No rest for the weary moms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry but you need to call your H on his BS.

He can take the time off - that’s what leave is for. If he’s worried about getting fired there’s a much deeper issue with his job that needs to be addressed.

And even if he does work 8:30-6, what exactly is he doing the rest of the day? He can get up at 530am to start laundry, walk the dog, make breakfast, pack lunches the kids can grab themselves. From 6pm-9pm he can finish laundry, make dinner, walk the dog, do the dishes from the day.

If he’s sleeping in and expecting a clean house when he gets off work that’s a major problem.

Holy F, I missed that you were that sick. Your DH is a cad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op - yes I understand all the criticism being hurled at me.

I am sick and one of my kids is sick. It’s hard to find anyone who wants to come into a house with the flu. So we are pretty much sequestered to ourselves.

We are just waiting for the rest of us to come down with the flu as well. It usually comes in waves in our house. One goes and then we all topple like dominions.

So do you just want to be a martyr? I'm trying to understand your mindset of posting and doing what you're doing. You and one kid have the flu. It's perfectly fine to say "no. We are sick. We aren't going outside sledding".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op - yes I understand all the criticism being hurled at me.

I am sick and one of my kids is sick. It’s hard to find anyone who wants to come into a house with the flu. So we are pretty much sequestered to ourselves.

We are just waiting for the rest of us to come down with the flu as well. It usually comes in waves in our house. One goes and then we all topple like dominions.

None of this explains why your husband can’t step up.

[Anonymous]

So what if your husband has calls "off and on" all day from 8:30-6? In a situation like this, When he is in the "off" periods he can help by moving laundry, checking on the kids and taking the dog out for a few minutes, etc.

[Anonymous]

Why have you been out sledding if everyone has the flu? Like actual diagnosed flu? You and the affected kid should be in bed.

To be honest this sounds like fabricated whining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why have you been out sledding if everyone has the flu? Like actual diagnosed flu? You and the affected kid should be in bed.

To be honest this sounds like fabricated whining.

This. They should be in bed, H should be taking care of everything else in between calls, and he should be doing things like takeout/delivery or hiring a dog walker if needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why have you been out sledding if everyone has the flu? Like actual diagnosed flu? You and the affected kid should be in bed.

To be honest this sounds like fabricated whining.

It sounds like OPs husband is uninvolved so OP probably does all this to whine in order to get some attention. It's very odd to me.

[Anonymous]

Posts like this remind me to be incredibly thankful for my DH.

[Anonymous]

I have been in your shoes.
If you and a child have the flu
#1 - you connect with your work and you put an out of office on.
#2 - you stay in bed as does the child with the flu.
#3 - your DH figures out how to manage kids and work
I do not understand how you can go sledding with the flu or why you would take a child with the flu sledding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why have you been out sledding if everyone has the flu? Like actual diagnosed flu? You and the affected kid should be in bed.

To be honest this sounds like fabricated whining.

+3
Trying to follow and sympathetic, but conflicting info.

Actual flu means you're bedridden and eating very little or at the very least not sledding and eating much to cause the amt of dirty dishes that is seemingly time consuming for you to clean, but everyone is sledding AND eating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why have you been out sledding if everyone has the flu? Like actual diagnosed flu? You and the affected kid should be in bed.

To be honest this sounds like fabricated whining.

It sounds like OPs husband is uninvolved so OP probably does all this to whine in order to get some attention. It's very odd to me.

He’s probably in sales, which means PTO doesn’t really mean anything — you don’t earn commission sledding.

And he makes the bulk of the family money, and op has like a hobby job

[Anonymous]

The kids are old enough to play in the front yard by themselves/with each other whole you do work inside?

Time to bring out that over supply of gifts they got from Christmas.
Surely, there's a Lego set or 2 in your rainy day closet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why have you been out sledding if everyone has the flu? Like actual diagnosed flu? You and the affected kid should be in bed.

To be honest this sounds like fabricated whining.

It sounds like OPs husband is uninvolved so OP probably does all this to whine in order to get some attention. It's very odd to me.

He’s probably in sales, which means PTO doesn’t really mean anything — you don’t earn commission sledding.

And he makes the bulk of the family money, and op has like a hobby job

Oy. I'm not OP. My DH has the more "real" job in our family, and mine is very flexible, but it's not a "hobby." Job. It's very real, I just mommy-tracked myself and my company allowed it.

Yes I think there are scenarios where OP's DH could be still in-the-right to be busy most of the day, but that doesn't mean we have to denigrate what OP does.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then they don't get to sled and you don't do laundry. Prioritize what actually needs to be done. You can wear dirty clothes and have bored kids on tablets while you recover and do some semblance of work.

This. But I'm confused why DH is off the hook if you both work? I am SAHM so I have never understood the dynamics of this.

Agreed. Time for DH to tap in. Is he home?

OP said he did the two weeks of winter break. It’s her turn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Then they don't get to sled and you don't do laundry. Prioritize what actually needs to be done. You can wear dirty clothes and have bored kids on tablets while you recover and do some semblance of work.

This. But I'm confused why DH is off the hook if you both work? I am SAHM so I have never understood the dynamics of this.

Agreed. Time for DH to tap in. Is he home?

OP said he did the two weeks of winter break. It’s her turn.

Umm no, that’s not what she said