Ladies, at what age did you realize that you need to drastically reduce portion size?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 44, and my 46yo sister and I have embraced what we call “Size 10 Livin’.” This is where you do exercise, you do try to eat healthfully, you do pay attention to your portion sizes…but you also live. You also enjoy yourself. You are healthy, but your goal is not to be “slim” or “skinny,” just str
ong and healthy, enjoying life.

Hmm I do this and wear size 2.

“Hmm,” OK? I’m 5’11 and my sister is 5’10. If you are a better person because you are a size 2, that’s great. I think my sister is the best person I know: she and her husband fostered and later adopted a girl who really need a home, and she is a grief counselor and a hospital chaplain. I really admire her, who she is, and what she does. I’m also proud that we both at one point held state swimming records. You sound great, though, what with your insistence on trying to make total strangers feel inferior to you based simply on their size.

Being 5'11 and 5'10 does not mean you have to be a size 10. Do you think Giselle Bunchen wears a size 10 just because she is tall? My point is that if you're actually exercising, eating healthfully, paying attention to portion sizes and enjoying life, you do not have to resign yourself to being a size 10. If you're comfortable with that, great! I would not be comfortable at that size. I had to buy size 10 jeans when I was in the early post partum phase and I did not like how I looked and felt at that size.

You seem weirdly defensive though.

Are you slow? The whole point is I AM comfortable at a size 10. So I guess we’re at “great” and not “but don’t you want to be like ME”? IDGAF what size you are or what size you are comfortable with. I’m living my life. You should get a life.

Are you though? If you felt so great about you and your sister being size 10s you wouldn’t have felt so motivated to post about what great people you both are.

[Anonymous]

My mother has remained thin all her life, which she likes to remind everyone.

She’s also a narcissist, crazy, forgetful, thinks she’s a medical professional despite not being a nurse for 40 years, and puts down anyone she thinks is lesser than her. Oh, and of course she’s a wonderful Christian woman.

You can imagine how many friends she has…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 44, and my 46yo sister and I have embraced what we call “Size 10 Livin’.” This is where you do exercise, you do try to eat healthfully, you do pay attention to your portion sizes…but you also live. You also enjoy yourself. You are healthy, but your goal is not to be “slim” or “skinny,” just str
ong and healthy, enjoying life.

Hmm I do this and wear size 2.

“Hmm,” OK? I’m 5’11 and my sister is 5’10. If you are a better person because you are a size 2, that’s great. I think my sister is the best person I know: she and her husband fostered and later adopted a girl who really need a home, and she is a grief counselor and a hospital chaplain. I really admire her, who she is, and what she does. I’m also proud that we both at one point held state swimming records. You sound great, though, what with your insistence on trying to make total strangers feel inferior to you based simply on their size.

Being 5'11 and 5'10 does not mean you have to be a size 10. Do you think Giselle Bunchen wears a size 10 just because she is tall? My point is that if you're actually exercising, eating healthfully, paying attention to portion sizes and enjoying life, you do not have to resign yourself to being a size 10. If you're comfortable with that, great! I would not be comfortable at that size. I had to buy size 10 jeans when I was in the early post partum phase and I did not like how I looked and felt at that size.

You seem weirdly defensive though.

Are you slow? The whole point is I AM comfortable at a size 10. So I guess we’re at “great” and not “but don’t you want to be like ME”? IDGAF what size you are or what size you are comfortable with. I’m living my life. You should get a life.

Are you though? If you felt so great about you and your sister being size 10s you wouldn’t have felt so motivated to post about what great people you both are.

I posted about me and my sister, and how we feel good about exercising, eating healthfully, but not obsessing. I was on topic. I answered the question OP posed. And then someone else came along and tried to act like she was better than me because she “does the same thing and is a size 2.” Mean Girl behavior. If you don’t want to get called out as a Mean Girl, don’t act like one. Stay on-topic, and speak for yourself.

It’s that simple.

[Anonymous]

This describes my entire life. I wasn't diagnosed with a metabolic disorder until 39.

[Anonymous]

CICO is the rule. serving (vs portion) sizes in this country are out of control.

[Anonymous]

I probably need to do better now. A year ago I had to get weighed for the first time in a long time and found my weight had creeped up from 137 to 148. I am super active and I was still wearing same size clothes as the smaller weight. But I can tell a puffiness set in.

Now I’ve stopped drinking and my diet isn’t terrible and the scale hasn’t budged. I am hanging out at 146/147 and can’t get it to move. It’s really frustrating. I thought getting rid of the extra alcohol calories would help but things seems stuck.

But I know my face is thinner and my clothes do feel loser.

I hate tracking calories and using the scale. So I’m just trying to figure out what I want to do from here.

[Anonymous]

I like the size 10 living poster.

I did start watching portion size around 45. I ate whatever, never exercised, and was a size 0-4 most of my life. That all changed at 45 or so. But I just can’t be the person that gives up gluten or dairy or sugar or whatever just to remain thin. I try to eat a lot of veggies every day, and reasonable portions, stay reasonably active, and bought a bunch of new pants (size 10!). That’s my happy medium.

For instance, we went out to brunch today. In my old life, I would have gotten the banana pecan pancakes, but the menu said they were 1200 calories!! So I went with the avocado toast with poached eggs and a side of strawberries for 700 calories. But I’m not gojng to get the plain poached eggs with a side of spinach or whatever would be the 300 calorie option.

I feel like these threads always devolve because there are a few people that insist the menopause in no way changed their metabolism and then at least one that suggests that everyone can achieve that. I think it’s just hard to predict how age will affect your metabolism and when. For most of us, there is definitely a change, and then you just have to figure out how much you’re willing to change your past habits in order to maintain your health and/or your prior pants size. For me, I’m trying to focus on health and not worry about my pants size (but am irritated that it’s now so hard to find decent made pants!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I probably need to do better now. A year ago I had to get weighed for the first time in a long time and found my weight had creeped up from 137 to 148. I am super active and I was still wearing same size clothes as the smaller weight. But I can tell a puffiness set in.

Now I’ve stopped drinking and my diet isn’t terrible and the scale hasn’t budged. I am hanging out at 146/147 and can’t get it to move. It’s really frustrating. I thought getting rid of the extra alcohol calories would help but things seems stuck.

But I know my face is thinner and my clothes do feel loser.

I hate tracking calories and using the scale. So I’m just trying to figure out what I want to do from here.

Forgot to add I’m 5’5 and I have worn size 6 and small this whole time. I was once around 125 but settled into 135 after kids.

[Anonymous]

Every body is different. But I actually need way more protein and iron by my mid forties so have had to increase red meat (3x week) & cook with cast iron.

Had to decrease granola bars, breads, cereals.

Already eating alot of nuts, seeds, fruits, veggies.

Never a big cheese eater but eat full fat yogurt (fage) a few times a week.

-active 45 yo mom of three young boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every body is different. But I actually need way more protein and iron by my mid forties so have had to increase red meat (3x week) & cook with cast iron.

Had to decrease granola bars, breads, cereals.

Already eating alot of nuts, seeds, fruits, veggies.

Never a big cheese eater but eat full fat yogurt (fage) a few times a week.

-active 45 yo mom of three young boys.

How does cast iron help?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every body is different. But I actually need way more protein and iron by my mid forties so have had to increase red meat (3x week) & cook with cast iron.

Had to decrease granola bars, breads, cereals.

Already eating alot of nuts, seeds, fruits, veggies.

Never a big cheese eater but eat full fat yogurt (fage) a few times a week.

-active 45 yo mom of three young boys.

How does cast iron help?

The iron seeps into the food. I thought that was super weird but someone recommended it when I was anemic and I think it did help. Decreasing use of cast iron over time has been linked (association obviously not causation, but still controlled for many factors) with rising anemia (population level). Strange but true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every body is different. But I actually need way more protein and iron by my mid forties so have had to increase red meat (3x week) & cook with cast iron.

Had to decrease granola bars, breads, cereals.

Already eating alot of nuts, seeds, fruits, veggies.

Never a big cheese eater but eat full fat yogurt (fage) a few times a week.

-active 45 yo mom of three young boys.

Serious question, how can you tell you need more protein and iron ?

[Anonymous]

Does this happen to everyone or just some people? And is it independent of activity?

I’m 42 and I didn’t know this was around the corner

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does this happen to everyone or just some people? And is it independent of activity?

I’m 42 and I didn’t know this was around the corner

Keep up your muscles; that will help a lot

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every body is different. But I actually need way more protein and iron by my mid forties so have had to increase red meat (3x week) & cook with cast iron.

Had to decrease granola bars, breads, cereals.

Already eating alot of nuts, seeds, fruits, veggies.

Never a big cheese eater but eat full fat yogurt (fage) a few times a week.

-active 45 yo mom of three young boys.

How does cast iron help?

The iron seeps into the food. I thought that was super weird but someone recommended it when I was anemic and I think it did help. Decreasing use of cast iron over time has been linked (association obviously not causation, but still controlled for many factors) with rising anemia (population level). Strange but true.

I read that men can easily get too much iron, and that they should consider not using cast iron pans for this reason.