Would this be an obnoxious social media post?

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Anonymous wrote:Not obnoxious until you get to the old-fashioned way part. The rest is great.

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I think you say you worked hard on dietary changes and exercise without taking a dig saying outright "the old-fashioned" way.

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The thing OP is that you have maintained for 10 years. Lots of people may not even remember your “before” and some people may not have even known you then!

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I truly do not understand why it's obnoxious to say that you lost weight the old fashioned way.

It's a fact - diet and exercise are the old school, and healthiest, and MUCH more difficult way. People who lose and maintain weight via diet and exercise should be commended.

Medication isn't wrong, but it absolutely is easier. And not as much work. And not as healthier for you, both physically and mentally. People who really need them should have access, but diet and exercise ARE the superior way. People who are butthurt are just jealous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not obnoxious, but I'm just curious how you're going to phrase it. Keeping the weight off for 10 years is awesome, I just don't know how it could be worded without it just coming off as....awkward. Personally I'd just buy an outfit that made me look awesome and have someone take a great pic of me and post that with some "feeling fabulous at 50" type of caption.

"Feeling fabulous at 50 - all those years of hard work and discipline, developing and maintaining a lifestyle of healthy eating and healthy exercise have really paid off!" How is something like that "awkward?"

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Anonymous wrote:Focusing on the "doing it the old fashioned" way is the obnoxious part. You can be proud of yourself without being overtly judgemental about people who are/were just like you but have a harder time with the traditional methods of weight loss relative to you.

This. That’s great that you’re feeling so proud of your efforts and how you look and feel. AND it’s not a good look to come off as being better than those who have used other ways to lose weight.

Post a fabulous picture of yourself with something about how you’re loving life at 50. Do NOT include any information about how you achieved it “the old fashioned way” without meds, surgery, etc.

This is just such nonsense. You people are making OP's accomplishments about everyone else and are taking away from OP -- just like you claim she would be doing by noting she lost weight without surgery or pills. OP's intended social media post - on her own social media account, not butting in on someone else's announcement - is about HER and should be about her. I guess it would be fine for her to post how she lost and maintained if she used meds; but since she managed to do it without technological medical interventions, she needs to just shut-up?!

OP - celebrate yourself and your hard work. If your friends are offended that you were successful with hard work, that's your friends' problem. Personally, I would appreciate the inspiration and the hope and encouragement that your story would provide me.

I posted above that OP should say what she actually did and not just “old fashioned way” because it is still framed against the “newer” ways and not solely about what OP did.

I suppose I should be surprised by the reactions here, but I am - if OP had taken wegovy and wanted to post that, I am skeptical she would have received any pushback or comments that her post was showy or obnoxious or whatever.

Personally I am against posts about weight loss of any kind. If my friend is proud of their weight loss I’m usually not going to validate that in and of itself. Chances are I liked my friend before, too, and don’t want to imply that they are “better” now.

If my friend is proud of doing something healthy, I would validate it. It has nothing to do with whether thinking or implying that she is better now than before. If OP had 60 pounds to lose, chances are she really improved so many aspects of her life. It’s totally fine to give her kudos. People are very weird about weight.

I would also validate my friends weight loss if I knew she was working hard at that, but that is personal and between two people. I would assume OPs closest friends already know and validate her hard work. Wanting validation from your whole friends list of mostly acquaintances and people you haven’t been in touch with for years is obnoxious

What do you think the whole point of social media has been?!
OP's accomplishment post would be far more interesting and inspiring than yet another photo of someone's meal at some expensive restaurant or selfies on some extravagant expensive trip. Talk about obnoxious and making others feel bad about their inferior lives!

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, it’s obnoxious. Just post an updated picture of yourself, maybe say something like turning 50 and never felt better

This is the answer.

Signed someone whose lose 150lbs the “old fashioned way” (keto), kept if off for 5 years and has never posted about it on my personal FB.

I wouldn't consider keto "the old fashioned way."

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Anonymous wrote:If you post now about doing it "the old fashioned way" I would assume you are on Ozempic and feeling guilty about it. Because it's a weird thing to mention otherwise.

BS. You just wouldn't believe anyone lost 60# without meds.

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Anonymous wrote:I truly do not understand why it's obnoxious to say that you lost weight the old fashioned way.

It's a fact - diet and exercise are the old school, and healthiest, and MUCH more difficult way. People who lose and maintain weight via diet and exercise should be commended.

Medication isn't wrong, but it absolutely is easier. And not as much work. And not as healthier for you, both physically and mentally. People who really need them should have access, but diet and exercise ARE the superior way. People who are butthurt are just jealous.

Where did you go to medical school?

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Anonymous wrote:I truly do not understand why it's obnoxious to say that you lost weight the old fashioned way.

It's a fact - diet and exercise are the old school, and healthiest, and MUCH more difficult way. People who lose and maintain weight via diet and exercise should be commended.

Medication isn't wrong, but it absolutely is easier. And not as much work. And not as healthier for you, both physically and mentally. People who really need them should have access, but diet and exercise ARE the superior way. People who are butthurt are just jealous.

Where did you go to medical school?

DP- so you dispute that exercise and diet are the healthiest ways?

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Anonymous wrote:Focusing on the "doing it the old fashioned" way is the obnoxious part. You can be proud of yourself without being overtly judgemental about people who are/were just like you but have a harder time with the traditional methods of weight loss relative to you.

This. That’s great that you’re feeling so proud of your efforts and how you look and feel. AND it’s not a good look to come off as being better than those who have used other ways to lose weight.

Post a fabulous picture of yourself with something about how you’re loving life at 50. Do NOT include any information about how you achieved it “the old fashioned way” without meds, surgery, etc.

This is just such nonsense. You people are making OP's accomplishments about everyone else and are taking away from OP -- just like you claim she would be doing by noting she lost weight without surgery or pills. OP's intended social media post - on her own social media account, not butting in on someone else's announcement - is about HER and should be about her. I guess it would be fine for her to post how she lost and maintained if she used meds; but since she managed to do it without technological medical interventions, she needs to just shut-up?!

OP - celebrate yourself and your hard work. If your friends are offended that you were successful with hard work, that's your friends' problem. Personally, I would appreciate the inspiration and the hope and encouragement that your story would provide me.

I posted above that OP should say what she actually did and not just “old fashioned way” because it is still framed against the “newer” ways and not solely about what OP did.

I suppose I should be surprised by the reactions here, but I am - if OP had taken wegovy and wanted to post that, I am skeptical she would have received any pushback or comments that her post was showy or obnoxious or whatever.

Personally I am against posts about weight loss of any kind. If my friend is proud of their weight loss I’m usually not going to validate that in and of itself. Chances are I liked my friend before, too, and don’t want to imply that they are “better” now.

If my friend is proud of doing something healthy, I would validate it. It has nothing to do with whether thinking or implying that she is better now than before. If OP had 60 pounds to lose, chances are she really improved so many aspects of her life. It’s totally fine to give her kudos. People are very weird about weight.

I would also validate my friends weight loss if I knew she was working hard at that, but that is personal and between two people. I would assume OPs closest friends already know and validate her hard work. Wanting validation from your whole friends list of mostly acquaintances and people you haven’t been in touch with for years is obnoxious

What do you think the whole point of social media has been?!
OP's accomplishment post would be far more interesting and inspiring than yet another photo of someone's meal at some expensive restaurant or selfies on some extravagant expensive trip. Talk about obnoxious and making others feel bad about their inferior lives!

It's no different than all those obnoxious Christmas letters people write to "share" their family's unparalleled successes and touting how "blessed" they've been.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nobody cares about this except you.

Seriously. I will think that you are obnoxious if you post that. What do you think about how I sign off this post in this anonymous forum?

- Naturally skinny-minny

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Anonymous wrote:Focusing on the "doing it the old fashioned" way is the obnoxious part. You can be proud of yourself without being overtly judgemental about people who are/were just like you but have a harder time with the traditional methods of weight loss relative to you.

This. That’s great that you’re feeling so proud of your efforts and how you look and feel. AND it’s not a good look to come off as being better than those who have used other ways to lose weight.

Post a fabulous picture of yourself with something about how you’re loving life at 50. Do NOT include any information about how you achieved it “the old fashioned way” without meds, surgery, etc.

This is just such nonsense. You people are making OP's accomplishments about everyone else and are taking away from OP -- just like you claim she would be doing by noting she lost weight without surgery or pills. OP's intended social media post - on her own social media account, not butting in on someone else's announcement - is about HER and should be about her. I guess it would be fine for her to post how she lost and maintained if she used meds; but since she managed to do it without technological medical interventions, she needs to just shut-up?!

OP - celebrate yourself and your hard work. If your friends are offended that you were successful with hard work, that's your friends' problem. Personally, I would appreciate the inspiration and the hope and encouragement that your story would provide me.

I posted above that OP should say what she actually did and not just “old fashioned way” because it is still framed against the “newer” ways and not solely about what OP did.

I suppose I should be surprised by the reactions here, but I am - if OP had taken wegovy and wanted to post that, I am skeptical she would have received any pushback or comments that her post was showy or obnoxious or whatever.

Personally I am against posts about weight loss of any kind. If my friend is proud of their weight loss I’m usually not going to validate that in and of itself. Chances are I liked my friend before, too, and don’t want to imply that they are “better” now.

If my friend is proud of doing something healthy, I would validate it. It has nothing to do with whether thinking or implying that she is better now than before. If OP had 60 pounds to lose, chances are she really improved so many aspects of her life. It’s totally fine to give her kudos. People are very weird about weight.

I would also validate my friends weight loss if I knew she was working hard at that, but that is personal and between two people. I would assume OPs closest friends already know and validate her hard work. Wanting validation from your whole friends list of mostly acquaintances and people you haven’t been in touch with for years is obnoxious

What do you think the whole point of social media has been?!
OP's accomplishment post would be far more interesting and inspiring than yet another photo of someone's meal at some expensive restaurant or selfies on some extravagant expensive trip. Talk about obnoxious and making others feel bad about their inferior lives!

It's no different than all those obnoxious Christmas letters people write to "share" their family's unparalleled successes and touting how "blessed" they've been.

I’m not triggered by Christmas letters or weight loss posts. Sorry your life is so small and petty!

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Anonymous wrote:Not obnoxious, but I'm just curious how you're going to phrase it. Keeping the weight off for 10 years is awesome, I just don't know how it could be worded without it just coming off as....awkward. Personally I'd just buy an outfit that made me look awesome and have someone take a great pic of me and post that with some "feeling fabulous at 50" type of caption.

"Feeling fabulous at 50 - all those years of hard work and discipline, developing and maintaining a lifestyle of healthy eating and healthy exercise have really paid off!" How is something like that "awkward?"

It's just, why? Do you crave validation that much? Most people I know eat healthy food and work out. I might "like" the post because when people are that hungry for validation I try to give it. But it doesn't make me think they are secure in themselves or "feeling fabulous."

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Anonymous wrote:Just post a great looking photo. People who knew you when will see the difference and comment that you look great. Congrats on your effort!

Yes. Your friends will be happy for you; your enemies will be mad. Oh well.

Congratulations and happy birthday!

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I think it's fine. It's a lot better than my friend who has been taking one of the drugs (compounded tirzepatide) and has lost 50 lbs, but has posted nearly weekly about what a great job he's doing with his diet, how little he eats, how many new clothes he eats, and the latest, how much colder he feels now. That's truly obnoxious.

And no, there's no envy on my part since I'm not overweight.