At School, When Do You Think Is the Appropriate Age to Discuss Same Sex Relationships With Children

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From birth… love is love and families come in all shapes and sizes

How in 2024 is this a question?!?

“Sorry Larla you’re not old enough to learn why they love each other”….what?!!

Not everyone agrees with you on this. As you well know.

What's to "agree with "? It's a fact of life.

I'm not sure what agreeing with it has to do with anything. Same sex couples exist.

[Anonymous]

We just told the kids that some people do weird things and not to worry about it.

[Anonymous]

We have always explained since the time they were in preschool that families can have 2 moms, 2 dads, 1 mom or Dad, etc. We have a gay relative with a partner and had friends in preschool with same gender parents. My son was the ring bearer in a same gender wedding at the age of 3. So that fact is not controversial.

However, I don’t think it’s appropriate for schools to discuss or read books about kids having feelings for the same gender. This was a big controversy in MoCo due to the new diversity curriculum which introduced a book to 3rd graders with a kid having a crush on her classmate. This is wildly inappropriate in my opinion and I disagreed heavily with how teachers were instructed to teach it and answer questions. That is not the role of schools. Kids don’t have the maturity or knowledge to understand this in 3rd grade without it pushing an agenda. It suggests that sexuality is a choice rather than something that happens chemically and biologically to some people in utero. I know some will flame me for this view but I strongly believe that a school should not discuss or teach about a CHILD’s interest in the same gender until middle school when there is a frame of reference to puberty and reproduction.

When the curriculum was introduced, all of the elementary school principals wrote a letter objecting to this book but had no problem with a book that referred to a gay uncle’s wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When did you teach them about opposite sex relationships? Then.

+1

“You can marry whoever you love. Some girls marry boys, and some girls marry girls.”

Marriage was created by God to join a woman and a man together in a holy covenant with God.
In our country, and in many other countries, men can choose to marry men and women can choose to marry women. It might be confusing that it’s called the same thing. But that’s because there are rights that the government gives to “married” couples—and same-sex couples wanted those rights too. And that makes sense. In 2015, the Supreme Court agreed that this was fair, so now couples who are not/boy or girk/girl can be joined together in marriage too. It isn’t the same as Biblical marriage, because it doesn’t require a covenant with God. But it’s still the fair law and the fair thing to do.

Yep. This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have always explained since the time they were in preschool that families can have 2 moms, 2 dads, 1 mom or Dad, etc. We have a gay relative with a partner and had friends in preschool with same gender parents. My son was the ring bearer in a same gender wedding at the age of 3. So that fact is not controversial.

However, I don’t think it’s appropriate for schools to discuss or read books about kids having feelings for the same gender. This was a big controversy in MoCo due to the new diversity curriculum which introduced a book to 3rd graders with a kid having a crush on her classmate. This is wildly inappropriate in my opinion and I disagreed heavily with how teachers were instructed to teach it and answer questions. That is not the role of schools. Kids don’t have the maturity or knowledge to understand this in 3rd grade without it pushing an agenda. It suggests that sexuality is a choice rather than something that happens chemically and biologically to some people in utero. I know some will flame me for this view but I strongly believe that a school should not discuss or teach about a CHILD’s interest in the same gender until middle school when there is a frame of reference to puberty and reproduction.

When the curriculum was introduced, all of the elementary school principals wrote a letter objecting to this book but had no problem with a book that referred to a gay uncle’s wedding.

If you don’t think sexual preference is a choice why would this bother you. Why do you think third grade crushes are sexual, anyway? They basically agree to be girlfriends or whatever and then act exactly like they did before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trying to gauge what the norm is if/when this is taught in a school setting. And if you are teaching it at home, then what’s the appropriate age?

At age 4, child asked if they could marry their best friend, who was the same sex as them. I said sure, if they grew up and decided they loved/respected/trusted each other and still wanted to get married. 6 year old sibling said, "no, because you are both girls."

At the time, my response was that depending on what state you lived in, yes, they could get married. And an age appropriate discussion ensued

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have always explained since the time they were in preschool that families can have 2 moms, 2 dads, 1 mom or Dad, etc. We have a gay relative with a partner and had friends in preschool with same gender parents. My son was the ring bearer in a same gender wedding at the age of 3. So that fact is not controversial.

However, I don’t think it’s appropriate for schools to discuss or read books about kids having feelings for the same gender. This was a big controversy in MoCo due to the new diversity curriculum which introduced a book to 3rd graders with a kid having a crush on her classmate. This is wildly inappropriate in my opinion and I disagreed heavily with how teachers were instructed to teach it and answer questions. That is not the role of schools. Kids don’t have the maturity or knowledge to understand this in 3rd grade without it pushing an agenda. It suggests that sexuality is a choice rather than something that happens chemically and biologically to some people in utero. I know some will flame me for this view but I strongly believe that a school should not discuss or teach about a CHILD’s interest in the same gender until middle school when there is a frame of reference to puberty and reproduction.

When the curriculum was introduced, all of the elementary school principals wrote a letter objecting to this book but had no problem with a book that referred to a gay uncle’s wedding.

Would you be upset if they read a book about kids have feelings for the opposite gender? Frankly, in 3rd grade I don't really want either scenario, but if one is OK than so is the other.

[Anonymous]

My kids have had gay teachers and they have pictures with their spouse. I actually didnt know one was gay until the end of the year and my son said "i see pictures of him with his husband. And they have a baby. They look very happy". So as others have said its just a fact of life.

I sort of agree with the poster saying its not the school's job to discuss feelings with the child. Im not opposed to it just dont think it should be prioritized as part of the agenda. I also dont really think straight feelings should be discussed in school. Biology, yes. But having a crush on someone regardless of gender is the parents job to navigate with their kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When did you teach them about opposite sex relationships? Then.

+1

“You can marry whoever you love. Some girls marry boys, and some girls marry girls.”

Marriage was created by God to join a woman and a man together in a holy covenant with God.
In our country, and in many other countries, men can choose to marry men and women can choose to marry women. It might be confusing that it’s called the same thing. But that’s because there are rights that the government gives to “married” couples—and same-sex couples wanted those rights too. And that makes sense. In 2015, the Supreme Court agreed that this was fair, so now couples who are not/boy or girk/girl can be joined together in marriage too. It isn’t the same as Biblical marriage, because it doesn’t require a covenant with God. But it’s still the fair law and the fair thing to do.

Which God are you referring to? Because there are approximately 4k recognized religions globally and I guarantee they don’t all teach this marriage is between a man and woman thing. It’s frankly narcissistic to me when someone pushes their religion as the “right one” and all the 3,999 religions are the wrong one. It is their special, chosen God who makes the rules for humanity. 🙄

The reality is marriage is a legal concept. A man and a woman in a relationship are not married just because they are a man and a woman. They are married specifically because they got a piece of paper from the court declaring them married.

If you want to teach well in X religion the God we believe in thinks only men and women should marry then go ahead and teach your kid to be a backwater bigot. But you’re factually wrong that marriage was created by God when it is a legal designation made by Governments. The IRS has more involvement with what a marriage is than your 1 out 4,000 chance you picked (or were conveniently born into) worshipping the “correct” God.

Too true especially when the same Bible condones polygamy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From birth… love is love and families come in all shapes and sizes

How in 2024 is this a question?!?

“Sorry Larla you’re not old enough to learn why they love each other”….what?!!

Not everyone agrees with you on this. As you well know.

What's to "agree with "? It's a fact of life.

+1 In the kindergarten unit on Family, which comes before the unit on Community, kids talk about who is in their family, draw pictures of their family, bring in family photos, etc. There is nothing to agree or disagree with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When did you teach them about opposite sex relationships? Then.

+1

“You can marry whoever you love. Some girls marry boys, and some girls marry girls.”

Marriage was created by God to join a woman and a man together in a holy covenant with God.
In our country, and in many other countries, men can choose to marry men and women can choose to marry women. It might be confusing that it’s called the same thing. But that’s because there are rights that the government gives to “married” couples—and same-sex couples wanted those rights too. And that makes sense. In 2015, the Supreme Court agreed that this was fair, so now couples who are not/boy or girk/girl can be joined together in marriage too. It isn’t the same as Biblical marriage, because it doesn’t require a covenant with God. But it’s still the fair law and the fair thing to do.

This is absolutely not true. WTF?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What age do you start discussing opposite sex relationships? Age 6mon? "Oh look at little timmy, he's such a flirt with little larla!"

There should be no issue discussing same sex relationships from a very early age.

That's not what anyone is talking about. Where did you even come up with this?

DP here but it's because people sexualize babies from the jump (daddy's gonna need a gun! mommy's little heartbreaker!) but god forbid someone mentions anything gay to a kid and all hell breaks loose.

Oh well I shut down any of that talk real quick when DS was a baby. And really the only one who seemed to use it were the grandparents. I don't really hear that talk around people my own age. Thankfully.

[Anonymous]

As all the other posters have said, since day 1. And anytime my inlaws said something asinine to my daughter like how she’s so beautiful she’ll make all the boys swoon I will always interject and say “or girls.” Because I want my kid to know I’ll accept her no matter what and I want to break the heteronormativity.

Signed, a middle aged bisexual mom who grew up in a very homophobic climate and didn’t accept herself for a long time.

[Anonymous]

Since my son was 3 and came home from preschool super pissed off that his friend Sam had two mommies and he only got to have one, and that's unfair. I mean for real, having two mommies does sound great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When did you teach them about opposite sex relationships? Then.

+1

“You can marry whoever you love. Some girls marry boys, and some girls marry girls.”

Marriage was created by God to join a woman and a man together in a holy covenant with God.
In our country, and in many other countries, men can choose to marry men and women can choose to marry women. It might be confusing that it’s called the same thing. But that’s because there are rights that the government gives to “married” couples—and same-sex couples wanted those rights too. And that makes sense. In 2015, the Supreme Court agreed that this was fair, so now couples who are not/boy or girk/girl can be joined together in marriage too. It isn’t the same as Biblical marriage, because it doesn’t require a covenant with God. But it’s still the fair law and the fair thing to do.

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