Uhmm…the real world? I think it’s pretty widely accepted that women wouldn’t have much of a place in the workforce if it wasn’t for reliable birth control. |
I guess I don't think it's obvious to assume that when a stranger says "I love my husband" , what they actually mean is, "this isn't love". |
I must be lucky then because I've never once had a boss or coworker tell me I should start taking birth control. |
Because that wasn’t all she said, you complete idiotic idiot. |
OP here- I’m not saying cheating is ok, I’m saying that the reaction to the physical act of having sex with another person seems particularly outsized when you consider how casually sex is now treated outside of marriage.
I’ve read posts on this forum of women being devastated for years and years after the discovery of their husband’s affair. To a certain extent I understand the devastation is because of the broken trust and everything that came with the infidelity, but I also think there’s more to it than that. I don’t think that same reaction would happen with an emotional affair. And to a degree when you see how triggered people seem to be by the concept of an “open marriage.” |
I am with you, OP. |
I mean, the qualifier is implied. The only reason people say, “you should use birth control” is in the context of preventing pregnancy. I guess what I find odd is that, in these same discussions, people NEVER say, “or you should have an abortion.” Like I said, I grew up far to the right and came around left. It’s hard for me to see this middle ground where one is okay but the other is not. |
But people break their word all that time. My partner promised me they'd go on vacation with me to this place I really want to go. I get all excited. Then they decided that don't want to go. |
You’re wrong. Obviously, everyone doesn’t react the same way, but there are definitely people who are devastated by an emotional affair, and because their partner has been lying and hiding the relationship from them, they can’t be sure that the affair wasn’t also physical. |
You’re equating vacation planning to making marriage vows? We can’t help you. |
You can remain virgin, marry in early 20's to your sweetheart and build a life together and never cheat. Millions of people do that and have absolutely satisfied lives. They may not have varied experiences but they also don't have varied burdens and varied expectations monogamy can't meet.
Obviously if you've had 24 flavors, even if you do like chocolate, you are more likely to crave for other flavors and cheat on chocolate. |
I’m open to this. Maybe we should start a different thread on the Jobs board. You really never felt any pressure at work or school to wait to get pregnant or time your pregnancies or maternity leaves around work stuff? I’m not saying people said anything overtly. But people also never overtly told me not to wear clear heels and fishnets. I just knew. |
A marriage is between two people, if you add others then it's a group, neither a couple nor a marriage. |
In the catholic church you can divorce for being in a sexless marriage so I don't understand your point. |
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