Nosy neighbors

[Anonymous]

Aren't most people busy working that they probably aren't staring long enough to know what is going on??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's a level of interest in people coming and going and their activity that is excessive. Hard to pinpoint the line exactly. Like if I'm friendly with my neighbor and they notice a couch delivery or that my parents were staying with me for a couple weeks, I wouldn't find that weird. Those kinds of things are fairly obvious and it's not weird to notice.

But I have one neighbor who very clearly keeps track of when we leave the house and come back, every delivery, every guest, every time we have a contractor or service person at our house. And comments on it like it's appropriate for them to be tracking all this info. It totally makes me feel like he's just parked at his window all day long and keeping tabs on us in a way that feels creepy.

I also just compare it to myself and I just do not have the time or interest to pay that close attention to my neighbors. I keep an eye out for anything *wrong* at their house because I think that's part of being a good neighbor, and when I talk to them I express an interest in their lives or might comment on some external improvements they've made. But if you asked me what time they leave for work or how often they get packages or whether they had people over for football on Sunday, I couldn't answer those questions because it's none of my business and it's not important for me to know.

I have a neighbor like this. She knows everything about everybody and will happily share all her info with everyone. She must be stationed at her front window 24/7 just monitoring the neighborhood.

[Anonymous]

How about having someone in your neighborhood show up at the grocery store at same time same day as you regularly. Coincidence, every.time?? The store is not in the neighborhood. Creepy.

[Anonymous]

What are your pet peeves of neighbors on your street?

[Anonymous]

Huge inflatables in their front yard. None of the other neighbors have them. Tacky. Their kids are teen and tween.

[Anonymous]

One neighbor did this. Now most houses on the block have them. 🎃👻

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How about having someone in your neighborhood show up at the grocery store at same time same day as you regularly. Coincidence, every.time?? The store is not in the neighborhood. Creepy.

Why are YOU there?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How about having someone in your neighborhood show up at the grocery store at same time same day as you regularly. Coincidence, every.time?? The store is not in the neighborhood. Creepy.

Why are YOU there?

Why do YOU care?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One neighbor did this. Now most houses on the block have them. 🎃👻

Tacky

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are your pet peeves of neighbors on your street?

The young couple who hook up in their. Living room every other day without closing their blinds

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The scent of skunk weed every day

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Anonymous wrote:Ambulance at house - happened several times with DC with chronic illness - neighbors stand on the sidewalk and stare. Maybe they’ll catch my eye and ask if everyone’s ok - how to answer- I usually mutter we’re ok. Are they seriously concerned that someone has died? No we are not ok because an ambulance is here and it’s none of your business.

You must have missed the post a few weeks ago where several nutters encouraging a neighbor insert themselves into the active EMT scene offering help. Yeah, that's a nosy neighbor.

If an ambulance shows up nearish your house and disturbs you (you can hear the ambulance and fire truck even if no siren), it becomes your business. Maybe you were sleeping and you have been woken up. but doesn't necessarily mean you have a right to know what medical emergency happened because that would be nosy.

It's utterly trashy to walk out and stare. Rude. I can't believe people were never taught how to behave in this situation. The proper behavior is to peek surreptitiously from a window.

"Lots of people are from other cultures, and [b]I am sorry it makes you uncomfortable. Check your privilege."

So? Does not make it right. Weirdos!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How about having someone in your neighborhood show up at the grocery store at same time same day as you regularly. Coincidence, every.time?? The store is not in the neighborhood. Creepy.

Are you saying they follow you?!

[Anonymous]

I honestly-to-god do not know how my next door neighbors seem to know all happenings within the neighborhood. They know the gossip, rumors, innuendo, and everything else. Interestingly enough, they are generally very reserved and private. Could be because there are row houses and we share walls? Maybe they are spooks?

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Anonymous wrote:Most of these examples are small talk or trying to be helpful, not nosy.
I mean asking your neighbors if they’re going on a trip when you see them packing the car? That’s completely normal conversation.
Showing up when an ambulance comes? I would make sure my neighbors didn’t need childcare in this situation.

We've found the nosy neighbor. If you're that close with them you text them asking if they need help. You do not show up. You don't have their cell phone #? You're not close enough that they would need your help.

In emergencies like this people might not even hear their text notifications or think to check their texts. Or if they do they could have so many texts happening that yours is lost in the shuffle. Or they might have left their phones in the house or even misplaced them. etc etc. A neighbor asking in person on the spot if they can help with child care seems normal to me. Does everything in our lives -- even emergency help -- have to happen via screens now??