3-Strike Rule Between Friends Too? Rude to Text Again?

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Anonymous wrote:Bumping for more advice from the Williamsburg poster, it sounds like they have much wisdom to offer others. How do you handle a breakup, for instance? Do you take the person to Jamestown or Plymouth rock?


I’m cutting and pasting from another thread, but I think this might be the same poster:

“… a simple way to solve it may be getting them out in the countryside, doesn’t matter if its private property or not and getting them to explain their concerns right there and then. If all else fails, getting your hair cut very short (professionally) couldn’t hurt.”
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Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry, OP. That hurts, I know. Sending you a big hug and hoping your new year is filled with deep friendships and love.


+1

I got ghosted by a friend this year, too, unexpectedly, and it still makes me sad. Focusing on other friendships has helped a ton. Hang in there.


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I’ve had this happen with 3 friends over the last 20 years. The first one was pre-iPhone so I didn’t text but called her weekly leaving messages. I let her know I missed her and to please let me know if I had done something wrong. Crickets. It hurt deeply as she was a very close friend at the time. We saw each other several times a month with our babies and had long phone calls multiple times a week. I spent too much time pursuing it and felt stupid and stalkerish in the end. Years later I determined it had zero to do with me. The 2nd time was with someone I had been friends with for 20 years and she was the mom of my son’s best friend. She did the slow fade which in some ways was more difficult because i was getting mixed messages. She would reply she was checking her schedule and then never get back to me. If she did, she’d give me a date and then cancel. The fact she occasionally responded made me feel like she was interested but I finally got the message. I stopped texting and haven’t heard from her in 2 years though oddly enough she comments on my FB posts to this day. The last one I dealt with better. We’d been friends a few years but COVID in 2020 canceled our last set of plans. She stopped texting and just to be sure she wasn’t experiencing a personal crisis I reached out but then let it go. I was proud of myself for moving on but I have to say it still hurts whenever I think of these friendships ending with no closure.


I feel sort of proud of you too, PP, for letting it go.
I also feel like three friends ghosting me—even over a period of twenty years—would have me doing a lot of re-evaluation of my own interactions. Is this really a thing that happens three separate times?


I thought the same thing, but couldn’t find a way to phrase it nicely. There is one common denominator in all three scenarios…


I don’t se any red flags in PP’s post. She’s open and self-reflective and very measured in the way she talks about what happened. But I can’t say the same for you and PP, who were inclined towards unkindness.


DP and ITA. This site never surprises. So many of you aren’t trolls - you’re just at your core mean, and generally deliberately so. It’s not subtle and it intimidated and/or impresses no one.
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Anonymous wrote:Williamsburg can heal people? Why?


Omg. What?


Omg? oYg. Let's review gang. I happened to take a friend who was ghosting me left right and center on a sudden trip to Williamsburg VA. Although we didn't speak on the way down not one word when we got to the historic area, seeing all the people in costumes with candle making exhibits just changed everything. We literally could not stop talking. No more ghosting, problem solved. YMMV.



Not one word? Not even "let me the fcuk out of this car you psycho"?
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Get in loser; we're going shopping in colonial Williamsburg.
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