Are most marriages just meh after 10-20 years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the wife is pleasant and in reasonable shape, marriage will be good

Wrong. Or at least, not from her perspective.

I would say: in a hetero marriage, if the man keeps trying, the marriage will be good. Whatever effort a man puts into his marriage, the woman will give back 2 fold.

Mileage varies. A lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One should assign a wide margin of error when categorizing someone else’s marriage as happy from the outside. My spouse is about to bomb drop all our friends with news of our divorce. I know everyone thinks we have a great marriage. And we did - so much fun, no fighting, total team - until we didn’t. Things went downhill very quickly in a matter of months when my spouse decided to walk out on us. (Our closest friends know but we are about to tell the wider social group that we only see every 2-3 months).

This has happened to several couples I know.

I think sometimes a person can’t even guess how their own marriage is going. They decide they are happy enough and push everything down.

[Anonymous]

VERY meh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One should assign a wide margin of error when categorizing someone else’s marriage as happy from the outside. My spouse is about to bomb drop all our friends with news of our divorce. I know everyone thinks we have a great marriage. And we did - so much fun, no fighting, total team - until we didn’t. Things went downhill very quickly in a matter of months when my spouse decided to walk out on us. (Our closest friends know but we are about to tell the wider social group that we only see every 2-3 months).

Why did he walk out??? I’m so sorry!

[Anonymous]

We’re 27 yrs married, 29 together and it’s not meh. Great sex, lots of fun together, lots of laughs.

My husband has very little emotional intelligence. That’s my one issue with him and I try not to dwell on it.