Kid asked if my son was gay

[Anonymous]

Teach your child to be confident and comfortable with themself, so questions don't bother them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Oh my! That's a very rude question".

Welcome to the 21st century. No longer rude.

LGBTQ+ is much more accepted now than it used to be and the goal is to remove any stigma with being in any of those demographics. So, stop considering it rude and just answer. If the kid asked your son and he denied and then the kid asked you, I would say "He said he wasn't. Why would you not believe him?"

It’s not an appropriate question for an eight year old.

There are a lot of other inappropriate questions asked among elementary students that are not about sexual or dating preferences; although The the other kid probably meant “do you think boys are cute?”

Young kids are curious…. They ask each other “how much money does your dad make” “why do you walk with a limp” “why is your mom in a wheelchair” “why do you have a scar on your face” “are you poor” etc! Your kid needs to learn to advocate for himself if someone asks him something that he doesn’t want to answer or it seems invasive, especially if the person is a peer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t see why this question is a problem.

I suppose you don't see anything wrong with asking others about their salary, medical issues, or masturbation habits either?

[Anonymous]

NP. I appreciate the responses that suggested specific things kids or adults could say. I agree kids park lots of inappropriate questions. As an adult I don’t always feel like I have a great idea of how to respond to the inappropriate questions whether about sexual orientation or something else private.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teach your child to be confident and comfortable with themself, so questions don't bother them.

I teach my child healthy boundaries. That includes telling random schoolmates to keep their nose out of their personal life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you gay?
No are you?
No

End of story.

It’s not a bad thing.

Do you play football?
No do you?
No.

+1 I don't see the big deal

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I teach my child healthy boundaries. That includes telling random schoolmates to keep their nose out of their personal life.

+1. This life lesson is most easily learned in lower elementary grades.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Oh my! That's a very rude question".

This would totally work if her son were 80 years old.

If he is a normal aged 3rd grade he just says "no, are you?"

This.

Of course there's nothing wrong with being gay, but this kid didn't ask your DS out of curiosity. He was bullying, and you have to treat the question like you would any other question or comment from a bully.

[Anonymous]

This is why I send my kids to Catholic school. That kid would have gone to the principal's office at our school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why I send my kids to Catholic school. That kid would have gone to the principal's office at our school.

And would you if your child did happen to be gay?

[Anonymous]

Do you suspect your child may be gay OP?

While it wouldn’t change my general response, as this is rude to ask, I would keep in mind, if he is, this will be coming up again and again.