How many kids is feasible for female atty?
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Anonymous
| About negative three. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
My husbands co worker has an au pair for her teenagers. |
Anonymous
| I’m a female attorney. I have 2 kids. I have 2 female colleagues with 4 kids, and another with 3 kids. One woman just had her first child. The rest of us have 2 kids or 0 kids. No idea if any of that is by choice or just how things have worked out. |
Anonymous
| Curious what you mean when you say most female attorneys have one or none? Most of my friends (also lawyers as am I) have 2-3 kids and busy careers, though we have transitioned from firms to in-house or government….at least those of us that had 3 have. It’s totally doable. I also don’t know why lawyers get singled out over other professionals…we aren’t all that special, especially if you’re not trying to bill 3000 hours. But if you are at a crazy high billable requirement place, you may want to rethink where you want to be anyway, whether you have 1 kid or none. |
Anonymous
You just tell whoever is pressuring you to have children to mind their own business unless it's your husband. If you knew prior to marriage that he wanted more than one child then you have a dilemma. |
Anonymous
A teenager who can't take care of themselves and who needs an au pair has parents who have failed the most important aspect of parenting that of teaching your child to be independent! |
Anonymous
So the 13 and 15 year old are driving themselves home from tennis practice at 7pm? Really? Teens still need caring adults around to help them out sometimes, even if they are independent. |
Anonymous
Your parents unfortunately failed to teach you critical thinking skills! The au pair is probably there to drive the kids to afterschool activities and help with cooking/laundry. |
Anonymous
Obviously snark and not empathy is PP's strong suit. As other posters have mentioned, the level of support is very important, if you have gparents nearby who are available to do childcare is very different vs you having to solely rely on paid caregivers. So bottom line do what works best for your family whether its 1, 2 ,3 or more kids and take what others say with a huge heaping of salt. |
Anonymous
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As a lawyer, OP should know the answer is “it depends.”
I stopped at one with no regrets. |
Anonymous
| Do we actually believe the person who wrote the op is an attorney?? |
Anonymous
The female attorneys I know have: C= 3 children A= 1 child S= 2 children P= 3 children D= 0 children R= 2 children K= 3 children C= 2 children A= 4 children T= 0 children M= 2 children That's an average of 2 children, which is pretty average in this country. Of the attorneys I know, fewer than 30% have zero or one child, so a far cry from "most." I left these statistics above, but they really don't matter. You need to do what I right for you and your family. One child, two children, or 22 children. You do you. |
Anonymous
| One of the moms in my kid’s preschool class is a big law partner. She has 4 kids. Their nanny transitioned into a full-time housekeeper and also cooks for the family. They have the full gamut of other hired help too. |
Anonymous
| I'm a legal secretary and every female attorney I've worked with has had anywhere between zero and five kids. The ones who have four and five kids also have high earning husbands, and hired help. |