Wealthy career mentor taking son out to dinner next week

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Anonymous wrote:Ordering the most expensive item is just tacky. Shows you have no class or manners.

Unreal. You neurotic strivers are projecting your class insecurities onto your kids. The rich literally don’t look at menu item prices. They don’t care. And an entree is never going to come close to the bottles of wine they uncork with reckless abandon anyways.

The guest should order whatever they want, whatever makes them happy and good conversation. Stop stressing your kids out about POINTLESS worries.

I hate to say this, but PP is right. Your kid needs to just be a normal human being and have a meal. Order whatever.

Plenty of rich people are cheap or at least aware of what they spend. When being treated, It is tacky to get the most expensive thing on the menu or to order multiple rounds of drinks when the host isn’t drinking. Whether they are counting pennies or not, many people would still notice.

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The wealthy mentor will tell someone and crack a joke about the kid that ordered the steak or lobster. And how many drinks the kid had and what kind of alcoholic beverage. They will laugh about it. Trust me.

And then what? Sounds like a trashy mentor.

Doesn’t matter. Does the OP’s kid want the mentoring or not? Why do something stupid to get a fancy meal, when this person could support in much bigger ways in the future?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here's what you do. You ask if that person has been to the restaurant before, and then ask what they're thinking about getting. Then you make sure you order something that costs either less, or no more than $5 more than them. No alcohol. No apps or desserts unless they get them too.

No alcohol? *If the rich guy orders booze*, they don’t want to drink alone. Either you’re sharing a bottle of wine or order the same cocktail they ordered.

They won’t order booze at lunch with a young adult. If they do, they’re an alcoholic and the OP’s son should find a different mentor.

Who said it was lunch?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ordering the most expensive item is just tacky. Shows you have no class or manners.

Unreal. You neurotic strivers are projecting your class insecurities onto your kids. The rich literally don’t look at menu item prices. They don’t care. And an entree is never going to come close to the bottles of wine they uncork with reckless abandon anyways.

The guest should order whatever they want, whatever makes them happy and good conversation. Stop stressing your kids out about POINTLESS worries.

I hate to say this, but PP is right. Your kid needs to just be a normal human being and have a meal. Order whatever.

Plenty of rich people are cheap or at least aware of what they spend. When being treated, It is tacky to get the most expensive thing on the menu or to order multiple rounds of drinks when the host isn’t drinking. Whether they are counting pennies or not, many people would still notice.

No, this is a DCUM striver trope. Rich spend money like water. If an old rich guy takes your dopey kid to a nice restaurant they’re clearly not pinching pennies. Some of you seem to lack any and all social IQ and soft skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ordering the most expensive item is just tacky. Shows you have no class or manners.

Unreal. You neurotic strivers are projecting your class insecurities onto your kids. The rich literally don’t look at menu item prices. They don’t care. And an entree is never going to come close to the bottles of wine they uncork with reckless abandon anyways.

The guest should order whatever they want, whatever makes them happy and good conversation. Stop stressing your kids out about POINTLESS worries.

I hate to say this, but PP is right. Your kid needs to just be a normal human being and have a meal. Order whatever.

Plenty of rich people are cheap or at least aware of what they spend. When being treated, It is tacky to get the most expensive thing on the menu or to order multiple rounds of drinks when the host isn’t drinking. Whether they are counting pennies or not, many people would still notice.

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The wealthy mentor will tell someone and crack a joke about the kid that ordered the steak or lobster. And how many drinks the kid had and what kind of alcoholic beverage. They will laugh about it. Trust me.

Obviously you don’t order a live lobster. People in general don’t order that. But if a lobster pasta sounds good, who cares, order it. Rich men have bigger things to worry about than menu prices. You really think some millionaire gives a flying f*** if a college kid’s entree cost 20 bucks more? It would generate literally zero mindshare.

[Anonymous]

If the rich guy orders alcohol, the son needs to order alcohol too (or share the bottle of wine). Nobody likes to drink alone. And boozers are creeped out by puritans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ordering the most expensive item is just tacky. Shows you have no class or manners.

Unreal. You neurotic strivers are projecting your class insecurities onto your kids. The rich literally don’t look at menu item prices. They don’t care. And an entree is never going to come close to the bottles of wine they uncork with reckless abandon anyways.

The guest should order whatever they want, whatever makes them happy and good conversation. Stop stressing your kids out about POINTLESS worries.

I hate to say this, but PP is right. Your kid needs to just be a normal human being and have a meal. Order whatever.

Plenty of rich people are cheap or at least aware of what they spend. When being treated, It is tacky to get the most expensive thing on the menu or to order multiple rounds of drinks when the host isn’t drinking. Whether they are counting pennies or not, many people would still notice.

No, this is a DCUM striver trope. Rich spend money like water. If an old rich guy takes your dopey kid to a nice restaurant they’re clearly not pinching pennies. Some of you seem to lack any and all social IQ and soft skills.

NP here. You sound like you don’t know any rich people.

[Anonymous]

Order something that is less than what the mentor orders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son asked if he should order light or just order whatever he wants. I half-jokingly said just order the same thing the mentor orders. Is that a bad idea?

I can't recall being in a one on one dinner with an older mentor at his age. When I was in college we had group dinners during internships with bosses and I just made sure not to order the most expensive. But some interns would order the most expensive and nobody cared.

How old is son? < 18, 17-20, 21-24, or 25+

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ordering the most expensive item is just tacky. Shows you have no class or manners.

Unreal. You neurotic strivers are projecting your class insecurities onto your kids. The rich literally don’t look at menu item prices. They don’t care. And an entree is never going to come close to the bottles of wine they uncork with reckless abandon anyways.

The guest should order whatever they want, whatever makes them happy and good conversation. Stop stressing your kids out about POINTLESS worries.

I hate to say this, but PP is right. Your kid needs to just be a normal human being and have a meal. Order whatever.

Plenty of rich people are cheap or at least aware of what they spend. When being treated, It is tacky to get the most expensive thing on the menu or to order multiple rounds of drinks when the host isn’t drinking. Whether they are counting pennies or not, many people would still notice.

No, this is a DCUM striver trope. Rich spend money like water. If an old rich guy takes your dopey kid to a nice restaurant they’re clearly not pinching pennies. Some of you seem to lack any and all social IQ and soft skills.

NP here. You sound like you don’t know any rich people.

Difference between "rich" (spends a lot) and "wealthy" (has a lot of assets).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Middle of the road but something he likes.

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Don't order the most expensive or the least expensive item - something in the middle is the best choice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Middle of the road but something he likes.

+1

Don't order the most expensive or the least expensive item - something in the middle is the best choice.

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This should not be rocket science. Everyone is making this way too complicated.

[Anonymous]

Preparing for the dinner by researching the man and having a lot of good conversation starters & follow-up questions is key. Plus interesting things to share about family, school and social life. No rich guy gives a damn how much your entree costs. He’ll probably use a business credit card to pay anyways.

[Anonymous]

Is this the room service menu?

[Anonymous]

The rich watch their money. Trust me. They know where it goes and how it is spent. If you think they don't care and spend it like water, you have not been wealthy or rich.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The rich watch their money. Trust me. They know where it goes and how it is spent. If you think they don't care and spend it like water, you have not been wealthy or rich.

Yes, execs who blow millions on private jet travel and consultants and vendors have a hard-line when it comes to a kid's $50 dinner choice. Good lord, you sound like a serf with a debilitating case of status anxiety.