No rest for the weary moms

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Anonymous wrote:Then they don't get to sled and you don't do laundry. Prioritize what actually needs to be done. You can wear dirty clothes and have bored kids on tablets while you recover and do some semblance of work.

This. But I'm confused why DH is off the hook if you both work? I am SAHM so I have never understood the dynamics of this.

Agreed. Time for DH to tap in. Is he home?

OP said he did the two weeks of winter break. It’s her turn.

Umm no, that’s not what she said [/quote

No it's not. I'm sure he did what many other white collar working people did the two weeks of break and took off because it was very slow. Now everyone is back and people are "circling back" to all the things they tabled before Christmas. It is very busy. Welcome to the club; there are memes about this it is so common.

I am a mom and have an often-cited as an excuse to not participate in the family "busy dad" job and still took leave or worked at night to be around for my kids and help my DH and he was not even sick. Your DH is a selfish dud.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Imagine if you had real problems. You’d crumple to dust.

Couldn’t agree more. Suck it up buttercup. Your house will be a mess for a few days. Or DH and kids help more. It’s not rocket science.

Harsh Truth +1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op - yes I understand all the criticism being hurled at me.

I am sick and one of my kids is sick. It’s hard to find anyone who wants to come into a house with the flu. So we are pretty much sequestered to ourselves.

We are just waiting for the rest of us to come down with the flu as well. It usually comes in waves in our house. One goes and then we all topple like dominions.

So do you just want to be a martyr? I'm trying to understand your mindset of posting and doing what you're doing. You and one kid have the flu. It's perfectly fine to say "no. We are sick. We aren't going outside sledding".

I haven’t read the whole thread, but is there a reason (other than martyrdom) that OP isn’t taking sick leave rather than trying to work?

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Anonymous wrote:How old are the kids?

OP - kids are between 4-9 years old.

Time for them to learn life skills

They make the food . They help
With laundry etc . By the way laundry can wait keeping your house clean while you spread germs awesome parenting.

Get in the couch and do your dam job as a mother and teach them how to help you,

For <bleep's> sake that might be the least helpful thing ever said on DCUM.

Now's not the time for this lecture.

I truly don’t understand why people are like this.

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Anonymous wrote:Op - yes I understand all the criticism being hurled at me.

I am sick and one of my kids is sick. It’s hard to find anyone who wants to come into a house with the flu. So we are pretty much sequestered to ourselves.

We are just waiting for the rest of us to come down with the flu as well. It usually comes in waves in our house. One goes and then we all topple like dominions.

So do you just want to be a martyr? I'm trying to understand your mindset of posting and doing what you're doing. You and one kid have the flu. It's perfectly fine to say "no. We are sick. We aren't going outside sledding".

I haven’t read the whole thread, but is there a reason (other than martyrdom) that OP isn’t taking sick leave rather than trying to work?

No. This entire thread wouldn't exist if OP didn't insist on being a martyr. Although I do wonder if she's more exaggerating than being a martyr.

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Op hope you are napping.

Laundry can wait.
Kids can self-entertain.
DH can feed them convenience foods or order dominos.
You definitely should take a sick day.

If you indeed have flu, get tamiflu. And feel better.

[Anonymous]

Since Tuesday, I’ve been powered solely by rage at my husband for being the most selfish, laziest person I have ever known.

I actually recommend it, I feel pretty amped up and I was really into today’s snowball fight.

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There are plenty of teenagers who would love to babysit and entertain your kids while you lay in bed and be sick. Find one of them and pay them. Let your dh deal with laundry and meals. If you must work, do it from your bed.

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I wouldn’t be doing any of those things. I’d be in bed or on the sofa while I have my kids wait on me.

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A high school kid would have taken the kids out for $60. What's with the dog? Send it out to back yard.
Laundry can wait and food can be ordered in.
9-year old can keep younger ones busy.
I guess I do have an easy life. No big house, no animals (I grew up on a farm; not missing out), no job (27 years is plenty), and school was open yesterday already.
The younger kid was taken to the hill two days in a row by classmates, kept for hours, fed, and dropped off at night.
Relatives also asked if the kid would like to come sledding with them on Saturday.
Less to do is better than to get more done.

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Turn the TV on. Order a pizza. And sit down somewhere. Leave the laundry and other household until your DH is done with work.

Taking your kids sled outside while you have the flu is crazy, and martyr-ish.

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What kind of moron takes a kid with the flu sledding?

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Why the hell are you cooking if you have the flu?

Honestly I use every convenience imaginable when I am sick and still have to be responsible for my kids. That means convenience food, paid help in every possible way etc…and if need be my kids can be on electronics/watch tv all day. And I don’t feel bad about it at all.

[Anonymous]

Let us count the number of times I have shouted at my kids since Monday ...
"I am NOT the maid!"
"Make your own breakfast, you are 15!"
"Please let me work for 5 minutes without interruption!"
"Take your dog, that I didn't want but you begged for, for a walk so it stops barking at me!"
"I don't know where your black sweatpants are! Did you look in your closet?"
"Please, for the love of god, stop arguing while I'm on this call!"
"No, you cannot DoorDash your lunch!"
"Brush your teeth, it's past noon!"
"What do you mean you don't know where your toothbrush is?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since Tuesday, I’ve been powered solely by rage at my husband for being the most selfish, laziest person I have ever known.

I actually recommend it, I feel pretty amped up and I was really into today’s snowball fight.

This made me laugh, but I am sorry about your DH. I have been there. We went to therapy and it got waaaay better. Hope he steps up, you deserve it.