Telling My Kids About Their IVF Story??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell them from the start. I would not tell them about the IQ issue, that would be upsetting to anyone.

I am fascinated by this. I know that adoptive parents and those who use a donor are advised to tell their kids about it from the start. But why would it be important for kids to know they were conceived in a Petri dish?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell them from the start. I would not tell them about the IQ issue, that would be upsetting to anyone.

I am fascinated by this. I know that adoptive parents and those who use a donor are advised to tell their kids about it from the start. But why would it be important for kids to know they were conceived in a Petri dish?

It’s not something to be ashamed of. I showed my child their picture as an embryo and they thought it was cool. I don’t believe in this Orchid business though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell them from the start. I would not tell them about the IQ issue, that would be upsetting to anyone.

I am fascinated by this. I know that adoptive parents and those who use a donor are advised to tell their kids about it from the start. But why would it be important for kids to know they were conceived in a Petri dish?

It’s not something to be ashamed of. I showed my child their picture as an embryo and they thought it was cool. I don’t believe in this Orchid business though.

It had nothing to do with shame, but a lot of posters seem to think this is something children should be told early. I suppose so that it doesn’t come as a shock later on? But I don’t see why it’s significant enough to be an issue

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When should I tell my kids that they are IVF babies? Should I also tell them that we did IQ screening on the embryos or should I wait until they are adults to mention this detail? At what age did you tell your kids that they were IVF babies and how did you explain it?

Good lord no. Make up a story about their dad on "vacation" or killed overseas or something.

[Anonymous]

OP if you don't see how this is unethical, you are either being willfully ignorant or really not smart, in which case your kids won't have much of a legs up regardless of how you screened them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I always told mine especially as they had a lost twin and I had pics of them in the petri dish which is kind of cool.

That would make me sad. I wouldn't want to know about that.

No, it’s cool just as PP said. Every parent should have pics of their kids at the petri-dish stage, at birth, 1st birthday, etc.

Why not?

[Anonymous]

Tell them as soon as possible. Waiting makes it seem like it’s problematic. Our son has known as long as he has known himself and happily talks about donor siblings, etc. it’s normal. No scandal

[Anonymous]

It’s significant because it’s their origin story and we all have a right to know that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op get a life and stop trolling. Do share the “scientific method” available to assess the IQ of a fetus.

There are companies that run polygenic scores for IQ on embryo DNA data. A few people have already done this and I’m one of these people. This practice is not common yet, but will likely become more common over time. This is a serious question and I’m asking for answers on what age it’s appropriate to tell the kids about it.

They will come to know that you are a eugenicist whether you announce it or not, in all likelihood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op get a life and stop trolling. Do share the “scientific method” available to assess the IQ of a fetus.

There are companies that run polygenic scores for IQ on embryo DNA data. A few people have already done this and I’m one of these people. This practice is not common yet, but will likely become more common over time. This is a serious question and I’m asking for answers on what age it’s appropriate to tell the kids about it.

Snake oil. Fools and their money…….

It’s not snake oil, it’s a weighted coin flip. Better than just letting things be completely random and hoping for the best. Polygenic selection has already been validated in other species and farmers have been using it for over a decade.

Farmers have been selecting animal embryos based on IQ for over a decade?

Personally, I'd be embarrassed to tell my children that their parents were this gullible and/or desperate.

They have been selecting for other characteristics (eg milk production, muscle mass, etc, but the genetic architecture for polygenic traits is mostly additive. So you just need the SNP hits to tag the general area where causal variants are located to create polygenic scores that effectively select for traits.

Are you a scientist?

Obviously not

[Anonymous]

I plan to tell mine when they are adults. It's part of their medical history, in case correlations are ever fund to other health issues. And for them to know that we have a family history of fertility issues as that could inform their own decisions or discussions with doctors.

I don't see that it's something they need to know early. Doesn't seem "shocking" or even that salient IMO. I learned that my parents used fertility meds to have me, basically when I started talking about having kids with them. It was interesting to hear what they went through and I shared the details with my doctor. But it didn't feel like info I should have gotten earlier or needed to know when young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my kids were babies a friend recommended that you tell them on their first birthday. Of course one year olds don’t understand that, but the idea is that it isn’t something that is ever hidden. Just part of how you discuss their birth and biology with them. Then as they get older and ask questions about where babies come from it’s not pulling out some big secret to say “we wanted you so much so we went to a doctor to help us have you.”

This is a weird take. Your daughters may want to know when they start trying to have kids, but why would a 1 year old need to know this? Sperm meets egg is any conception story. Why would it matter if it was P in V or a petri dish?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s significant because it’s their origin story and we all have a right to know that

Looney tunes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We soul pass the IVF office in Arlington all the time and tell my kids that’s where Jonny was made. So probably a while ago?

Love this reply

I can only imagine how my kids would react

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op get a life and stop trolling. Do share the “scientific method” available to assess the IQ of a fetus.

There are companies that run polygenic scores for IQ on embryo DNA data. A few people have already done this and I’m one of these people. This practice is not common yet, but will likely become more common over time. This is a serious question and I’m asking for answers on what age it’s appropriate to tell the kids about it.

Snake oil. Fools and their money…….

It’s not snake oil, it’s a weighted coin flip. Better than just letting things be completely random and hoping for the best. Polygenic selection has already been validated in other species and farmers have been using it for over a decade.

Farmers have been selecting animal embryos based on IQ for over a decade?

Personally, I'd be embarrassed to tell my children that their parents were this gullible and/or desperate.

Apparently farmers look at the whorl patterns of hair on a cows head to determine temperament. There is some sort of correlation.