If your husband is flirty with other women

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Anonymous wrote:My wife always think women are flirting with me but I don't see it? How do I know if a woman is flirting with me while my way is standing right next to me?

Is she focusing on just you, not making eye contact with your wife

My DH is hot, and thinks it’s funny to call women out for this. Example, other woman will say something like wow you’re so interesting! He’ll pull me in front of her and say you know whose interesting, my lovely wife, have you met her? When he knows we met. He thinks making other women uncomfortable is funny. And I find it hot he wants to stake his claim to me

Meh, its kind of obnoxious.

I'm extroverted and friendly, and have often had people think I'm flirting with them when I'm 100% not. It would super weird if anyone ever did that mid-conversation, and tbh, it would be pretty embarassing for them

Yea he is actually trying be obnoxious! That’s the point! 😂 To deflect your attention

As another hot guy (at least according to my beautiful wife) women are always flirting with me. I don't notice it. When we are among friends with the other dads some of the wives I feel like dress me down sometimes. But I think it could be all in my head lol

The obnoxious part is him thinking that anyone that talks to him is flirting with him.

If he doesn’t want her attention, he doesn’t want her attention. No one is entitled to talk to a hot guy while ignoring his wife who is right there. Strike a nerve with you?

[Anonymous]

Is your wife flirty with other men? Ladies do you flirt with other men? If yes, why?

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I have a guy friend like this and mainly I’m just embarrassed for him. He has a gorgeous wife he loves and they have two kids but he just keeps the bordering-on-sexual innuendo going all the time. It’s not quite as bad as the PP described her DH up thread but it’s too suggestive. He’s a great guy otherwise but in my opinion just immature.

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I am a guy and I would think a woman would kind of feel special if other women are flirting with her hubby. People don't flirt with Non-interesting people so your hubby must be interesting No?

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99.999% of flirting don't end up in hook ups. So flirting is okay.

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From another perspective, my dad was always flirtatious and inappropriate with other women and it was absolutely mortifying for me. I noticed it from a very young age and it felt uncomfortable and confusing and created some issues with healthy boundaries and relationships for me in my teenage years. Eventually, the behaviors escalated and he cheated with a few close family friends and had a rather lengthy affair with one of my elementary school teachers.

I would not be okay with my spouse doing this and absolutely would never allow that behavior around my children.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife always think women are flirting with me but I don't see it? How do I know if a woman is flirting with me while my way is standing right next to me?

Is she focusing on just you, not making eye contact with your wife

My DH is hot, and thinks it’s funny to call women out for this. Example, other woman will say something like wow you’re so interesting! He’ll pull me in front of her and say you know whose interesting, my lovely wife, have you met her? When he knows we met. He thinks making other women uncomfortable is funny. And I find it hot he wants to stake his claim to me

Meh, its kind of obnoxious.

I'm extroverted and friendly, and have often had people think I'm flirting with them when I'm 100% not. It would super weird if anyone ever did that mid-conversation, and tbh, it would be pretty embarassing for them

Yea he is actually trying be obnoxious! That’s the point! 😂 To deflect your attention

The obnoxious part is him thinking that anyone that talks to him is flirting with him.

If he doesn’t want her attention, he doesn’t want her attention. No one is entitled to talk to a hot guy while ignoring his wife who is right there. Strike a nerve with you?

Yeah, I guess it does, to be honest.

Bc I'm a guy. And there have been multiple times in my life where woman have gently (and sometimes not so gently) "I have a boyfriend." or "Sorry, I'm married", when I wasn't even remotely flirting with them.

But who goes to a party and gets offended when someone mingles and chats? And I would be super annoyed if I was chatting with a person at a party and they said "oh, a man is talking to me, let me physically pull my husband in (bc I'm so arrogant that any man that talks to me is clearly flirting with me)"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I always found it strange when married men flirted with me. I think some people just do this automatically. Like I don't even think they're interested in me, it's just what they do because they think it's charming or they always are showcasing their sexuality to everyone they meet or it's a way to get attention. I have known both men and women who do this. I don't know if they cheat more often, but I imagine they get offers so they probably do.

You point about flirters showcasing their sexuality is an interesting one (rather than it being about the object of the flirting).

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Anonymous wrote:My wife always think women are flirting with me but I don't see it? How do I know if a woman is flirting with me while my way is standing right next to me?

Is she focusing on just you, not making eye contact with your wife

This. Focusing intensely on you, purposefully excluding anyone else even if you try to draw another person into the conversation, trying to slowly draw you away from the crowd. That’s the rude, harmful type of flirting.

Harmful flirting is like porn. Hard to describe but you know it when you see it.

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Anonymous wrote:99.999% of flirting don't end up in hook ups. So flirting is okay.

Do you have some stats and research to back that up, or is this just your wishful thinking?

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Anonymous wrote:From another perspective, my dad was always flirtatious and inappropriate with other women and it was absolutely mortifying for me. I noticed it from a very young age and it felt uncomfortable and confusing and created some issues with healthy boundaries and relationships for me in my teenage years. Eventually, the behaviors escalated and he cheated with a few close family friends and had a rather lengthy affair with one of my elementary school teachers.

I would not be okay with my spouse doing this and absolutely would never allow that behavior around my children.

Same for my FIL. He also eventually cheated, and all his kids knew about it. One adult child lost all respect for him up until he died, and my spouse still harbors resentment for what their dad put their mother through.

I find flirting in front of your spouse extremely disrespectful.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife always think women are flirting with me but I don't see it? How do I know if a woman is flirting with me while my way is standing right next to me?

Is she focusing on just you, not making eye contact with your wife

My DH is hot, and thinks it’s funny to call women out for this. Example, other woman will say something like wow you’re so interesting! He’ll pull me in front of her and say you know whose interesting, my lovely wife, have you met her? When he knows we met. He thinks making other women uncomfortable is funny. And I find it hot he wants to stake his claim to me

You both have issues for getting your jollies by trying to embarrass others. Maybe your husband really is interesting, and she is just observing g that. But I guess in addition to being weirdos, neither you nor your husband himself, in fact, think he is interesting.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife always think women are flirting with me but I don't see it? How do I know if a woman is flirting with me while my way is standing right next to me?

Is she focusing on just you, not making eye contact with your wife

My DH is hot, and thinks it’s funny to call women out for this. Example, other woman will say something like wow you’re so interesting! He’ll pull me in front of her and say you know whose interesting, my lovely wife, have you met her? When he knows we met. He thinks making other women uncomfortable is funny. And I find it hot he wants to stake his claim to me

You both have issues for getting your jollies by trying to embarrass others. Maybe your husband really is interesting, and she is just observing g that. But I guess in addition to being weirdos, neither you nor your husband himself, in fact, think he is interesting.

I have to agree with first PP here. If you have your claws out to try to reign in someone else's DH, you deserve to be embarrassed - public embarrassment? Even better! If you go after (even if you don't admit it) someone else's DH - there is nothing to stop one or both members of that couple warning near and far about your uncouth behaviors. Again, you are asking for it. Flirt away! Let the whole community know what a two bit wh*re you are!

I am sure your DH doesn't care who you flirt with, but the entire community gonna care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a guy friend like this and mainly I’m just embarrassed for him. He has a gorgeous wife he loves and they have two kids but he just keeps the bordering-on-sexual innuendo going all the time. It’s not quite as bad as the PP described her DH up thread but it’s too suggestive. He’s a great guy otherwise but in my opinion just immature.

Mommy and daddy did not give him enough attention. RUN.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife always think women are flirting with me but I don't see it? How do I know if a woman is flirting with me while my way is standing right next to me?

Is she focusing on just you, not making eye contact with your wife

My DH is hot, and thinks it’s funny to call women out for this. Example, other woman will say something like wow you’re so interesting! He’ll pull me in front of her and say you know whose interesting, my lovely wife, have you met her? When he knows we met. He thinks making other women uncomfortable is funny. And I find it hot he wants to stake his claim to me

Meh, its kind of obnoxious.

I'm extroverted and friendly, and have often had people think I'm flirting with them when I'm 100% not. It would super weird if anyone ever did that mid-conversation, and tbh, it would be pretty embarassing for them

Yea he is actually trying be obnoxious! That’s the point! 😂 To deflect your attention

The obnoxious part is him thinking that anyone that talks to him is flirting with him.

If he doesn’t want her attention, he doesn’t want her attention. No one is entitled to talk to a hot guy while ignoring his wife who is right there. Strike a nerve with you?

Yeah, I guess it does, to be honest.

Bc I'm a guy. And there have been multiple times in my life where woman have gently (and sometimes not so gently) "I have a boyfriend." or "Sorry, I'm married", when I wasn't even remotely flirting with them.

But who goes to a party and gets offended when someone mingles and chats? And I would be super annoyed if I was chatting with a person at a party and they said "oh, a man is talking to me, let me physically pull my husband in (bc I'm so arrogant that any man that talks to me is clearly flirting with me)"

Welp. Time to move further down your list to plan X and Y - how many times you been married, that you are trying to interfere with others?