Vision board for wedding guest attire, how to interpret?

[Anonymous]

I would ask the bride if one of your cocktail dresses would be okay and if not, RSVP no and wish them well. Don’t buy a new dress for one wedding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
https://thekit.ca/weddings/wedding-trends/wedding-guest-dressing-mood-board/

Apparently it’s helpful. Haha

Huh my bad. I was the person who googled who said it was not a thing. Those people are terrible. like, really really terrible.

If you are a woman over 45 there is literally nothing you can wear from three of the kit boards linked above.
I have no idea what a 60 year old Grandma would wear.

I am a 51 y o woman, and I own a tuxedo. Anyone who is getting too precious about their wedding dress code gets me in a tuxedo. If I am feeling especially nice, I’ll color coordinate my pocket square.

(The reason I have a tux is that at one point my husband had to attend multiple black tie events for work, and I wanted to see the people but didn’t feel like spending all that money and energy on my outfits).

[Anonymous]

Weddings used to be about the commitment and having family and friends to celebrate.

Now it is about the instagram.

[Anonymous]

If I got an invite like this, I'd think one of two things:

1. Bride is trying to be helpful by letting people see examples of what to wear/the formality of the event.

or

2. Bride wants her wedding photos to look a magazine spread by dictating what guests wear so photos can look cohesive/styled.

Because it's a family member, I'd do what a pp suggested and buy something cheap - maybe start by looking in thrift stores first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't send a gift. This relationship will be over in 2, maybe 3 years max. She wants a picture perfect wedding, not a marriage.

This!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
https://thekit.ca/weddings/wedding-trends/wedding-guest-dressing-mood-board/

Apparently it’s helpful. Haha

Oh, hell no. Op, wear your cocktail dress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You either bail or you wear what you were planning to wear.

I just googled this (wedding vision boards sent to guests) and it's not a thing. So your bride is a nutcase and doesn't deserve anyone enabling her.

Op here, I googled it too before posting, to see how to respond and if it was a new trend to ask your guests to match. I found this, which interestingly are the same colors on my cousin's mood board:
https://www.zazzle.com/wedding_guest_attire_card_with_color_palette-256884400863425906

So, if that card is the same colors it looks like jewel tones - green, blue, purple. The request itself is insane but at least those are flattering colors on most people. Since you’re 5’2” I’d look online and filter by floor length dresses and petite size range. That’s only if you feel like it. You would be fine to ignore the request and just wear your cocktail dress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just went to a wedding like this. We had two assigned colors- gray and light blue. But it was also black tie, so I don’t get that one. I mean a gray tux? Dh has one tux and it’s black.

I can’t stand brides like this. Do whatever you want with the wedding but stay away from guest attire. You only get to control your bridesmaid colors. Maybe your mom or mother in laws dress colors.

x100000

Beyond rude. The whole wedding as a sideshow truly has come to a head. Dictating what guests wear? I mean, who are you hanging out with or related to, that you have to tell them "no jeans"?? Is this a wedding or something else, that you have to tell your guests what colors or type of dress?? Why are photos of what the guests wear even important to you in the slightest - you are supposed to be getting married - not trying to control what everyone on the guest list wears.

Other PP who stated that the time of day, and the time of year dictates how your guests dress. That is it. Period.

These kinds of brides are more inappropriate than anything anyone could possibly be wearing. Wow. Just wow.

Most of these weddings are one giant photo op. Went to a bridezilla style bridal shower over the weekend. This particular bride has been planning this wedding for so long, I feel like it will need come to an end... I just received the invitation and 1/2 of me is afraid to open it for fear there will be "Vision board"... lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You either bail or you wear what you were planning to wear.

I just googled this (wedding vision boards sent to guests) and it's not a thing. So your bride is a nutcase and doesn't deserve anyone enabling her.

Op here, I googled it too before posting, to see how to respond and if it was a new trend to ask your guests to match. I found this, which interestingly are the same colors on my cousin's mood board:
https://www.zazzle.com/wedding_guest_attire_card_with_color_palette-256884400863425906

OMG. "The Vibe"???

I can't take this, lol.

Here's the thing, OP. I'm guessing that if you follow that mood board thing, and bother to buy -- I don't know, a floor length amethyst colored gown or some sh!t -- you will be one of only a few who bothered to do that. Just wear a cocktail dress. You are on the receiving end of some next-level nonsense. Perhaps this was inevitable with the rise of Insta, but it is not good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You either bail or you wear what you were planning to wear.

I just googled this (wedding vision boards sent to guests) and it's not a thing. So your bride is a nutcase and doesn't deserve anyone enabling her.

Op here, I googled it too before posting, to see how to respond and if it was a new trend to ask your guests to match. I found this, which interestingly are the same colors on my cousin's mood board:
https://www.zazzle.com/wedding_guest_attire_card_with_color_palette-256884400863425906

OMG. "The Vibe"???

I can't take this, lol.

Here's the thing, OP. I'm guessing that if you follow that mood board thing, and bother to buy -- I don't know, a floor length amethyst colored gown or some sh!t -- you will be one of only a few who bothered to do that. Just wear a cocktail dress. You are on the receiving end of some next-level nonsense. Perhaps this was inevitable with the rise of Insta, but it is not good.

Ugh, I'm this PP. Why did I get fooled into commenting on a long-dead thread?