"Boymoms"

[Anonymous]

Some people just hate. It usually says more about them than anyone else.

[Anonymous]

It means most girls don’t want to play with my sons and their friends because they play tough, like tackle football without pad in our backyard. One girl likes to play with them and enjoys being physical.

When we get together we mostly only hang out with “boymoms” but we don’t call ourselves that.

Of 10 of my closest friends 8 have 2 or 3 boys. 2 have tomboys daughters and they are happy to feel welcome somewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have only boys and to top it off they are not athletic. No dance classes and also no sports equipment filling my garage.What should I call myself? Nerd-mom?

I have a boy like this and a girl. But the boy is still very much a boy even if he's not particularly athletic. Recently he wanted to go with me and his sister to see Wicket. But right away he was like "how many more hours?" and kept checking my phone to see the time and then he was mad he didn't go with his dad and older brother to see Gladiator. It's nature, not nurture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a son and always saw boymom as a negative term.

To me it's used to describe people with the "boys will be boys" attitude or use the excuse of "oh well they are a boy" for their poor behavior. Or that their life is more chaotic, loud, messier , etc just because they have a boy and have some weird stereotypical idea that boys are loud, chaotic, and messy and girls are polite and sweet

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This is how women proliferate misogyny and the patriarchy - holding boys and girls to different behavioral standards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmm...I'm a boy mom against my will. With a handful of boys and no girls, it's just a fact that I am a boy mom.

I never really thought of it as a bad thing. To me, it means my house is loud and sports are a really big deal. It means I'll never buy dresses for my kids, go to a kid's ballet event, or see Taylor Swift in concert. I don't miss those things.

I don't have any insight on girl drama or social media drama. But I have any kind of high-end sports gear you could ever imagine in my garage...and strewn all over the foyer and living room.

It doesn't mean I think boys are better. Or worse.

It just means that a large part of my parental identity is derived from the reality that my boys are boys...coupled with a sense of urgency to raise fine young men who will hopefully remain close to their parents and brothers for the rest of our lives.

Anyway, if people want to throw rocks at boy moms, I guess that's their business. I couldn't care less what random people think about me.

Yet, here you are spouting as if you care to random anonymous people who don't value your opinion. You do care or you wouldn't respond.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have only boys and to top it off they are not athletic. No dance classes and also no sports equipment filling my garage.What should I call myself? Nerd-mom?

How about just a "mom" who is raising the kids God gave her is the best way she know how? That's the way I view myself.

[Anonymous]

I have only boys but don’t consider myself boymom. My boys are individual people in their own right. But even I have to admit that they are…well…boys. Sometimes that means they have a certain set of traits.

[Anonymous]

I think it is the people who call themselves #boymoms who are mocked. No one cares if your kids are girls or boys or both if you don’t self-claim it as your identity.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have only boys and to top it off they are not athletic. No dance classes and also no sports equipment filling my garage.What should I call myself? Nerd-mom?

I have a boy like this and a girl. But the boy is still very much a boy even if he's not particularly athletic. Recently he wanted to go with me and his sister to see Wicket. But right away he was like "how many more hours?" and kept checking my phone to see the time and then he was mad he didn't go with his dad and older brother to see Gladiator. It's nature, not nurture.

It's both unless you're nit very bright and make up facts based on a couple antidotes and few data points.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is the people who call themselves #boymoms who are mocked. No one cares if your kids are girls or boys or both if you don’t self-claim it as your identity.

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It's pathetic when women do this.... or men for that matter.

[Anonymous]

Different style of parenting. Slightly. They are hardened, somewhat. Have to be.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have only boys and to top it off they are not athletic. No dance classes and also no sports equipment filling my garage.What should I call myself? Nerd-mom?

I have a boy like this and a girl. But the boy is still very much a boy even if he's not particularly athletic. Recently he wanted to go with me and his sister to see Wicket. But right away he was like "how many more hours?" and kept checking my phone to see the time and then he was mad he didn't go with his dad and older brother to see Gladiator. It's nature, not nurture.

It's both unless you're nit very bright and make up facts based on a couple antidotes and few data points.

Nit very bright? Haha. So smug, so not very bright.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have only boys and to top it off they are not athletic. No dance classes and also no sports equipment filling my garage.What should I call myself? Nerd-mom?

I have a boy like this and a girl. But the boy is still very much a boy even if he's not particularly athletic. Recently he wanted to go with me and his sister to see Wicket. But right away he was like "how many more hours?" and kept checking my phone to see the time and then he was mad he didn't go with his dad and older brother to see Gladiator. It's nature, not nurture.

It's both unless you're nit very bright and make up facts based on a couple antidotes and few data points.

DP but I believe it’s mostly nature with nurture smoothing out the edges, which is important of course. It’s funny but I absolutely believed the nurture argument until I had boys.

Did you ever read Nuture Shock?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hmm...I'm a boy mom against my will. With a handful of boys and no girls, it's just a fact that I am a boy mom.

I never really thought of it as a bad thing. To me, it means my house is loud and sports are a really big deal. It means I'll never buy dresses for my kids, go to a kid's ballet event, or see Taylor Swift in concert. I don't miss those things.

I don't have any insight on girl drama or social media drama. But I have any kind of high-end sports gear you could ever imagine in my garage...and strewn all over the foyer and living room.

It doesn't mean I think boys are better. Or worse.

It just means that a large part of my parental identity is derived from the reality that my boys are boys...coupled with a sense of urgency to raise fine young men who will hopefully remain close to their parents and brothers for the rest of our lives.

Anyway, if people want to throw rocks at boy moms, I guess that's their business. I couldn't care less what random people think about me.

Yet, here you are spouting as if you care to random anonymous people who don't value your opinion. You do care or you wouldn't respond.

Chiming in on DCUM shouldn’t be interpreted as caring what others think.

And just because you don’t value my opinion doesn’t mean others share your perspective. Regardless, every post in this thread is merely the opinion of one anonymous person. Lighten up, pp.

[Anonymous]

Having only boys doesn’t make you a boy mom, just as having girls doesn’t make you a girl mom.

needing to specify like this says something abt you, not your #boys.