"Boymoms"

[Anonymous]

I have a high energy loves digging in dirt little boy, but I was a high energy playing in the dirt little girl. My friend's daughter is the same age and they.go run around and dig holes together. That's just young kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“BoyMom” used as an insult means a mom making excuses for her sons’ behavior/lack of achievement/discipline problems because they’re a boy.

“BoyMom” used not as an insult means the trials and tribulations of a parent who must always approach laundry with wariness…

NP. The bolded part is usually the case. I have both, btw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a son and always saw boymom as a negative term.

To me it's used to describe people with the "boys will be boys" attitude or use the excuse of "oh well they are a boy" for their poor behavior. Or that their life is more chaotic, loud, messier , etc just because they have a boy and have some weird stereotypical idea that boys are loud, chaotic, and messy and girls are polite and sweet

+1
This is how women proliferate misogyny and the patriarchy - holding boys and girls to different behavioral standards.

100% this. It's not because they have only boys, it's because they make excuses for their boys bad behavior or their inability to rein them in or manage a schedule. In my family, my siblings and I only have girls, there are 8 in total. Some of them are loud and crazy, some of them are quiet and sweet. Some of them are involved in a ton of activities and require their parents to drive them all over from one thing to another, some do not. Life with multiple girls is no different than life with multiple boys, even if boymoms seem to think they are somehow different or special.

+3

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because they think boys have unique characteristics that make them both more charming and more difficult. Like “ive got two under 5 and they’re both boys so you know im busy!” Or “i have two teen boys so I’m always at the grocery!”

Heads up, boymoms-kids of both genders have varied temperaments, teenage girls often eat a ton too, and your boys likely wouldn’t make such a mess if you had higher expectations of them. -mom of boys and girls.

Boys and girls are in fact different in many ways. For example, how on Earth can you be the mom of both and still pretend that teen girls eat just as much as teen boys?

Either you’re underfeeding your sons, overfeeding your daughters, or (most likely) you’re the mom of elementary school aged kids.

Hey, boy mom. Everyone is different in many ways-on average I agree boys and girls are different.

However, since all of us are raising actual children and not an arithmetic mean of a child, the (small) differences seen on a population level are not nearly as meaningful as the idiosyncrasies of our actual children.

My willowy daughter eats like a horse and my lanky son like a bird, for example. But you do you, #boymom.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Usually it is used by moms with the super energetic rough and tumble type boys who get dirty a lot and play sports a lot. They assume everyone is like them.

We are not like them. My son is socially anxious, quiet, timid, and non-athletic. So are lots of boys. To me, "boymom" is the mom equivalent of toxic masculinity.

So, super energetic rough and tumble boys who like sports are engaging in toxic masculinity?

Of course some are.

- Locker room talk
- trash talk
- hazing
- cultural history of “jocks” bullying non-athletic kids

I can list many more toxic things that stem from the culture of male athletics.

Most aspects of male athletics are not negative. Some locker talk can be negative but mostly not. Same with “trash talk.”

I don’t know about a cultural history of jocks bullying non-athletes other than what’s in the movies but it’s rarely a thing now.

Hazing? It’s bad when it happens and it’s more rare now.

Taking the 5% of bad and applying it to the 95% of fine penalizes boys for nothing.

Let me know when the chess club starts stuffing kids into lockers lol.

Also, look at how you framed this… “penalizes boys…” My son is not like that at all. Many girls are. Being an aggressive jerk is not gender specific.

[Anonymous]

I read a snippet about a surfer who announced that he was going to be a "Girldad".
It was such a lame attempt to sound hip, as if calling himself a father and having a daughter would tarnish his cool.
He would probably dress his baby in AC/DC onesies to make sure the world knows he's still young and hip.

[Anonymous]

Some of you girlmoms are SUPER triggered, to the point of reporting completely benign (and truthful) posts, apparently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I read a snippet about a surfer who announced that he was going to be a "Girldad".
It was such a lame attempt to sound hip, as if calling himself a father and having a daughter would tarnish his cool.
He would probably dress his baby in AC/DC onesies to make sure the world knows he's still young and hip.

You are culturally illiterate. AC/DC mercy makes surfers feel hip?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All it means is that she has only sons. I always wanted a girl, but then had all boys. I realized that it was the perfect thing for me.

Lady, I have two girls and you don't see me walking around telling everyone I'm a #girlmom. I'm just a mom. You are too. We're all just moms.

How dare you identify as a mom? How cringe. I’m just a human, we all are

Aw did I strike a nerve, sweet little boymom? Get a life!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you girlmoms are SUPER triggered, to the point of reporting completely benign (and truthful) posts, apparently.

That's the thing, we don't refer to ourselves as girl moms or girl&boy moms. Stop trying to make fetch happen, boymom.

[Anonymous]

Meh, I hear girl-dad a lot more often than I hear boy-mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meh, I hear girl-dad a lot more often than I hear boy-mom.

They have a pony tail and skateboard? As-in, they skateboard to "work"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some of you girlmoms are SUPER triggered, to the point of reporting completely benign (and truthful) posts, apparently.

That's the thing, we don't refer to ourselves as girl moms or girl&boy moms. Stop trying to make fetch happen, boymom.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Meh, I hear girl-dad a lot more often than I hear boy-mom.

They have a pony tail and skateboard? As-in, they skateboard to "work"?

Just stop.

[Anonymous]

I used to say I was a boy mom. I have two boys, lots of energy, smelly everything, fart jokes, no going to the salon and getting mani/pedis, getting them to shop for clothes is torture, etc. Then “boy mom” came to mean excusing bad behavior (boys will be boys) and misogyny.