.

She was nice to him and gave him sex. That's all it took to get him.

And that's all you had to do to keep him.

No. The wife was abused emotionally for years. Several separations and living on different continents. He has some serious childhood trauma. She withdraw sex because of the abuse. He can get is somewhere else, but not for long. The childhood trauma comes up again.

Uh huh. That’s what they always say. It really she got bored and just couldn’t make the effort to be nice any more, let alone have sex, and she rewrote the history of the relationship in her mind to “constant emotional abuse”.

Per dcum women, marriage breaks down always because of husband’s abuse. It’s never the women’s fault

Women can't stop growing older. Also having kids makes you a boring mom. The struggle is real. Happens to men also.

Boring mom, hahaha

[Anonymous]

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And a 3rd possibility is that his wife has mental issues. But that would never occur to dcum morons as all marital problems are due to men. Never the woman’s fault!

Angry sexless guy… why are you so obsessed with “Fault?” You clearly are unhappy with your marriage. Nothing is more unattractive and unappealing than an angry, bitter, sexless man that is too passive to even address the situation with his spouse.

Lmao. Not a thing you said is true

You sure about that?

[Anonymous]

I called my ex’s ap the “lipless whOre” because she had a gash for a mouth. Otherwise fairly plain, three homely children and is roughly the same age S him. She’s a secretary. Sorry, “executive assistant”. She’s novice at his hobbies so he got to experience being better than someone at something, I guess that was fun till their relationship went down in flames. Bye!

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Anonymous wrote:I called my ex’s ap the “lipless whOre” because she had a gash for a mouth. Otherwise fairly plain, three homely children and is roughly the same age S him. She’s a secretary. Sorry, “executive assistant”. She’s novice at his hobbies so he got to experience being better than someone at something, I guess that was fun till their relationship went down in flames. Bye!

Affairing down seems to be a real thing.

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Anonymous wrote:I called my ex’s ap the “lipless whOre” because she had a gash for a mouth. Otherwise fairly plain, three homely children and is roughly the same age S him. She’s a secretary. Sorry, “executive assistant”. She’s novice at his hobbies so he got to experience being better than someone at something, I guess that was fun till their relationship went down in flames. Bye!

Affairing down seems to be a real thing.

Because men don’t care. They will have a successful, smoking hot wife at home and fall head over heels for a mousy 22 year old graphic designer because they get the thrill of being wanted by a young woman again.