Would this be an obnoxious social media post?

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Anonymous wrote:I truly do not understand why it's obnoxious to say that you lost weight the old fashioned way.

It's a fact - diet and exercise are the old school, and healthiest, and MUCH more difficult way. People who lose and maintain weight via diet and exercise should be commended.

Medication isn't wrong, but it absolutely is easier. And not as much work. And not as healthier for you, both physically and mentally. People who really need them should have access, but diet and exercise ARE the superior way. People who are butthurt are just jealous.

Where did you go to medical school?

What does that have to do with anything?

The reason people are resorting to meds, is precisely because losing weight the natural way is HARD. And keeping it off is HARDER. You want people to feel bad about accomplishing hard things? Just because you couldn't lose weight and keep it off naturally, doesn't mean people should feel ashamed about their consistent hard work.

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Anonymous wrote:Not obnoxious, but I'm just curious how you're going to phrase it. Keeping the weight off for 10 years is awesome, I just don't know how it could be worded without it just coming off as....awkward. Personally I'd just buy an outfit that made me look awesome and have someone take a great pic of me and post that with some "feeling fabulous at 50" type of caption.

"Feeling fabulous at 50 - all those years of hard work and discipline, developing and maintaining a lifestyle of healthy eating and healthy exercise have really paid off!" How is something like that "awkward?"

It's just, why? Do you crave validation that much? Most people I know eat healthy food and work out. I might "like" the post because when people are that hungry for validation I try to give it. But it doesn't make me think they are secure in themselves or "feeling fabulous."

Yeah I guess that's what I mean by awkward. Posting a great photo of yourself with a simple "feeling fabulous at 50" just seems like a fun post. The meaning comes across that you feel happy and great. But the long caption above? It's so cringey.

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about this except you.

Seriously. I will think that you are obnoxious if you post that. What do you think about how I sign off this post in this anonymous forum?

- Naturally skinny-minny

Not the same thing. You didn't work hard for it.

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Anonymous wrote:Focusing on the "doing it the old fashioned" way is the obnoxious part. You can be proud of yourself without being overtly judgemental about people who are/were just like you but have a harder time with the traditional methods of weight loss relative to you.

This. That’s great that you’re feeling so proud of your efforts and how you look and feel. AND it’s not a good look to come off as being better than those who have used other ways to lose weight.

Post a fabulous picture of yourself with something about how you’re loving life at 50. Do NOT include any information about how you achieved it “the old fashioned way” without meds, surgery, etc.

This is just such nonsense. You people are making OP's accomplishments about everyone else and are taking away from OP -- just like you claim she would be doing by noting she lost weight without surgery or pills. OP's intended social media post - on her own social media account, not butting in on someone else's announcement - is about HER and should be about her. I guess it would be fine for her to post how she lost and maintained if she used meds; but since she managed to do it without technological medical interventions, she needs to just shut-up?!

OP - celebrate yourself and your hard work. If your friends are offended that you were successful with hard work, that's your friends' problem. Personally, I would appreciate the inspiration and the hope and encouragement that your story would provide me.

I posted above that OP should say what she actually did and not just “old fashioned way” because it is still framed against the “newer” ways and not solely about what OP did.

I suppose I should be surprised by the reactions here, but I am - if OP had taken wegovy and wanted to post that, I am skeptical she would have received any pushback or comments that her post was showy or obnoxious or whatever.

Personally I am against posts about weight loss of any kind. If my friend is proud of their weight loss I’m usually not going to validate that in and of itself. Chances are I liked my friend before, too, and don’t want to imply that they are “better” now.

If my friend is proud of doing something healthy, I would validate it. It has nothing to do with whether thinking or implying that she is better now than before. If OP had 60 pounds to lose, chances are she really improved so many aspects of her life. It’s totally fine to give her kudos. People are very weird about weight.

I would also validate my friends weight loss if I knew she was working hard at that, but that is personal and between two people. I would assume OPs closest friends already know and validate her hard work. Wanting validation from your whole friends list of mostly acquaintances and people you haven’t been in touch with for years is obnoxious

What do you think the whole point of social media has been?!
OP's accomplishment post would be far more interesting and inspiring than yet another photo of someone's meal at some expensive restaurant or selfies on some extravagant expensive trip. Talk about obnoxious and making others feel bad about their inferior lives!

It's no different than all those obnoxious Christmas letters people write to "share" their family's unparalleled successes and touting how "blessed" they've been.

I’m not triggered by Christmas letters or weight loss posts. Sorry your life is so small and petty!

I'm fine with the weight loss post - I've been strongly encouraging it in this thread. The Christmas letters, imo, are more boastful. OP is celebrating.

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Anonymous wrote:Not obnoxious, but I'm just curious how you're going to phrase it. Keeping the weight off for 10 years is awesome, I just don't know how it could be worded without it just coming off as....awkward. Personally I'd just buy an outfit that made me look awesome and have someone take a great pic of me and post that with some "feeling fabulous at 50" type of caption.

"Feeling fabulous at 50 - all those years of hard work and discipline, developing and maintaining a lifestyle of healthy eating and healthy exercise have really paid off!" How is something like that "awkward?"

It's just, why? Do you crave validation that much? Most people I know eat healthy food and work out. I might "like" the post because when people are that hungry for validation I try to give it. But it doesn't make me think they are secure in themselves or "feeling fabulous."

I'll assume every single social media post you make is for the benefit of others and not at all just because you want to share something.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, it’s obnoxious. Just post an updated picture of yourself, maybe say something like turning 50 and never felt better

This is the answer.

Signed someone whose lose 150lbs the “old fashioned way” (keto), kept if off for 5 years and has never posted about it on my personal FB.

I wouldn't consider keto "the old fashioned way."

Why not? With Keto you have to completely change eating habits. Isn’t that the old fashioned way? Cutting carbs, high protein eating less.


No matter, OP know this would be obnoxious to post, that’s why she’s asking, hoping the DCUM braggarts will agree with her. As a poster said earlier, if op has kept the weight off for 10 years, who is this post for in her friend group. Don’t her FRIENDS know her story?

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Anonymous wrote:A one off? No. not at all. Especially if they know you don't post much at all. Make sure you tell them you did it all with no medication or surgery!

Good job op.

Fork off.

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Anonymous wrote:Just post a great looking photo. People who knew you when will see the difference and comment that you look great. Congrats on your effort!

This, and congrats OP!
Post a fabulous picture, and mention how it’s been a difficult and uphill journey to get the weight off from a starting point of clinical pbesity, but you’re grateful to make it to 50…..
It’s all about spin, isn’t it?

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Who in your life sparked this feeling? It sounds like someone you know recently made a similar post, and you're feeling some kind of way about it. Has it been 10 years? Not something to post about at this point, or ever, really. IMO. But, as a side note, congrats OP. You did that!