Nosy neighbors

[Anonymous]

neighbor A saw neighbor B look at the fencing between neighbor B and neighbor C's house
then
neighbor A went to neighbor C to tell neighbor C that neighbor A was looking at peeking into their house

[Anonymous]

Should forward our stories to our neighbors hopefully they read this forum lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Basically someone who seems to know by heart what time you leave for work as well as what time you return.

Also one who can describe fully all your visitors too.

The real question for me is WHY some people are like this. I just can't imagine having so little going on in my own life that I would sit around watching my neighbor's every move.

I live in a condo building and our upstairs neighbors are like this. And no they aren't empty nester retirees where you could chalk it up to boredom or loneliness. They are a married couple in their 30s with full time jobs. But they WFH (so do many people in the building) and clearly spend a lot of their time watching neighbors and cataloguing our every move. It's creepy. I think they believe "info is power" or something because they will often discuss their extensive observations at community meetings (which is how we all know they do this) like it's some kind of gotcha.

But the stuff they observe is always normal things that no one is bothered by. Once they announced that they'd been keeping track of everyone coming in and out of the front gate (it's a low iron gate between the building front steps and the sidewalk, more of a visual barrier than a security device) and noting who had been not fully latching the gate, because they felt this posed a security risk. Like literally they were watching from their windows every morning and making a note like "2B fails to fully engage latch" every time someone left the building. It was funny when they presented this info in a meeting because I think they expected everyone to respond with gratitude for their efforts in rooting out which of our neighbors are more lax about latching the gate but instead every single person in the building was united in thinking this was creepy AF and they were asked to please stop tracking this behavior.

People have also caught them trying to eavesdrop outside people's apartment doors in the hallway or taking photographs in the parking area (but no one knows of what -- we don't have any parking-related issues that they've raised or that anyone can think of).

It's really weird and I definitely sometimes feel like I'm being watched around the building because they are in such close proximity to us. Their unit is right above ours and they can see our entrance from theirs because they are either end of the last flight of stairs. Their balcony is right above ours and DH and I have taken to never having conversations on our balcony because I think they listen in.

I think it must be a control thing. It's really unfortunate because we've had fantastic luck with neighbors in our building otherwise. I wish they'd move.

NP. Kinda seems like you're watching them a lot?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Basically someone who seems to know by heart what time you leave for work as well as what time you return.

Also one who can describe fully all your visitors too.

The real question for me is WHY some people are like this. I just can't imagine having so little going on in my own life that I would sit around watching my neighbor's every move.

I live in a condo building and our upstairs neighbors are like this. And no they aren't empty nester retirees where you could chalk it up to boredom or loneliness. They are a married couple in their 30s with full time jobs. But they WFH (so do many people in the building) and clearly spend a lot of their time watching neighbors and cataloguing our every move. It's creepy. I think they believe "info is power" or something because they will often discuss their extensive observations at community meetings (which is how we all know they do this) like it's some kind of gotcha.

But the stuff they observe is always normal things that no one is bothered by. Once they announced that they'd been keeping track of everyone coming in and out of the front gate (it's a low iron gate between the building front steps and the sidewalk, more of a visual barrier than a security device) and noting who had been not fully latching the gate, because they felt this posed a security risk. Like literally they were watching from their windows every morning and making a note like "2B fails to fully engage latch" every time someone left the building. It was funny when they presented this info in a meeting because I think they expected everyone to respond with gratitude for their efforts in rooting out which of our neighbors are more lax about latching the gate but instead every single person in the building was united in thinking this was creepy AF and they were asked to please stop tracking this behavior.

People have also caught them trying to eavesdrop outside people's apartment doors in the hallway or taking photographs in the parking area (but no one knows of what -- we don't have any parking-related issues that they've raised or that anyone can think of).

It's really weird and I definitely sometimes feel like I'm being watched around the building because they are in such close proximity to us. Their unit is right above ours and they can see our entrance from theirs because they are either end of the last flight of stairs. Their balcony is right above ours and DH and I have taken to never having conversations on our balcony because I think they listen in.

I think it must be a control thing. It's really unfortunate because we've had fantastic luck with neighbors in our building otherwise. I wish they'd move.

NP. Kinda seems like you're watching them a lot?

I didn't get that at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:neighbor A saw neighbor B look at the fencing between neighbor B and neighbor C's house
then
neighbor A went to neighbor C to tell neighbor C that neighbor A was looking at peeking into their house

correction in bold: *Neighbor B

We would be neighor B.
Neighbor C contacted us to ask us a question about our pile of leaves alluding to something between our properties. So, nosy neighbor A had told neighbor C about us (neighbor B). That nosy A is known to be very annoying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ambulance at house - happened several times with DC with chronic illness - neighbors stand on the sidewalk and stare. Maybe they’ll catch my eye and ask if everyone’s ok - how to answer- I usually mutter we’re ok. Are they seriously concerned that someone has died? No we are not ok because an ambulance is here and it’s none of your business.

You must have missed the post a few weeks ago where several nutters encouraging a neighbor insert themselves into the active EMT scene offering help. Yeah, that's a nosy neighbor.

If an ambulance shows up nearish your house and disturbs you (you can hear the ambulance and fire truck even if no siren), it becomes your business. Maybe you were sleeping and you have been woken up. but doesn't necessarily mean you have a right to know what medical emergency happened because that would be nosy.

It's utterly trashy to walk out and stare. Rude. I can't believe people were never taught how to behave in this situation. The proper behavior is to peek surreptitiously from a window.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A neighbor asking what came in the huge box you now have out for recycling.

Neighbor obviously peered outside to see DS wearing a (summer) job uniform - then asked next day asked me if her DS might be able to apply at the same site. “I saw Larlo in a uniform. Could he get Larlon a job?”

Same neighbor after I painted our front door; are you moving?

Years ago - different neighbor I didn’t know very well -saw me going out to the car, loading luggage, going out to my car, wrangling a dog and a toddler; ambles over to ask if I’m going on a trip and where.

Now we pack night before in the cover of darkness! No garage.

It really is a good idea to have a trusted neighbor keeping an eye on your house while you're away. I had to call my neighbor three times - twice when trees went through their house and once when a drunk driver hit their parked car. Another time I had to locate a family from preschool through the emergency phone tree. A tree went through their house while they were on vacation but their neighbors didn't know how to contact them.

It's better to have a neighbor who can see your house than a friend or relative a few miles away.

I also tell a neighbor I'll be away because the post office's performance with mail holds is problematic, and there's always stray letters.

I have been putting my mail on hold for decades via usps.com and have never had a single problem. Every single time the mail stops and resumes as expected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Ambulance at house - happened several times with DC with chronic illness - neighbors stand on the sidewalk and stare. Maybe they’ll catch my eye and ask if everyone’s ok - how to answer- I usually mutter we’re ok. Are they seriously concerned that someone has died? No we are not ok because an ambulance is here and it’s none of your business.

You must have missed the post a few weeks ago where several nutters encouraging a neighbor insert themselves into the active EMT scene offering help. Yeah, that's a nosy neighbor.

If an ambulance shows up nearish your house and disturbs you (you can hear the ambulance and fire truck even if no siren), it becomes your business. Maybe you were sleeping and you have been woken up. but doesn't necessarily mean you have a right to know what medical emergency happened because that would be nosy.

It's utterly trashy to walk out and stare. Rude. I can't believe people were never taught how to behave in this situation. The proper behavior is to peek surreptitiously from a window.

"Lots of people are from other cultures, and it is perfectly normal to just stare at people for hours. I am sorry it makes you uncomfortable. Check your privilege."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP and same neighbor who asked what we bought that came in such a big box (can’t remember now probably something random like a dishwasher) was a gem - he kept an eye out and noticed everything - called me one day to say that our front door had blown open (used to happen when it was unlocked) in a windstorm- he secured the house for us. We also swapped keys for emergency lockouts.

DH used to travel often when I’d be home with 3DC - this kindly neighbor (grandfather) was so reassuring - loved to remind me that he was just steps away and was here to help and never hesitate to call. He sat in our kitchen one morning when I didn’t want to wake our newborn just to get my big kids to the bus stops

I had a neighbor like that when dh and I bought our first home. He demanded a copy of our keys which we never gave him. He offered to give us a tour of two neighbors homes who were on vacation who had given him keys. After I had my first child and was a stay at home mom, he expected to be able to contact me at any time and if my door was not locked would just walk in my home. When we were having work done on our home, he came in through an open door to walk around our home. He and his wife were the worst gossips and talked horribly about everyone. I would come home from work and find him in my yard all the time.

It wasn't nice at all.

[Anonymous]

When spouse and I bought our first home one of the neighbors who is very Catholic came to greet me and told me she knew my dh was Catholic and I was not and that I was her project and I was going to become Catholic. The same woman came over and accused me of leaving my husband when I went on my first work trip after buying the home. I don't think she had a college degree and never worked and she did not believe a woman would ever be sent on a work trip. She told me I was lying. Dh and I avoided her forever after that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our listserv lights up if an unusual car is parked on the street. “Whose Toyota is parked in front of 471? It’s been there for 3 hours!”

Then twelve people reply, saying they don’t know who that Toyota belongs to. The thirteenth will say it’s their niece’s car, then will receive a reply-all gracious thanks from the OP, then number thirteen will reply again when they realize it’s not actually their niece’s Toyota because their niece is at class today and the niece’s car is a darker shade of blue.

So now some neighbors will email the listserv preemptively: “My friend Larla, VA plate 763 AFR, will be parked at my house today.”

It’s ridiculous and yet I read it all.

I would be that byotch and call them out on the listserve for being ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ambulance at house - happened several times with DC with chronic illness - neighbors stand on the sidewalk and stare. Maybe they’ll catch my eye and ask if everyone’s ok - how to answer- I usually mutter we’re ok. Are they seriously concerned that someone has died? No we are not ok because an ambulance is here and it’s none of your business.

You must have missed the post a few weeks ago where several nutters encouraging a neighbor insert themselves into the active EMT scene offering help. Yeah, that's a nosy neighbor.

If an ambulance shows up nearish your house and disturbs you (you can hear the ambulance and fire truck even if no siren), it becomes your business. Maybe you were sleeping and you have been woken up. but doesn't necessarily mean you have a right to know what medical emergency happened because that would be nosy.

It's utterly trashy to walk out and stare. Rude. I can't believe people were never taught how to behave in this situation. The proper behavior is to peek surreptitiously from a window.

"Lots of people are from other cultures, and it is perfectly normal to just stare at people for hours. I am sorry it makes you uncomfortable. Check your privilege."

It's rude behavior and people need to learn. I live in a neighborhood with lots of immigrants and this is common. Most of us hate it. I wave at the people staring from their windows. My family can't go for a walk without a couple of the neighbors staring. They clearly do nothing all day as we work from home and are in and out all day. Almost every single time one of them is there staring. Also if we have any thing done to our house or yard, there they are trying to inspect it. It's weird.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ambulance at house - happened several times with DC with chronic illness - neighbors stand on the sidewalk and stare. Maybe they’ll catch my eye and ask if everyone’s ok - how to answer- I usually mutter we’re ok. Are they seriously concerned that someone has died? No we are not ok because an ambulance is here and it’s none of your business.

You must have missed the post a few weeks ago where several nutters encouraging a neighbor insert themselves into the active EMT scene offering help. Yeah, that's a nosy neighbor.

If an ambulance shows up nearish your house and disturbs you (you can hear the ambulance and fire truck even if no siren), it becomes your business. Maybe you were sleeping and you have been woken up. but doesn't necessarily mean you have a right to know what medical emergency happened because that would be nosy.

It's utterly trashy to walk out and stare. Rude. I can't believe people were never taught how to behave in this situation. The proper behavior is to peek surreptitiously from a window.

"Lots of people are from other cultures, and it is perfectly normal to just stare at people for hours. I am sorry it makes you uncomfortable. Check your privilege."

It's rude behavior and people need to learn. I live in a neighborhood with lots of immigrants and this is common. Most of us hate it. I wave at the people staring from their windows. My family can't go for a walk without a couple of the neighbors staring. They clearly do nothing all day as we work from home and are in and out all day. Almost every single time one of them is there staring. Also if we have any thing done to our house or yard, there they are trying to inspect it. It's weird.

Sounds like you are demanding that they acquiesce to your white supremacist culture. Bigot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ambulance at house - happened several times with DC with chronic illness - neighbors stand on the sidewalk and stare. Maybe they’ll catch my eye and ask if everyone’s ok - how to answer- I usually mutter we’re ok. Are they seriously concerned that someone has died? No we are not ok because an ambulance is here and it’s none of your business.

You must have missed the post a few weeks ago where several nutters encouraging a neighbor insert themselves into the active EMT scene offering help. Yeah, that's a nosy neighbor.

If an ambulance shows up nearish your house and disturbs you (you can hear the ambulance and fire truck even if no siren), it becomes your business. Maybe you were sleeping and you have been woken up. but doesn't necessarily mean you have a right to know what medical emergency happened because that would be nosy.

It's utterly trashy to walk out and stare. Rude. I can't believe people were never taught how to behave in this situation. The proper behavior is to peek surreptitiously from a window.

"Lots of people are from other cultures, and it is perfectly normal to just stare at people for hours. I am sorry it makes you uncomfortable. Check your privilege."

Quoi? What cultures are these? Why the quotation marks? (Or is this some kind of a joke and I’m just not getting it?)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ambulance at house - happened several times with DC with chronic illness - neighbors stand on the sidewalk and stare. Maybe they’ll catch my eye and ask if everyone’s ok - how to answer- I usually mutter we’re ok. Are they seriously concerned that someone has died? No we are not ok because an ambulance is here and it’s none of your business.

You must have missed the post a few weeks ago where several nutters encouraging a neighbor insert themselves into the active EMT scene offering help. Yeah, that's a nosy neighbor.

If an ambulance shows up nearish your house and disturbs you (you can hear the ambulance and fire truck even if no siren), it becomes your business. Maybe you were sleeping and you have been woken up. but doesn't necessarily mean you have a right to know what medical emergency happened because that would be nosy.

It's utterly trashy to walk out and stare. Rude. I can't believe people were never taught how to behave in this situation. The proper behavior is to peek surreptitiously from a window.

"Lots of people are from other cultures, and it is perfectly normal to just stare at people for hours. I am sorry it makes you uncomfortable. Check your privilege."

It's rude behavior and people need to learn. I live in a neighborhood with lots of immigrants and this is common. Most of us hate it. I wave at the people staring from their windows. My family can't go for a walk without a couple of the neighbors staring. They clearly do nothing all day as we work from home and are in and out all day. Almost every single time one of them is there staring. Also if we have any thing done to our house or yard, there they are trying to inspect it. It's weird.

Sounds like you are demanding that they acquiesce to your white supremacist culture. Bigot.

They should stop being rude and get a life.