At what age allow highlights/hair treatments?

[Anonymous]

Help her find a way to do curls and waves without a chemical process.

And I think you should let her play around with color.

I don't think you're as concerned about her health or the cost as you are attached to her look.

I urge you to detach yourself from her appearance

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you guys really paying $300 for highlights for tween girls? How often?

I don't let mine do it for a variety of reasons. But a partial highlight from my stylist (who is self employed) is $60. And most people really only need a partial unless they are dramatically changing their natural color, which looks terrible anyway.

[Anonymous]

Never. 21, and I’d frown. It damages the hair and they will regret it later.

[Anonymous]

This
“ PPD is found in many semi-permanent and permanent hair dyes, and is especially common in darker colors like black and brunette.
While hair dyes with PPD are safe to use if you follow the safety instructions, you should avoid them if you're allergic or sensitive to PPD. You can check the ingredients on the package or contact the manufacturer to see if a hair dye contains PPD. You can also do a patch test to check for an allergic reaction.
If you're allergic to PPD, you can try a hair dye that's PPD-free, like EcoColors. ”

If you go to a reputable salon with professionally trained hair stylists your hair will not be damaged. Some of you are ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks!
We actually go to an organic salon (they cover my jet black hair that is coming in gray) much better than the expensive salons I used to go to.

But yeah, I think you are all right. I will wait until she can’t live without it.

Please share name of this salon!
I need this! I have so much gray hair and my natural hair color is dark brown/ black. I have to color at home every 4 weeks, as it is just too much to spend at the salon.

TIA

OP here. As I shared, I have black hair and gray growing in pretty aggressively. The organic dye is gorgeous and covers better than regular/ more expensive salons.

I go to Enlightened Styles in Warrenton, VA. https://enlightenedstyles.com/?utm_id=--sanitized--

It lasts longer than the regular stuff too.

They have so many fantastic hair treatments (like Enlightened Deep Conditioner and Steam Treatment).

Worth the drive. Very reasonable too.

Heidi is my stylist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This
“ PPD is found in many semi-permanent and permanent hair dyes, and is especially common in darker colors like black and brunette.
While hair dyes with PPD are safe to use if you follow the safety instructions, you should avoid them if you're allergic or sensitive to PPD. You can check the ingredients on the package or contact the manufacturer to see if a hair dye contains PPD. You can also do a patch test to check for an allergic reaction.
If you're allergic to PPD, you can try a hair dye that's PPD-free, like EcoColors. ”

If you go to a reputable salon with professionally trained hair stylists your hair will not be damaged. Some of you are ridiculous.

Um…if you are LIGHTENING your hair, which is what highlighting is, yes it does damage your hair over time. There is no way around that, “organic” or not. The lightening agents are damaging.

But that isn’t really the point, at least, it isn’t for me, if I was weighing whether to let my 12 yr old get highlights. It’s about how they view themselves. Their hair will never have prettier natural highlights than it does right now-through early 20s. Letting them get highlights feeds into their thoughts that their natural hair isn’t pretty enough, that they aren’t pretty enough- if only they had highlights, then their hair would be pretty. They will get conditioned to that thought as they get highlights and will keep wanting it, because without them, they will feel like they don’t look as good

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For all you saying, "when they can afford it," just know that your kid will go buy some crap and CVS and do tons of damage to their hair. I'd rather take her to the salon and have it done well.

Speaking only for myself, I would view that as a really good life lesson for her and will hopefully motivate her to work hard in school so she too can afford salon hair color when she’s an adult. Damaged hair will grow back but I don’t want my child growing up feeling like she’s entitled to expensive high-maintenance beauty routines.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It absolutely does open up Pandora’s box to expensive beauty treatments. Don’t do it.

Not really. My dd got highlights once in middle school and once in high school. Now a young adult she doesn't have any!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This
“ PPD is found in many semi-permanent and permanent hair dyes, and is especially common in darker colors like black and brunette.
While hair dyes with PPD are safe to use if you follow the safety instructions, you should avoid them if you're allergic or sensitive to PPD. You can check the ingredients on the package or contact the manufacturer to see if a hair dye contains PPD. You can also do a patch test to check for an allergic reaction.
If you're allergic to PPD, you can try a hair dye that's PPD-free, like EcoColors. ”

If you go to a reputable salon with professionally trained hair stylists your hair will not be damaged. Some of you are ridiculous.

Um…if you are LIGHTENING your hair, which is what highlighting is, yes it does damage your hair over time. There is no way around that, “organic” or not. The lightening agents are damaging.

But that isn’t really the point, at least, it isn’t for me, if I was weighing whether to let my 12 yr old get highlights. It’s about how they view themselves. Their hair will never have prettier natural highlights than it does right now-through early 20s. Letting them get highlights feeds into their thoughts that their natural hair isn’t pretty enough, that they aren’t pretty enough- if only they had highlights, then their hair would be pretty. They will get conditioned to that thought as they get highlights and will keep wanting it, because without them, they will feel like they don’t look as good

Or maybe she just wants to have fun and experiment. A normal preteen/ teen thing

And if you're really concerned about negative messages stop coloring your hair and wearing makeup

[Anonymous]

My DD had very long hair when she was about 8/ 9 yrs old, right down her back. I allowed her to blond the roots and dye them pink - about 4-5 inches off the bottom, it was subtle and trimmed off within a few months.

But we're British and had been living in Los Angeles, so I know this is not the DC norm.

[Anonymous]

^^not roots, sorry I meant her ENDS.

[Anonymous]

college

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For all you saying, "when they can afford it," just know that your kid will go buy some crap and CVS and do tons of damage to their hair. I'd rather take her to the salon and have it done well.

Not sure what flies in your house, but no, neither of my daughters would do that without permission.

[Anonymous]

Age 18

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When they can pay themselves (not being sarcastic).

+1. You will be paying for this until your child is 40. My husband’s sister has been getting her hair chemically straightened since she was 12 (she is of European decent) and his mother is still paying for it and she is 44, owns a nice home in NW, and has two kids in private. A decade ago she started going gray so her mom pays for her color too. Kids’ whose parents do this can’t take over expensive hair payments until they make a decent salary and then there is always an excuse for mom to keep paying.