This thread is creepy af. |
It's infantilizing to teach that a girl is incapable of saying "no" when she means "no". |
A friend’s son in MS was accused in school of “assault” by a girl because he touched her upper arm once while they were having a conversation in the lunchroom. The girl went to a teacher and explained she had not consented to having her upper arm briefly touched, and per the recent consent training, didn’t that count as a sexual assault? The whole thing blew up at school; parents called, etc. But the real damage followed when the kids went wild on social media on their phones, and they really did a number on the boy and his reputation. Good luck recovering from that. |
+1 |
+1 same with my sons. FWIW, I didn't have a BF in HS or college...and I was popular--varsity athlete all 4-years, class officer, homecoming court, etc. I did have lots of great guy friends. My mom used to bug the crap out of me so I shut down even more and told her nothing. I then had guys swarming me from age 24 or so on. I had 2 semi-serious BFs, 1 casual BF and then met my current husband at 26--still married 26 years later. So- I don't see anything wrong with it. My husband is much more obsessed with it--but he grew up in a working class, poor midwest neighborhood where people were banging in middle school and he had a very serious GF all 4 years---who is now on her 5th baby daddy...lol |
No benefit to having a GF in 2024.
Way too many liabilities for the guy. Plus, there’s plenty of sex/hookups without the whole GF drama; that’s how everyone dates. and everyone on social is honest about there being zero chance your HS romance survives going to college. Hard pass. |
"Plus, there’s plenty of sex/hookups without the whole GF drama; that’s how everyone dates."
This is what's going on with that kid who watches TV with his mom. He's getting it without having to buy movie tickets. I really don't know why anybody on here in 2024 would call what HS kids do dating. They hang out. They flirt in the hallways between classes. They skip class and grope each other in the bathroom. Even 20 years ago it was rare for a boy to drive up to a girl's house, knock on the door, speak with the parents, and have her home by 10. |
Oh, and they have video sex in their bedrooms. They text each other pics of body parts. That's what replaced dating. |
Both my kids are like this but Dh and I were also late bloomers so probably not surprising. The kids (and DH) also have ADHD which I'm told = a couple years delay in brain development so maybe that contributes to it. Both have told me they've been asked out but weren't interested, they just want friends at this point. I'm sure they'll eventually find the right person just like DH and I did. |
No benefit for the girl to have a boyfriend either! |
I thought the term flyover was an insult. Is this how you want to refer your home? |
I don't know about you but some boys have been known to pressure girls to do things they don't want to do. Sometimes it is hard to stand up especiallt when you started something but they push it. |
I find it creepy how you describe your son. Ick factor is high |
PP. "I kid because I love". I choose to be here and escaped DMV, but I can't resist parenting toxicity so I come to DCUM for small doses. Flyover quickly explains that I don't live anywhere near most of you and your giant top-in-the-US public schools and elite private schools with politicians' kids. I'm a "W Cluster" escapee. Most of the people I know locally wouldn't spend two minutes on a site like this. It wouldn't be relatable at all. |
Maybe they are self-conscious? |