Where would a tween learn to use “they’re loaded” in reference to wealthy people?

[Anonymous]

Coaching your niece to WHAT?

Exactly how much do you loathe this sister in law? Dish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound insane.

She could have picked it up from a book, a movie, a tv show, overhearing peers talk, commercials.

+1. I think you jump to conclusions pretty quickly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Here's the thing, OP.

You're incredibly afraid that the niece will be an awkward hanger-on and sabotage your kid's carefully orchestrated social climbing.

What you do is you stop the car, turn around in your seat, and tell your young relative, born on the wrong side of the tracks, that on no account should she humiliate the family by making any comments about your friends' appearance or visible signs of wealth. Put that vulgar brat in her place!

Your daughter is moving up in the world no matter who you need to trample under your last-season Louboutin!!! Soon you'll be able to afford this season's!!!

The thing about social climbing is that the rich targets always know they are being targeting on account of their wealth. It's not lost on them why OP is foisting her DD on them. Whether an uncouth poor relation tags along or not, it doesn't change how they see right through OP. OP might as well pull the tree trunk out her a55 and let the niece tag along. I think it would be best to let OP's DD take the lead on handling the cousin if she's saying certain things around the moneybags. Having your b1tchy aunt give you a stern talking to about how to behave around loaded folks will sour the relationship.

[Anonymous]

I’m more concerned about an adult who uses the word “gauche” in all seriousness. You should know better, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Here's the thing, OP.

You're incredibly afraid that the niece will be an awkward hanger-on and sabotage your kid's carefully orchestrated social climbing.

What you do is you stop the car, turn around in your seat, and tell your young relative, born on the wrong side of the tracks, that on no account should she humiliate the family by making any comments about your friends' appearance or visible signs of wealth. Put that vulgar brat in her place!

Your daughter is moving up in the world no matter who you need to trample under your last-season Louboutin!!! Soon you'll be able to afford this season's!!!

The thing about social climbing is that the rich targets always know they are being targeting on account of their wealth. It's not lost on them why OP is foisting her DD on them. Whether an uncouth poor relation tags along or not, it doesn't change how they see right through OP. OP might as well pull the tree trunk out her a55 and let the niece tag along. I think it would be best to let OP's DD take the lead on handling the cousin if she's saying certain things around the moneybags. Having your b1tchy aunt give you a stern talking to about how to behave around loaded folks will sour the relationship.

Plot twist: OP's guileless niece from 90 miles away will land the young scion of the loaded family. Why, the whole family finds her delightful! It will be a long and happy courtship between the two star-crossed young people. Meanwhile, OP's own daughter who's been stressed by her mother's relentless and obsessive social climbing will end up with the son of the chauffeur. OP will be beside herself with rage and jealousy but what is she to do? After her divorce, she'll be in the position where she must beg for crumbs from her own niece - who was once the poor relation! Life just isn't fair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Here's the thing, OP.

You're incredibly afraid that the niece will be an awkward hanger-on and sabotage your kid's carefully orchestrated social climbing.

What you do is you stop the car, turn around in your seat, and tell your young relative, born on the wrong side of the tracks, that on no account should she humiliate the family by making any comments about your friends' appearance or visible signs of wealth. Put that vulgar brat in her place!

Your daughter is moving up in the world no matter who you need to trample under your last-season Louboutin!!! Soon you'll be able to afford this season's!!!

The thing about social climbing is that the rich targets always know they are being targeting on account of their wealth. It's not lost on them why OP is foisting her DD on them. Whether an uncouth poor relation tags along or not, it doesn't change how they see right through OP. OP might as well pull the tree trunk out her a55 and let the niece tag along. I think it would be best to let OP's DD take the lead on handling the cousin if she's saying certain things around the moneybags. Having your b1tchy aunt give you a stern talking to about how to behave around loaded folks will sour the relationship.

Plot twist: OP's guileless niece from 90 miles away will land the young scion of the loaded family. Why, the whole family finds her delightful! It will be a long and happy courtship between the two star-crossed young people. Meanwhile, OP's own daughter who's been stressed by her mother's relentless and obsessive social climbing will end up with the son of the chauffeur. OP will be beside herself with rage and jealousy but what is she to do? After her divorce, she'll be in the position where she must beg for crumbs from her own niece - who was once the poor relation! Life just isn't fair.

I’m picturing the niece as Disney animated Cinderella and the daughter as one of the wicked stepsisters with the cross-eyes and weak chin 😆

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder what would be an acceptable way for the teen to notice wealth that wouldn't be gauche in OPs mind. Should she say "looks like they are hard workers". Or "they must have gone to a top 20 school and be very intelligent". Kids can notice affluence as well as anyone else and since they are kids without a fully functional filter, they may voice their observation out loud.

Heck, I’m an adult and sometimes encounter a house where I have a “I had no idea Jane was so rich” moment — and which I might feel free to express to my husband or best friend.

We live in a house that is almost 15,000sf. We are down to earth. Most people are probably surprised we are well off. Many of our neighbors’ homes are 20,000sf with long driveways.

[Anonymous]

oP you are a weirdo. you sound the one balls obsessed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m more concerned about an adult who uses the word “gauche” in all seriousness. You should know better, OP.

Is gauche bad to say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Here's the thing, OP.

You're incredibly afraid that the niece will be an awkward hanger-on and sabotage your kid's carefully orchestrated social climbing.

What you do is you stop the car, turn around in your seat, and tell your young relative, born on the wrong side of the tracks, that on no account should she humiliate the family by making any comments about your friends' appearance or visible signs of wealth. Put that vulgar brat in her place!

Your daughter is moving up in the world no matter who you need to trample under your last-season Louboutin!!! Soon you'll be able to afford this season's!!!

The thing about social climbing is that the rich targets always know they are being targeting on account of their wealth. It's not lost on them why OP is foisting her DD on them. Whether an uncouth poor relation tags along or not, it doesn't change how they see right through OP. OP might as well pull the tree trunk out her a55 and let the niece tag along. I think it would be best to let OP's DD take the lead on handling the cousin if she's saying certain things around the moneybags. Having your b1tchy aunt give you a stern talking to about how to behave around loaded folks will sour the relationship.

Plot twist: OP's guileless niece from 90 miles away will land the young scion of the loaded family. Why, the whole family finds her delightful! It will be a long and happy courtship between the two star-crossed young people. Meanwhile, OP's own daughter who's been stressed by her mother's relentless and obsessive social climbing will end up with the son of the chauffeur. OP will be beside herself with rage and jealousy but what is she to do? After her divorce, she'll be in the position where she must beg for crumbs from her own niece - who was once the poor relation! Life just isn't fair.

I’m picturing the niece as Disney animated Cinderella and the daughter as one of the wicked stepsisters with the cross-eyes and weak chin 😆

I'm picturing Daniel LaRusso's mom pulling up to the mansion in her old beater that dies and the rich kid has to get out and help push the car so she can pop it in gear to leave. What kind of car do you drive OP? The parents may see it. Maybe park one block over so they don't figure you out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound insane.

She could have picked it up from a book, a movie, a tv show, overhearing peers talk, commercials.

This.
She isn’t 4.
Ever heard of social media, television, conversation with friends? Teens have many influences other than parents…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Here's the thing, OP.

You're incredibly afraid that the niece will be an awkward hanger-on and sabotage your kid's carefully orchestrated social climbing.

What you do is you stop the car, turn around in your seat, and tell your young relative, born on the wrong side of the tracks, that on no account should she humiliate the family by making any comments about your friends' appearance or visible signs of wealth. Put that vulgar brat in her place!

Your daughter is moving up in the world no matter who you need to trample under your last-season Louboutin!!! Soon you'll be able to afford this season's!!!

The thing about social climbing is that the rich targets always know they are being targeting on account of their wealth. It's not lost on them why OP is foisting her DD on them. Whether an uncouth poor relation tags along or not, it doesn't change how they see right through OP. OP might as well pull the tree trunk out her a55 and let the niece tag along. I think it would be best to let OP's DD take the lead on handling the cousin if she's saying certain things around the moneybags. Having your b1tchy aunt give you a stern talking to about how to behave around loaded folks will sour the relationship.

Plot twist: OP's guileless niece from 90 miles away will land the young scion of the loaded family. Why, the whole family finds her delightful! It will be a long and happy courtship between the two star-crossed young people. Meanwhile, OP's own daughter who's been stressed by her mother's relentless and obsessive social climbing will end up with the son of the chauffeur. OP will be beside herself with rage and jealousy but what is she to do? After her divorce, she'll be in the position where she must beg for crumbs from her own niece - who was once the poor relation! Life just isn't fair.

I’m picturing the niece as Disney animated Cinderella and the daughter as one of the wicked stepsisters with the cross-eyes and weak chin 😆

I'm picturing Daniel LaRusso's mom pulling up to the mansion in her old beater that dies and the rich kid has to get out and help push the car so she can pop it in gear to leave. What kind of car do you drive OP? The parents may see it. Maybe park one block over so they don't figure you out.

Or Andi from Pretty In Pink as she and Duckie pass by the gorgeous home that turns out to be Steff’s house…and she laments the shame of how the people inside probably don’t appreciate it or “think it’s half as beautiful as I do…”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My niece stayed with our daughter on Friday night and they in turn hung out at my daughter’s best friend’s house. When I drove them to that home, my niece says “wow, they’re loaded!” upon seeing their house. It caught me off guard. That’s pretty gauche and I’ve never heard a kid her age talk like that. Does that suggest her parents are fixated on people’s money and having those conversations with my niece present, maybe even coaching my niece to size up and befriend wealthy peers?

Yes! Definitely.

Hahahahaha

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My niece stayed with our daughter on Friday night and they in turn hung out at my daughter’s best friend’s house. When I drove them to that home, my niece says “wow, they’re loaded!” upon seeing their house. It caught me off guard. That’s pretty gauche and I’ve never heard a kid her age talk like that. Does that suggest her parents are fixated on people’s money and having those conversations with my niece present, maybe even coaching my niece to size up and befriend wealthy peers?

Do you not like your brother/sister and their spouse? Seems like you are looking for a way to criticize their parenting. I don’t like people using the phrase “they’re loaded” as well. But your niece could have easily picked up the phrase from her peers in school, tv, the internet, social media… who knows.

Also I grew up in an extremely wealthy family. Nothing bothered me more than people who wanted to befriend me because they admired my family’s wealth. I found it pathetic to be honest. It seems like that’s what you would like your niece to do. We can smell those those from a mile. Seems like you are one of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, the only thing I see that is "suggested" here is by your post: you are looking for a reason to criticize your niece's parents.

Here’s the thing, over the last few months her parents are coming on strong to have their daughter visit my daughter. They live 90 minutes away door to door, so it’s quite an effort. My daughter is friends with wealthy peers because of the school she attends and an extracurricular activity she participates in. So factoring all of that in, an out of the blue comment about “loaded” people makes me wonder if they may be coaching her to orbit wealthy peers.

Given the way you phrased this, I can tell that you are a social climber who is impressed with her daughter’s wealthy friends. Pathetic. I hope the wealthy friends realize this and stay far away