At what age allow highlights/hair treatments?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For all you saying, "when they can afford it," just know that your kid will go buy some crap and CVS and do tons of damage to their hair. I'd rather take her to the salon and have it done well.

Speaking only for myself, I would view that as a really good life lesson for her and will hopefully motivate her to work hard in school so she too can afford salon hair color when she’s an adult. Damaged hair will grow back but I don’t want my child growing up feeling like she’s entitled to expensive high-maintenance beauty routines.

+1. There was a mom on here last year lamenting paying for her daughter’s hair, nails, makeup, etc and she was soliciting advice on how to tell DD she was going to get cut off in college. As if somehow this made sense. If this is important to your child, I would encourage you to have her make a spreadsheet listing all of the extra beauty care she wants (not routine haircuts 3-6 months or shampoo) but makeup, mani/pedi, etc and costs so you can both see the yearly total and then figure out what is reasonable, what she will pay for, how she will pay for it, etc. I grew up with a lot of people who had zero financial discipline and financial awareness and that can lead to overconsumption and spending to keep up with others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For all you saying, "when they can afford it," just know that your kid will go buy some crap and CVS and do tons of damage to their hair. I'd rather take her to the salon and have it done well.

Speaking only for myself, I would view that as a really good life lesson for her and will hopefully motivate her to work hard in school so she too can afford salon hair color when she’s an adult. Damaged hair will grow back but I don’t want my child growing up feeling like she’s entitled to expensive high-maintenance beauty routines.

+1. There was a mom on here last year lamenting paying for her daughter’s hair, nails, makeup, etc and she was soliciting advice on how to tell DD she was going to get cut off in college. As if somehow this made sense. If this is important to your child, I would encourage you to have her make a spreadsheet listing all of the extra beauty care she wants (not routine haircuts 3-6 months or shampoo) but makeup, mani/pedi, etc and costs so you can both see the yearly total and then figure out what is reasonable, what she will pay for, how she will pay for it, etc. I grew up with a lot of people who had zero financial discipline and financial awareness and that can lead to overconsumption and spending to keep up with others.

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Anonymous wrote:For all you saying, "when they can afford it," just know that your kid will go buy some crap and CVS and do tons of damage to their hair. I'd rather take her to the salon and have it done well.

Oh, no!!!! The horror!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:For all you saying, "when they can afford it," just know that your kid will go buy some crap and CVS and do tons of damage to their hair. I'd rather take her to the salon and have it done well.

My kid did this 😬 She certainly learned her lesson. Zero interest in coloring her hair ever again. Your natural shade is always going to be the most beautiful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For all you saying, "when they can afford it," just know that your kid will go buy some crap and CVS and do tons of damage to their hair. I'd rather take her to the salon and have it done well.

My kid did this 😬 She certainly learned her lesson. Zero interest in coloring her hair ever again. Your natural shade is always going to be the most beautiful.

If they use TikTok and are sucked in by the Sephora or water bottle hype they probably see some beautifully highlighted hair advertised and want that too.

I saw some girls that looked about 10 or 11 with their huge Sephora bags and hideous striped hair. I would have to get that fixed if it was my daughter.

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If you and your spouse don't color and treat your own hair, your kids will be less likely to ask to color and treat theirs. While we tell ourselves our kids only want these things because they see kids at school with treated hair, it is the example set in the home that plants the seed of the idea that hair needs to be chemically treated in the first place in order to be presentable to society.

Invest in a nice pair of curling iron and straightener and learn to change hair texture at home. Skip all the coloring agents.

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How about whenever she can pay for it herself -- whether that is saving her allowance, money from presents, or she earns it.

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Anonymous wrote:My DD 12 has a very pretty hair color (auburn) and it’s pretty straight. Would you allow her to get highlights and a body wave/perm?

I am worried about opening Pandora’s box of expensive hair treatments.

Never

She can deal with those costs, damaged hair and roots when she’s working. Not me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD 12 has a very pretty hair color (auburn) and it’s pretty straight. Would you allow her to get highlights and a body wave/perm?

I am worried about opening Pandora’s box of expensive hair treatments.

Never

She can deal with those costs, damaged hair and roots when she’s working. Not me.

There are no roots if you do a partial highlight on your hair. The hair stylists treats your hair with special products that protect the hair from damage. At home hair treatments and the right shampoo and conditioner keep your hair in better shape than untreated hair. Where are you people from that you see all this damaged hair?

[Anonymous]

She can use her own money but because she doesn’t have enough for the upkeep, she doesn’t do it at all. I color my own hair at home to cover gray. I dint have the money either to have it done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DD 12 has a very pretty hair color (auburn) and it’s pretty straight. Would you allow her to get highlights and a body wave/perm?

I am worried about opening Pandora’s box of expensive hair treatments.

Never

She can deal with those costs, damaged hair and roots when she’s working. Not me.

There are no roots if you do a partial highlight on your hair. The hair stylists treats your hair with special products that protect the hair from damage. At home hair treatments and the right shampoo and conditioner keep your hair in better shape than untreated hair. Where are you people from that you see all this damaged hair?

Lightening hair repeatedly will cause damage over time- no matter products you are stylists use. Sure highlights once shouldn’t be an issue. But it likely won’t be just once. She is more opt to have self image issues if you do it once then tell her you won’t pay for again. She is going to find she likes it so much more and now her regular hair will seem dull and not at pretty to her. Thus the begging to keep it up and feeling sad if you won’t.

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If you are going to agree, balyage (and you can do partial balyage for cheaper) can be done just once a year, twice maybe, and is meant to look more natural as it grows out. Highlights don't have to mean returning to the salon every 6-8 weeks.

I wouldn't agree to wave/perm stuff, you can get waves with plentiful other techniques (also is this kind of treatment back in style? ick)

[Anonymous]

When they can pay for it. I don’t have highlights anymore for my dirty blonde hair because I couldn’t justify 300 dollars every 3 months. So my daughter can start down that road when she is prepared to pay for it herself .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For all you saying, "when they can afford it," just know that your kid will go buy some crap and CVS and do tons of damage to their hair. I'd rather take her to the salon and have it done well.

My kid did this 😬 She certainly learned her lesson. Zero interest in coloring her hair ever again. Your natural shade is always going to be the most beautiful.

All young teens do this! Back in the 90s so did we. And you won’t do a lifetime of damage to your hair in your teens. It does grow out.

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Anonymous wrote:When they can pay themselves (not being sarcastic).

This. It’s what I told my DD who is 13.

I definitely worry about the chemicals. Plus, it’s terrible for your hair.

And so many teen girls have such beautiful hair already. Why F it up with all that nonsense?