If your husband voted for Trump. are you leaving him?

[Anonymous]

I have reason to believe that DH and I regularly cancel each other out in the voting booth with our divergent opinions. I do not care. Sometimes we agree to disagree. This election we did vote for the same candidate but to my surprise he voted against a specific “easy yes” local issue - one that I’m particularly passionate about and vaguely in my professional purview. I called him heartless, then took a sip of wine and resumed my non-stop channel switching. NBD.

We’ve been married a quarter of a century and if our relationship hinged upon my belief that we must be in lock step with our views on politics, I’m not certain we’d have made it past our second date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m already in process of divorcing mine who is a radical MAGA POS for different reasons.

Unfortunately it appears that over 1/2 the US voted for this narcissistic and racist felon. This is the first time I feel sick to my stomach over a presidential outcome. Things in the US are going to drastically change, and I believe this is going to be detrimental to anyone who is a POC.

I'm a "person of color" (much different that a "colored person," which would be extremely offensive for some reason), and I don't think Trump will be detrimental to me or my family in any way. In fact, I think the opposite, and that's why I voted for him.

(Source MSG Trump Rally) Are you a Puerto Rican from that garbage dump of an island? Or are you one of the black people that carved watermelons with Tony Hincliff? Or maybe one of the Latinos “that likes to make babies?” Or are you a good person of color that wasn’t “made fun of” (hint they aren’t joking, they really feel that way about you).

blah blah....Take a day off and get drunk

[Anonymous]

Anyone leaving their husbands for voting for Trump didn’t have a decent marriage to begin with.

There are a lot of people in this country who voted for Trump who are not bad people. They just chose to prioritize different things than people who voted for Harris. (I voted for Harris.)

We need to come together as a country and stop being so divisive. Understand that people are allowed to have different opinions than you. People are allowed to have different priorities than you. And you should not hate them for it. Most of us want the same things out of life. Let’s find common ground.

Start listening to people outside your circles. Really try to hear what they are saying.

[Anonymous]

I agree with PP - know a lot of good Rs and Ds -- my husband and I often cancel each other out with our votes LOL.

LISTEN to people outside your circles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone leaving their husbands for voting for Trump didn’t have a decent marriage to begin with.

There are a lot of people in this country who voted for Trump who are not bad people. They just chose to prioritize different things than people who voted for Harris. (I voted for Harris.)

We need to come together as a country and stop being so divisive. Understand that people are allowed to have different opinions than you. People are allowed to have different priorities than you. And you should not hate them for it. Most of us want the same things out of life. Let’s find common ground.

Start listening to people outside your circles. Really try to hear what they are saying.

Having different opinions and priorities is fine. Few object to that. Most encourage discourse about opinions.

How do you listen to someone who keeps parroting lies though? Not opinions. False information. They don't want to be told they were duped. They really think they are right. And a victory 'confirms' for them that they were right. They must have been because they "won." It's psychological pretzel making.

And how do you listen to people twisting themselves in to knots to justify putting a criminal in the White House who we can't let our kids watch on TV because of what he says and does. How is this OK? It just is not OK that this person was even allowed to run for office given the crimes he committed and what he did last time.

We really do hear what they are saying, loud and clear, and it's maddening.

[Anonymous]

I would, this one is off limit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m done. That’s all.

Happy for him. Hope he keeps most of the wealth.

[Anonymous]

This idea of all the "good white women" secretly hating their husbands' votes did not survive election day. Trump dominated among white women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone leaving their husbands for voting for Trump didn’t have a decent marriage to begin with.

There are a lot of people in this country who voted for Trump who are not bad people. They just chose to prioritize different things than people who voted for Harris. (I voted for Harris.)

We need to come together as a country and stop being so divisive. Understand that people are allowed to have different opinions than you. People are allowed to have different priorities than you. And you should not hate them for it. Most of us want the same things out of life. Let’s find common ground.

Start listening to people outside your circles. Really try to hear what they are saying.

Having different opinions and priorities is fine. Few object to that. Most encourage discourse about opinions.

How do you listen to someone who keeps parroting lies though? Not opinions. False information. They don't want to be told they were duped. They really think they are right. And a victory 'confirms' for them that they were right. They must have been because they "won." It's psychological pretzel making.

And how do you listen to people twisting themselves in to knots to justify putting a criminal in the White House who we can't let our kids watch on TV because of what he says and does. How is this OK? It just is not OK that this person was even allowed to run for office given the crimes he committed and what he did last time.

We really do hear what they are saying, loud and clear, and it's maddening.

No, you don't really. Or rather, you hear them but you're not listening to them.

I didn't vote for Trump (in 2016 or this time) and I think he's a despicable human being, but you're not paying attention to the reasons a lot of people did vote for him because you can't get past the fact that he's garbage.

[Anonymous]

My husband got into some weird ideas for a while. It was around 2010 or so.

At that time it was about prepping, buying gold, wanting to move somewhere remote--proto-MAGA stuff. All influenced by crap he read on internet forums and different opinion makers.

It got bad. One time he called me a sheeple. We argued about it but mostly I ignored it. However, if he had gone much further into this stuff, I would have divorced him. There was some canned answer for any objection I had.

So I completely understand where you're coming from.

One day he realized that racism was at the root of a lot of these beliefs. He has never been racist, I know that about him. It was like he suddenly woke up. It was amazing to me to watch the whole thing. I understand how it happens to people. At that point I could believe in his basic decency which saved him from going any further. It was like a temporary insanity but only temporary, thank God.

People who think these ideologies do not affect relationships or that they shouldn't are just naive to what happens to people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone leaving their husbands for voting for Trump didn’t have a decent marriage to begin with.

There are a lot of people in this country who voted for Trump who are not bad people. They just chose to prioritize different things than people who voted for Harris. (I voted for Harris.)

We need to come together as a country and stop being so divisive. Understand that people are allowed to have different opinions than you. People are allowed to have different priorities than you. And you should not hate them for it. Most of us want the same things out of life. Let’s find common ground.

Start listening to people outside your circles. Really try to hear what they are saying.

I have some decent friends who voted for Trump. But they are not spouting hatred or racism. It really really depends on what the person does and says. It really depends on their attitude and I could not be friends with someone who spouts hateful ideology. So it cannot be a blanket statement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone leaving their husbands for voting for Trump didn’t have a decent marriage to begin with.

There are a lot of people in this country who voted for Trump who are not bad people. They just chose to prioritize different things than people who voted for Harris. (I voted for Harris.)

We need to come together as a country and stop being so divisive. Understand that people are allowed to have different opinions than you. People are allowed to have different priorities than you. And you should not hate them for it. Most of us want the same things out of life. Let’s find common ground.

Start listening to people outside your circles. Really try to hear what they are saying.

Having different opinions and priorities is fine. Few object to that. Most encourage discourse about opinions.

How do you listen to someone who keeps parroting lies though? Not opinions. False information. They don't want to be told they were duped. They really think they are right. And a victory 'confirms' for them that they were right. They must have been because they "won." It's psychological pretzel making.

And how do you listen to people twisting themselves in to knots to justify putting a criminal in the White House who we can't let our kids watch on TV because of what he says and does. How is this OK? It just is not OK that this person was even allowed to run for office given the crimes he committed and what he did last time.

We really do hear what they are saying, loud and clear, and it's maddening.

So funny that it's only the party of love and tolerance that divorces spouses and shuns family members for holding heterodox views.

Also, the crimes, the crimes, the crimes! The reason most voters were OK electing a criminal is because they clearly saw that he was only charged with those "crimes" as an attempt to hinder him from becoming president again. Again, so funny that it's the "defenders of democracy" that attempted to jail and assassinate their political opponent, pulling directly from playbook of banana republic dictators.

Dems, please engage in no introspection and continue to shout, "Hitler!" I want JD Vance to also win in 2028.

[Anonymous]

This thread is just the latest DCUM version of "why can't my husband see that I'm right and he's wrong? Why can't he understand my rules are the right rules for our marriage".
Please do your husbands a huge favor and divorce them. Go to lunch every week with little bubble of angry women and brag about how you put them in their place

[Anonymous]

I would never date or marry someone who has those sort of values. But if he had a brain aneurism and did decide to change like that, yeah we are not staying together. I couldn't respect someone so morally bankrupt, it just wouldn't work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m an independent. I find it easy to deal with moderate liberals or moderate conservatives. It’s the far left or far right that are scary.

I suspect there are more people who voted for Trump that simply wouldn’t announce it. It’s because of the potential reactions from people like OP.

+1 and calling over half the country racist when more blacks and latinos voted R than ever before, just divides the country more

Well, that’s just some blame shifting nonsense.