Where would a tween learn to use “they’re loaded” in reference to wealthy people?

[Anonymous]

Whoa, those are some big conclusions to jump to, sounds like you are looking for a reason to find fault with the parents. Tweens pick up their language and references from their friends, tik tok, books, tv, school, any number of places. If it were a toddler that would be one thing, but attributing something a tween says directly to the parents is ludicrous.

[Anonymous]

If she said "wealthy" instead of "loaded" would it be less of a concern? Btw, what thoughts go through your mind when you first find out that someone lives in a very expensive home? Just curious.

[Anonymous]

Well, you use “gauche.”

[Anonymous]

Guess what? Your daughter just learned a new phrase and will be using it soon. I wonder if people will question what goes on in your household?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound insane.

She could have picked it up from a book, a movie, a tv show, overhearing peers talk, commercials.

+1000

OP, sorry you grew up on an isolated compound in the woods where your parents were the only other humans you interacted with and you had no access to books, movies, music, and other media. How is this a real question on an urban parenting board? Try asking on Arctic Tundra Moms and Dads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's ridiculous. Nothing about a tween saying "they're loaded" is suprising. Maybe if a toddler said it, it'd be weird? Has nothing to do with parents grooming kids to be social/wealth climbers. They could easily have picked it up on a Disney show.

There absolutely are parents who groom their kids to be social/wealth climbers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You sound insane.

She could have picked it up from a book, a movie, a tv show, overhearing peers talk, commercials.

+1000

OP, sorry you grew up on an isolated compound in the woods where your parents were the only other humans you interacted with and you had no access to books, movies, music, and other media. How is this a real question on an urban parenting board? Try asking on Arctic Tundra Moms and Dads.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's ridiculous. Nothing about a tween saying "they're loaded" is suprising. Maybe if a toddler said it, it'd be weird? Has nothing to do with parents grooming kids to be social/wealth climbers. They could easily have picked it up on a Disney show.

There absolutely are parents who groom their kids to be social/wealth climbers.

True, but they probably have taught them the appropriate words to use when currying favors from the wealthy. "Loaded" would not be one of those words.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, the only thing I see that is "suggested" here is by your post: you are looking for a reason to criticize your niece's parents.

Here’s the thing, over the last few months her parents are coming on strong to have their daughter visit my daughter. They live 90 minutes away door to door, so it’s quite an effort. My daughter is friends with wealthy peers because of the school she attends and an extracurricular activity she participates in. So factoring all of that in, an out of the blue comment about “loaded” people makes me wonder if they may be coaching her to orbit wealthy peers.

[Anonymous]

A kid used a common expression.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, the only thing I see that is "suggested" here is by your post: you are looking for a reason to criticize your niece's parents.

Here’s the thing, over the last few months her parents are coming on strong to have their daughter visit my daughter. They live 90 minutes away door to door, so it’s quite an effort. My daughter is friends with wealthy peers because of the school she attends and an extracurricular activity she participates in. So factoring all of that in, an out of the blue comment about “loaded” people makes me wonder if they may be coaching her to orbit wealthy peers.

Or they want some babysitting. Access to wealthy teens doesn't do anything for another teen. What could she possibly gain? You seem very impressed by your daughter's friends. What are you hoping to gain?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, the only thing I see that is "suggested" here is by your post: you are looking for a reason to criticize your niece's parents.

Here’s the thing, over the last few months her parents are coming on strong to have their daughter visit my daughter. They live 90 minutes away door to door, so it’s quite an effort. My daughter is friends with wealthy peers because of the school she attends and an extracurricular activity she participates in. So factoring all of that in, an out of the blue comment about “loaded” people makes me wonder if they may be coaching her to orbit wealthy peers.

If that were their goal, wouldn’t she have been given advance notice that your daughter’s friends are wealthy — and not prone to outbursts of “wow, they’re loaded!” This theory sounds like a huge stretch in any case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, the only thing I see that is "suggested" here is by your post: you are looking for a reason to criticize your niece's parents.

Here’s the thing, over the last few months her parents are coming on strong to have their daughter visit my daughter. They live 90 minutes away door to door, so it’s quite an effort. My daughter is friends with wealthy peers because of the school she attends and an extracurricular activity she participates in. So factoring all of that in, an out of the blue comment about “loaded” people makes me wonder if they may be coaching her to orbit wealthy peers.

You are also making sure your DD gets lots of face time with filthy rich people. What an absolute pig of a hypocrite you are. Oh let me guess, your DD's friendships with moneybags are organic and totally not something your unconsciously encourage.

[Anonymous]

Completely normal. Kids pick it up from other kids, YouTube, and TikTok. I’m sure her parents would be as horrified as you were if they heard it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, the only thing I see that is "suggested" here is by your post: you are looking for a reason to criticize your niece's parents.

Here’s the thing, over the last few months her parents are coming on strong to have their daughter visit my daughter. They live 90 minutes away door to door, so it’s quite an effort. My daughter is friends with wealthy peers because of the school she attends and an extracurricular activity she participates in. So factoring all of that in, an out of the blue comment about “loaded” people makes me wonder if they may be coaching her to orbit wealthy peers.

Or they want some babysitting. Access to wealthy teens doesn't do anything for another teen. What could she possibly gain? You seem very impressed by your daughter's friends. What are you hoping to gain?

Yeah, it’s one thing to befriend the Joneses close to home, but Darla has to drive 90 minutes to use Richie Rich’s — what — sports car? Genuinely not sure what this gets anyone.