Wealthy career mentor taking son out to dinner next week

[Anonymous]

My employer CEO is currently mentoring my 21-year-old son. We met at an expensive restaurant and ordered a few shots of Louis XIII at around $350 per shot. We had dinner after that and the bill was around 4.5K with 1K for tip. The CEO's salary is around 4M/year, and he picked up the tab.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: A grown man taking a young man on a date for “career counseling”? Is this a thing?

+100
Mentoring? No. Grooming.

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Anonymous wrote:Go over the menu with him and pick an entree on the more reasonable side. Not the most expensive.

Agree

Who are you helicopter parents raising adult children who can’t politely order for themselves off a menu by their early 20s? Do you not see how crazy this is?

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Anonymous wrote:Ordering the most expensive item is just tacky. Shows you have no class or manners.

Unreal. You neurotic strivers are projecting your class insecurities onto your kids. The rich literally don’t look at menu item prices. They don’t care. And an entree is never going to come close to the bottles of wine they uncork with reckless abandon anyways.

The guest should order whatever they want, whatever makes them happy and good conversation. Stop stressing your kids out about POINTLESS worries.

I hate to say this, but PP is right. Your kid needs to just be a normal human being and have a meal. Order whatever.

Plenty of rich people are cheap or at least aware of what they spend. When being treated, It is tacky to get the most expensive thing on the menu or to order multiple rounds of drinks when the host isn’t drinking. Whether they are counting pennies or not, many people would still notice.

No, this is a DCUM striver trope. Rich spend money like water. If an old rich guy takes your dopey kid to a nice restaurant they’re clearly not pinching pennies. Some of you seem to lack any and all social IQ and soft skills.

NP here. You sound like you don’t know any rich people.

+1 the mentor isn’t taking him out to dinner bc he’s hungry FFs. It’s a test of class, manners and social graces. Not drinking (even if the mentor does), not ordering the most expensive thing, having good table manners, knowing his way around a menu, using the right fork and saying thank you are all essential behavior. And so is coming prepared with three non-political or religious conversation topics and having well-informed questions about the career. Mentor will spend first part “getting to know him as a person” which means all of the above except work. Second part will be work questions. Any actual business will be conducted after the entree.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Go over the menu with him and pick an entree on the more reasonable side. Not the most expensive.

Agree

Who are you helicopter parents raising adult children who can’t politely order for themselves off a menu by their early 20s? Do you not see how crazy this is?

+1

Insane.

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Anonymous wrote:Ordering the most expensive item is just tacky. Shows you have no class or manners.

Unreal. You neurotic strivers are projecting your class insecurities onto your kids. The rich literally don’t look at menu item prices. They don’t care. And an entree is never going to come close to the bottles of wine they uncork with reckless abandon anyways.

The guest should order whatever they want, whatever makes them happy and good conversation. Stop stressing your kids out about POINTLESS worries.

I hate to say this, but PP is right. Your kid needs to just be a normal human being and have a meal. Order whatever.

Plenty of rich people are cheap or at least aware of what they spend. When being treated, It is tacky to get the most expensive thing on the menu or to order multiple rounds of drinks when the host isn’t drinking. Whether they are counting pennies or not, many people would still notice.

No, this is a DCUM striver trope. Rich spend money like water. If an old rich guy takes your dopey kid to a nice restaurant they’re clearly not pinching pennies. Some of you seem to lack any and all social IQ and soft skills.

NP here. You sound like you don’t know any rich people.

+1 the mentor isn’t taking him out to dinner bc he’s hungry FFs. It’s a test of class, manners and social graces. Not drinking (even if the mentor does), not ordering the most expensive thing, having good table manners, knowing his way around a menu, using the right fork and saying thank you are all essential behavior. And so is coming prepared with three non-political or religious conversation topics and having well-informed questions about the career. Mentor will spend first part “getting to know him as a person” which means all of the above except work. Second part will be work questions. Any actual business will be conducted after the entree.

+1. Unbelievable "all rich people want to spend money" - are you serious?? No. No, they don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My employer CEO is currently mentoring my 21-year-old son. We met at an expensive restaurant and ordered a few shots of Louis XIII at around $350 per shot. We had dinner after that and the bill was around 4.5K with 1K for tip. The CEO's salary is around 4M/year, and he picked up the tab.

Good for you?? You are easily impressed!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: A grown man taking a young man on a date for “career counseling”? Is this a thing?

+100
Mentoring? No. Grooming.

Your brain is fried from being terminally online or jealous nobody wealthy ever mentored you. Or both.

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Anonymous wrote:Ordering the most expensive item is just tacky. Shows you have no class or manners.

Unreal. You neurotic strivers are projecting your class insecurities onto your kids. The rich literally don’t look at menu item prices. They don’t care. And an entree is never going to come close to the bottles of wine they uncork with reckless abandon anyways.

The guest should order whatever they want, whatever makes them happy and good conversation. Stop stressing your kids out about POINTLESS worries.

I hate to say this, but PP is right. Your kid needs to just be a normal human being and have a meal. Order whatever.

Plenty of rich people are cheap or at least aware of what they spend. When being treated, It is tacky to get the most expensive thing on the menu or to order multiple rounds of drinks when the host isn’t drinking. Whether they are counting pennies or not, many people would still notice.

No, this is a DCUM striver trope. Rich spend money like water. If an old rich guy takes your dopey kid to a nice restaurant they’re clearly not pinching pennies. Some of you seem to lack any and all social IQ and soft skills.

NP here. You sound like you don’t know any rich people.

+1 the mentor isn’t taking him out to dinner bc he’s hungry FFs. It’s a test of class, manners and social graces. Not drinking (even if the mentor does), not ordering the most expensive thing, having good table manners, knowing his way around a menu, using the right fork and saying thank you are all essential behavior. And so is coming prepared with three non-political or religious conversation topics and having well-informed questions about the career. Mentor will spend first part “getting to know him as a person” which means all of the above except work. Second part will be work questions. Any actual business will be conducted after the entree.

+1. Unbelievable "all rich people want to spend money" - are you serious?? No. No, they don't.

If it was a rich penny pincher he’d have him come by the office for a 10 minute window or meet him for a free coffee in the building lobby. Buying a random kid a dinner at a night restaurant makes it obvious this isn’t a rich cheapskate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My employer CEO is currently mentoring my 21-year-old son. We met at an expensive restaurant and ordered a few shots of Louis XIII at around $350 per shot. We had dinner after that and the bill was around 4.5K with 1K for tip. The CEO's salary is around 4M/year, and he picked up the tab.

You should not assume that someone else will pick up the tab for YOUR child and you should offer to pay. It doesn't matter what your CEO makes. His money.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ordering the most expensive item is just tacky. Shows you have no class or manners.

Unreal. You neurotic strivers are projecting your class insecurities onto your kids. The rich literally don’t look at menu item prices. They don’t care. And an entree is never going to come close to the bottles of wine they uncork with reckless abandon anyways.

The guest should order whatever they want, whatever makes them happy and good conversation. Stop stressing your kids out about POINTLESS worries.

I hate to say this, but PP is right. Your kid needs to just be a normal human being and have a meal. Order whatever.

Plenty of rich people are cheap or at least aware of what they spend. When being treated, It is tacky to get the most expensive thing on the menu or to order multiple rounds of drinks when the host isn’t drinking. Whether they are counting pennies or not, many people would still notice.

No, this is a DCUM striver trope. Rich spend money like water. If an old rich guy takes your dopey kid to a nice restaurant they’re clearly not pinching pennies. Some of you seem to lack any and all social IQ and soft skills.

NP here. You sound like you don’t know any rich people.

+1 the mentor isn’t taking him out to dinner bc he’s hungry FFs. It’s a test of class, manners and social graces. Not drinking (even if the mentor does), not ordering the most expensive thing, having good table manners, knowing his way around a menu, using the right fork and saying thank you are all essential behavior. And so is coming prepared with three non-political or religious conversation topics and having well-informed questions about the career. Mentor will spend first part “getting to know him as a person” which means all of the above except work. Second part will be work questions. Any actual business will be conducted after the entree.

+1. Unbelievable "all rich people want to spend money" - are you serious?? No. No, they don't.

If it was a rich penny pincher he’d have him come by the office for a 10 minute window or meet him for a free coffee in the building lobby. Buying a random kid a dinner at a night restaurant makes it obvious this isn’t a rich cheapskate.

Its very tacky on OP part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My employer CEO is currently mentoring my 21-year-old son. We met at an expensive restaurant and ordered a few shots of Louis XIII at around $350 per shot. We had dinner after that and the bill was around 4.5K with 1K for tip. The CEO's salary is around 4M/year, and he picked up the tab.

You should not assume that someone else will pick up the tab for YOUR child and you should offer to pay. It doesn't matter what your CEO makes. His money.

Ugh, no. The CEO will pay.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ordering the most expensive item is just tacky. Shows you have no class or manners.

Unreal. You neurotic strivers are projecting your class insecurities onto your kids. The rich literally don’t look at menu item prices. They don’t care. And an entree is never going to come close to the bottles of wine they uncork with reckless abandon anyways.

The guest should order whatever they want, whatever makes them happy and good conversation. Stop stressing your kids out about POINTLESS worries.

I hate to say this, but PP is right. Your kid needs to just be a normal human being and have a meal. Order whatever.

Plenty of rich people are cheap or at least aware of what they spend. When being treated, It is tacky to get the most expensive thing on the menu or to order multiple rounds of drinks when the host isn’t drinking. Whether they are counting pennies or not, many people would still notice.

No, this is a DCUM striver trope. Rich spend money like water. If an old rich guy takes your dopey kid to a nice restaurant they’re clearly not pinching pennies. Some of you seem to lack any and all social IQ and soft skills.

NP here. You sound like you don’t know any rich people.

+1 the mentor isn’t taking him out to dinner bc he’s hungry FFs. It’s a test of class, manners and social graces. Not drinking (even if the mentor does), not ordering the most expensive thing, having good table manners, knowing his way around a menu, using the right fork and saying thank you are all essential behavior. And so is coming prepared with three non-political or religious conversation topics and having well-informed questions about the career. Mentor will spend first part “getting to know him as a person” which means all of the above except work. Second part will be work questions. Any actual business will be conducted after the entree.

+1. Unbelievable "all rich people want to spend money" - are you serious?? No. No, they don't.

If it was a rich penny pincher he’d have him come by the office for a 10 minute window or meet him for a free coffee in the building lobby. Buying a random kid a dinner at a night restaurant makes it obvious this isn’t a rich cheapskate.

Tell me you don’t know rich people without telling me you don’t know rich people.

[Anonymous]

This is one of those unfair class issues. Your kid needs to act like he’s been there before. Meaning: don’t order the tomahawk steak or a lobster but also don’t order a salad trying to be cheap. Take cues from the mentor. You want to look like you belong, won’t make embarrassing choices, and have manners. Make sure he knows what to do with a napkin, silverware, how to butter his bread and not chew with his mouth open. And for say thank you, with eye contact for a wonderful meal and for the advice. Make sure it’s direct, sincere but not over the top.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ordering the most expensive item is just tacky. Shows you have no class or manners.

Unreal. You neurotic strivers are projecting your class insecurities onto your kids. The rich literally don’t look at menu item prices. They don’t care. And an entree is never going to come close to the bottles of wine they uncork with reckless abandon anyways.

The guest should order whatever they want, whatever makes them happy and good conversation. Stop stressing your kids out about POINTLESS worries.

I hate to say this, but PP is right. Your kid needs to just be a normal human being and have a meal. Order whatever.

Plenty of rich people are cheap or at least aware of what they spend. When being treated, It is tacky to get the most expensive thing on the menu or to order multiple rounds of drinks when the host isn’t drinking. Whether they are counting pennies or not, many people would still notice.

No, this is a DCUM striver trope. Rich spend money like water. If an old rich guy takes your dopey kid to a nice restaurant they’re clearly not pinching pennies. Some of you seem to lack any and all social IQ and soft skills.

NP here. You sound like you don’t know any rich people.

+1 the mentor isn’t taking him out to dinner bc he’s hungry FFs. It’s a test of class, manners and social graces. Not drinking (even if the mentor does), not ordering the most expensive thing, having good table manners, knowing his way around a menu, using the right fork and saying thank you are all essential behavior. And so is coming prepared with three non-political or religious conversation topics and having well-informed questions about the career. Mentor will spend first part “getting to know him as a person” which means all of the above except work. Second part will be work questions. Any actual business will be conducted after the entree.

No one really wants to mentor. They are doing the parents a favor as the parents aren't willing to help him out and passing it on to someone else.