Hairy legs in an office setting

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Anonymous wrote:If she doesn't shave she'll have to get by on her skills and your connections, not her looks. Her choice.

Which is a good thing, right?

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you all need to get with the times. I’ve seen male school administrators wearing nail polish to work, wedding coordinators at very traditional, conservative weddings with bright purple hair. Nobody cares about a high school girl’s leg hair.

So then you don't shave your legs either? Do you wear skirts and dresses to the office?

DP - I wax, but you bet I still wear skirts, shorts and dresses when I'm not silky smooth. I don't know if anyone has ever noticed or cared, but certainly no one's ever said anything and it hasnt hampered my professional success.

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Anonymous wrote:You can be honest and tell her that it is outside the norms and that some people will judge (but not say anything, because they could almost certainly be fired for that) but then leave it at that. The rest is up to her. If she knows the norms and chooses not to follow them, she’s an independent thinker. Good for her.

And it’s not like it’ll affect her career path or promotion potential or anything. She’s in high school. Most normal people, if they notice at all, will shrug and think “huh, kids today.”

OP. This is what I worry about, that it WILL affect her experience there and the recommendation she gets, etc. Later on when she has some seniority she can do what she wants. Right now she’s the most powerless person there, though. It seems bratty and entitled to go against office norms in your very first professional experience.

That seems crazy to me that leg hair would affect a potential recommendation. They already hired her so they must faith that she can do a good job. So she needs to do a good job. You’re overthinking the hair.

I think you underestimate the impact your physical appearance has in a professional setting.

No, I understand it well. But if she’s clean and dressed appropriately, this is really none of anyone’s concern.

So you don't get it! It is none of their concert of course, but she will be judged for it. When you are young and starting out, you want to fit in. Not the opposite.

Are you DD? I don't think you know what "young people" just starting out want or feel.

She isn't going there for a therapy session on how she feels. She is going there to impress them and get a job.

Huh? Are you the pp I was replying to? She already has the internship. She doesnt need to shave her legs to "fit in" with the old ladies. People suggesting this I do not think are even aware of how young folks behave these days.

You really are clueless.

How? By thinking women should be able to do their jobs without pressure from old ladies on their sexist hair removal ideas?

I can 100% guarantee that you do not have a professional job in an office environment. Also, you're just as obnoxious as you are clueless.

You'd be 100% wrong lol.

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you all need to get with the times. I’ve seen male school administrators wearing nail polish to work, wedding coordinators at very traditional, conservative weddings with bright purple hair. Nobody cares about a high school girl’s leg hair.

So then you don't shave your legs either? Do you wear skirts and dresses to the office?

I do, but I wouldn’t care if I saw someone at work who didn’t. My high school DD only does very occasionally. This is her journey on earth, she can present herself how she wants.

So you're a hypocrite. Telling us how we must get with the times and then succumb to the pressure of shaving. Why do you do it if you're so with the times?

No, my intention was not to suggest that everyone should stop shaving. By “get with the times,” I meant that people should (at least try to) stop judging people’s choices about how they present themselves. Sorry you misunderstood.

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For those of you who are saying that it's totally fine, why don't you stop shaving your legs and join the young generation? Why leave them hanging? No one is holindg a gun to your head saying you must shave.

I'm guessing that even though you won't personally judge a young woman for not shaving, you still understand the impact that it might have.

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Anonymous wrote:You can be honest and tell her that it is outside the norms and that some people will judge (but not say anything, because they could almost certainly be fired for that) but then leave it at that. The rest is up to her. If she knows the norms and chooses not to follow them, she’s an independent thinker. Good for her.

And it’s not like it’ll affect her career path or promotion potential or anything. She’s in high school. Most normal people, if they notice at all, will shrug and think “huh, kids today.”

OP. This is what I worry about, that it WILL affect her experience there and the recommendation she gets, etc. Later on when she has some seniority she can do what she wants. Right now she’s the most powerless person there, though. It seems bratty and entitled to go against office norms in your very first professional experience.

That seems crazy to me that leg hair would affect a potential recommendation. They already hired her so they must faith that she can do a good job. So she needs to do a good job. You’re overthinking the hair.

I think you underestimate the impact your physical appearance has in a professional setting.

No, I understand it well. But if she’s clean and dressed appropriately, this is really none of anyone’s concern.

So you don't get it! It is none of their concert of course, but she will be judged for it. When you are young and starting out, you want to fit in. Not the opposite.

Are you DD? I don't think you know what "young people" just starting out want or feel.

She isn't going there for a therapy session on how she feels. She is going there to impress them and get a job.

Huh? Are you the pp I was replying to? She already has the internship. She doesnt need to shave her legs to "fit in" with the old ladies. People suggesting this I do not think are even aware of how young folks behave these days.

You really are clueless.

How? By thinking women should be able to do their jobs without pressure from old ladies on their sexist hair removal ideas?

I can 100% guarantee that you do not have a professional job in an office environment. Also, you're just as obnoxious as you are clueless.

DP. What is your job? How much your performance is based on your grooming?

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you all need to get with the times. I’ve seen male school administrators wearing nail polish to work, wedding coordinators at very traditional, conservative weddings with bright purple hair. Nobody cares about a high school girl’s leg hair.

So then you don't shave your legs either? Do you wear skirts and dresses to the office?

I do, but I wouldn’t care if I saw someone at work who didn’t. My high school DD only does very occasionally. This is her journey on earth, she can present herself how she wants.

So you're a hypocrite. Telling us how we must get with the times and then succumb to the pressure of shaving. Why do you do it if you're so with the times?

No, my intention was not to suggest that everyone should stop shaving. By “get with the times,” I meant that people should (at least try to) stop judging people’s choices about how they present themselves. Sorry you misunderstood.

But you still understand the societal and professional impact of not shaving, so you do it. What am I missing?

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Anonymous wrote:You can be honest and tell her that it is outside the norms and that some people will judge (but not say anything, because they could almost certainly be fired for that) but then leave it at that. The rest is up to her. If she knows the norms and chooses not to follow them, she’s an independent thinker. Good for her.

And it’s not like it’ll affect her career path or promotion potential or anything. She’s in high school. Most normal people, if they notice at all, will shrug and think “huh, kids today.”

OP. This is what I worry about, that it WILL affect her experience there and the recommendation she gets, etc. Later on when she has some seniority she can do what she wants. Right now she’s the most powerless person there, though. It seems bratty and entitled to go against office norms in your very first professional experience.

That seems crazy to me that leg hair would affect a potential recommendation. They already hired her so they must faith that she can do a good job. So she needs to do a good job. You’re overthinking the hair.

I think you underestimate the impact your physical appearance has in a professional setting.

No, I understand it well. But if she’s clean and dressed appropriately, this is really none of anyone’s concern.

So you don't get it! It is none of their concert of course, but she will be judged for it. When you are young and starting out, you want to fit in. Not the opposite.

Are you DD? I don't think you know what "young people" just starting out want or feel.

She isn't going there for a therapy session on how she feels. She is going there to impress them and get a job.

Huh? Are you the pp I was replying to? She already has the internship. She doesnt need to shave her legs to "fit in" with the old ladies. People suggesting this I do not think are even aware of how young folks behave these days.

You really are clueless.

How? By thinking women should be able to do their jobs without pressure from old ladies on their sexist hair removal ideas?

I can 100% guarantee that you do not have a professional job in an office environment. Also, you're just as obnoxious as you are clueless.

DP. What is your job? How much your performance is based on your grooming?

I work in a C-suite. I would absolutely be judged if I wasn't dressed and groomed appropriately. Now you? What do you do?

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Anonymous wrote:Team DD. Don't force her into changing her body just because somebody may judge it.

Signed, a 35 year old woman who hasn't shaved her legs in a decade and has never once been impacted by it at work

Just curious. What job do you have? How dark is the hair on your legs?

NP. I wondered the same thing.

I work in a professional office setting. I'm a brunette and the hair on my legs is visible if you're looking closely. It has never once been brought up.

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you all need to get with the times. I’ve seen male school administrators wearing nail polish to work, wedding coordinators at very traditional, conservative weddings with bright purple hair. Nobody cares about a high school girl’s leg hair.

So then you don't shave your legs either? Do you wear skirts and dresses to the office?

I do, but I wouldn’t care if I saw someone at work who didn’t. My high school DD only does very occasionally. This is her journey on earth, she can present herself how she wants.

So you're a hypocrite. Telling us how we must get with the times and then succumb to the pressure of shaving. Why do you do it if you're so with the times?

No, my intention was not to suggest that everyone should stop shaving. By “get with the times,” I meant that people should (at least try to) stop judging people’s choices about how they present themselves. Sorry you misunderstood.

But you still understand the societal and professional impact of not shaving, so you do it. What am I missing?

Are you dense? Do you not understand that social norms and expectations are always in flux? Do you think the women should be allowed to wear pants?

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There is nothing like teen leg hair that get people WORKED UP around here.

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Anonymous wrote:For those of you who are saying that it's totally fine, why don't you stop shaving your legs and join the young generation? Why leave them hanging? No one is holindg a gun to your head saying you must shave.

I'm guessing that even though you won't personally judge a young woman for not shaving, you still understand the impact that it might have.

DP. I don’t shave. But I also don’t wear dresses either. Never have.

I grew up in a hippie family and have a couple of boomer aunts who didn’t shave pits, legs, or bikini line.

It’s no big deal that my DD rarely shaves.

-professional gen-xer who works in an office

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Her legs her choice

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i applaud your daughter!

here's the thing-- IT IS NOT A REQUIREMENT

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Anonymous wrote:Some of you all need to get with the times. I’ve seen male school administrators wearing nail polish to work, wedding coordinators at very traditional, conservative weddings with bright purple hair. Nobody cares about a high school girl’s leg hair.

So then you don't shave your legs either? Do you wear skirts and dresses to the office?

I do, but I wouldn’t care if I saw someone at work who didn’t. My high school DD only does very occasionally. This is her journey on earth, she can present herself how she wants.

So you're a hypocrite. Telling us how we must get with the times and then succumb to the pressure of shaving. Why do you do it if you're so with the times?

No, my intention was not to suggest that everyone should stop shaving. By “get with the times,” I meant that people should (at least try to) stop judging people’s choices about how they present themselves. Sorry you misunderstood.

But you still understand the societal and professional impact of not shaving, so you do it. What am I missing?

Do you not understand the difference between doing something because YOU want to do it, and expecting everyone else to do exactly as YOU do because YOU want them to?

You can wear a full face of makeup, full blowout and do an everything shower every morning before you get to work. No one else is required to follow your self imposed grooming standards. Stop judging women who don't want to fit into your tiny narrow box full of other old ladies.