Wealthy career mentor taking son out to dinner next week

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My employer CEO is currently mentoring my 21-year-old son. We met at an expensive restaurant and ordered a few shots of Louis XIII at around $350 per shot. We had dinner after that and the bill was around 4.5K with 1K for tip. The CEO's salary is around 4M/year, and he picked up the tab.

You should not assume that someone else will pick up the tab for YOUR child and you should offer to pay. It doesn't matter what your CEO makes. His money.

Omg are you Fing kidding me? It’s a professional mentorship you think his mommy should be involved and offering to pick up the check? Is this kid 12 or 21? LMAO at the idiocy on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My employer CEO is currently mentoring my 21-year-old son. We met at an expensive restaurant and ordered a few shots of Louis XIII at around $350 per shot. We had dinner after that and the bill was around 4.5K with 1K for tip. The CEO's salary is around 4M/year, and he picked up the tab.

You should not assume that someone else will pick up the tab for YOUR child and you should offer to pay. It doesn't matter what your CEO makes. His money.

Ugh, no. The CEO will pay.

Tacky

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My employer CEO is currently mentoring my 21-year-old son. We met at an expensive restaurant and ordered a few shots of Louis XIII at around $350 per shot. We had dinner after that and the bill was around 4.5K with 1K for tip. The CEO's salary is around 4M/year, and he picked up the tab.

You should not assume that someone else will pick up the tab for YOUR child and you should offer to pay. It doesn't matter what your CEO makes. His money.

Omg are you Fing kidding me? It’s a professional mentorship you think his mommy should be involved and offering to pick up the check? Is this kid 12 or 21? LMAO at the idiocy on this thread.

The CEO’s admin assistant took care of the whole thing because the CEO is a regular there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My employer CEO is currently mentoring my 21-year-old son. We met at an expensive restaurant and ordered a few shots of Louis XIII at around $350 per shot. We had dinner after that and the bill was around 4.5K with 1K for tip. The CEO's salary is around 4M/year, and he picked up the tab.

You should not assume that someone else will pick up the tab for YOUR child and you should offer to pay. It doesn't matter what your CEO makes. His money.

Ugh, no. The CEO will pay.

Tacky

I don't think you know what that word means. Tacky is an 18 year old kid trying to take the check from a CEO. I really wonder how many of you have real life professional experience.

[Anonymous]

Your son should not offer to pay. He should say “thank you”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My employer CEO is currently mentoring my 21-year-old son. We met at an expensive restaurant and ordered a few shots of Louis XIII at around $350 per shot. We had dinner after that and the bill was around 4.5K with 1K for tip. The CEO's salary is around 4M/year, and he picked up the tab.

You should not assume that someone else will pick up the tab for YOUR child and you should offer to pay. It doesn't matter what your CEO makes. His money.

Omg are you Fing kidding me? It’s a professional mentorship you think his mommy should be involved and offering to pick up the check? Is this kid 12 or 21? LMAO at the idiocy on this thread.

Yeah, that PP sounds very blue collar. No CEO will be impressed by a kid trying to pay. The kid needs to say “thank you” and nothing more.

[Anonymous]

Dinner? I guarantee he gets the kid drunk.

[Anonymous]

Just follow mentor's lead. Don't order more than one drink. If mentor isn't drinking, stick to seltzer.

[Anonymous]

You know what mentor will remember? Your son should send a handwritten ( not sloppy) thank-you after the lunch. I headed a retained executive search firm. Executives rarely received " thank yous", so when they did...they remembered and talked about it.

As others have written, your son should order a medium priced, not- messy entree. He shouldn't gobble it down. Hopefully, he has table manners. Unless mentor absolutely insists, he should not drink alcohol nor order extra sides. Make sure he treats the wait staff with respect.

[Anonymous]

He should order normally. Don't over think it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And nothing that's difficult to eat like spaghetti or a hamburger

+1. A good approach is to eat something beforehand, then you order a reasonably priced (but non-messy) entree but you're not focused on the food because you ate beforehand. The focus should be on the conversation and mentorship, but obviously you want to eat something because it is dinner.

+1

[Anonymous]

Fascinating thread. My DC is 20 and knows her way around menus, cuisines, manners, and customs for business dinners. Her mentor did take to her dinner and it never occurred to me to ask - Did you pay? Did you know what to order? Did you know whether to drink or not? All I remember asking was - Oh, cool, where did you go and how was it.

Is the bimodal distribution of Q&A on this thread a socioeconomic class issue? Or business world norms issue, like, wealthy parents who have never been at a business dinner don't know the unwritten rules?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ew, why mention the person is wealthy?! When someone invites you for dinner, you order whatever you want, not what they get. How weird!

I don't. I never order something more expensive than my host.